Can you ever get over someone who broke your heart twice?

[Anonymous]

My best lad friend has just had his heart broken twice by a girl in the space of a month. Will he ever get over her or this?

[MooneyBravo]

I sort of agree with Quad73 below. We grow a shell alright. It's called maturity. When we place expectations on anything especially people, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. Your friend needs to get over it and move on. This girl that broke his heart is not the last angel on earth. If a woman were to break up with me, my first reaction would be that there is someone out there for me who is a better match. The other rule that I live by is once a woman breaks it off with me, the door is shut and there's no going back. People that break up and then get back together are showing signs of codependency and are not really sure what they want. People do this all the time. They break up and they spend a little time alone. When they can't find the right mate and are uncomfortable with being alone, they run back to their old dates.

This is a bad idea.

Pass this on to him. There's a "free" E-Book out there called

The Laws of Dating by Mike Tucker

scribd.com/doc/19065669/Laws-of-Dating-by-Mike-Tucker

I'm 53 and even I learned some things that I wish I knew when I was younger. I would have saved myself a lot of heartache.

[stubbsy]

To allow the same girl to do it twice is stupid, so probably not, because if he was daft enough to let her do it again, he will let her do it again and again.

[Asker]

why do people do this?

[stubbsy]

I don't know, for me, if they were happy to callapse my world while in it, then the new one I build has no place for them, so why would anyone rebuild and have it crumble again is beyond me,x

[dominatingkelly]

he'll, with time, get over this and move on on the surface, but he'll probably never forget/get over this particular girl. on the bright side though, each heart break really does make the next a bit easier to get over, and he'll really appreciate that with time.

[Markezzo]

Rejection is a natural part of life. He's unlikely to ever forget about it and move on completely. It's up to him to decide if he will become stronger from this, or if he will turn bitter about it for some time. Most people don't enjoy being bitter so he should eventually get over it I'm sure. Until then just keep on being a supportive friend.

[Quadrophonic73]

Eventually he'll learn not to trust women and develop a hard shell like the rest of us, then he'll seem OK.