My girlfriend has a history of cheating...what do I do?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend bravely admitted to me that she has a history of cheating on the guys she dates, but that she doesn't want to ruin things with me. Everyone tells me to be careful, but I see an entirely different side to her, as she expresses her strong feelings for me that she hasn't felt for anyone else before. She's honest about everything and wants me to know her past flaws so that she won't repeat them. She has shown me time and time again how much she cares about me, but still a lot of people tell me to be careful. How do I come across this?

[soa88]

Do you have a valid reason not to trust her right now? If not--then just trust her. She told you straight up that she cheated previously. It takes a strong person to admit there flaws to someone. You can't be so judgmental. Maybe you are the one guy who will change that--and she will never find a reason to cheat because she is happy with you. Would you have rather found out that she lied about cheating before? Either way--go with your instincts. Knowing her past flaws and repeating them with them are two different things, remember that. If she has done it repeatedly, it is her, not you. I have found many woman cheat because they are too scared to have an emotional bond or they just have the opportunity. Sounds to me like she is trying to get that emotional bond with you--give it a shot! Good Luck!

[desidoll]

She admitted about her past and history which means she is being honest to you.The truth might hurt or make your trust on her lesser but you need to know that people can change.I don't think she will tell you the truth if she is still a cheater.Don't listen to the people around you unless if they have proof that she is still the same person.

[Asker]

She left another guy to be with me...how do I know she won't do the same to me?

[desidoll]

Did she break up with him before being with you or cheating on him for you? Plus you need to know what is her reason for breaking up with him.

[Asker]

She says they weren't together, but everyone else says they were. And ya, she was with him the first time we went out. I don't know much about they're relationship other than she claims he took her on a few dates but there was nothing there.

[desidoll]

Perhaps they were just dating but not in a relationship? Since you don't have any proof of which one is true so no matter what are her reasons yeah you should give her a chance to change but still you need to be aware.Not accusing but just a reminder.Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she has changed and doesn't want to mess thigns up with you, people can change and the fact that she was women enough to tell you about her past history speaks well of her.People probably have told you about her to becareful becasue of her past. But I think she deserves a chance and you should trust her.

[Asker]

That was extremely profound. Thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem and best of luck to you.

[WoIIie]

One thing that never changes is a person's character. It doesn't matter how much she tells you she's changing her ways or how long it's been since she last cheated. The fact is, she cheated... mutiple times with guys just like you who put their trust in her. She's not loyal and clearly she's good at manipulating guys. That's in her character.

You can believe what she tells you at your own risk. Just don't be surprised if she acts like the person she warned you about in a moment of weakness. Those moments happen often and you're crazy to think she'll never relapse.

[xondatkushx]

There's really nothing you do but to trust her and be alert...