After 7 Months of No Contact, We spoke Yesterday

[Anonymous]

Yup, we chatted through instant message yesterday for about 2 hours non stop. I'm not sure how I feel about it. I loved this girl so much and she loved me too. More than I've ever loved anyone. We had to end things because she needed to move north far far away to give her kids a better life..she just couldn't do it here so I understand about that. That problem is I was after 7 months I was finally starting to be really over her. I could think about her and not get upset anymore. it was a few months before I could do that and get rid of the obsessive thinking. Yesterday when we chatted was so nice, it made me so happy to hear from her again. I really thought we would never speak to each other again.

But now I'm starting to regret it. As much as I liked it it has brought so many feelings back with it. I've been thinking about her a lot since yesterday again, and last night I thought about her I was able to put myself (in my mind) back in time like nothing has changed. It was weird. It was like we were dating just last week. All the memories came flooding back. It made me extremely sad. and when I woke up she was the first thing on my mind. ughh.

I know if I want to move on and forget about her the only way to do that is to break all contact FOR GOOD. The problem is I don't want that. I want to stay in contact with her. Like, right now I'm dying to just said her a message saying "hey" I'm not 100% sure how she feels but I know missing each other badly is mutual. Life just sucks sometimes. I'd appreciate and kind of response even if it's not helpful just so I know someone was listening... Thanks :(

[Anonymous]

I ended no contact today and much like you said, So many feelings came rushing back. I'm happy he and I talked, But then I feel like all the strength it took, And all the hard work I put into staying away is all gone to waste and done in vain. It was such a struggle for me. I mean, I'm happy, So very happy we were able to chat, I just, Am thinking of him a lot, Too much, And I feel sad too because I miss him, And I wish I were with him right now.

I too know what I have to do to fully get over him, But I don't want to not talk to him either.

I know I'm not in a place to give you advice, But I just wanted to say, Take it slow, Okay?

There is nothing that I want more than to tell him I want to see him, But my head is telling me not to rush things.

I'm miss him so much that I cannot be mad at him, But we had to part for a reason. You and she had to part For A Reason. Don't lose sight of that...

***I Wish You The Best***

[Asker]

Thanks, It's just so hard. I've never been more sad about anything in my life and I really don't know what to do about it. like I said I was getting better and pretty much fine until we spoke 2 days ago. I know you're in the same position so what do we do? It's so hard because all I want to do I just talk to her, even if I shouldn't. I feel like there's so much more I want to tell her... I don't want to lose contact. I hate this more than anything... Hope you're doing OK too :)

[Erica2u]

not sure how trying to forget someone you loved that much work. after my 1st boyfriend breaking up with me for 3.5 months now, I still feel hurt when I saw he's flirting with other girls on Facebook. He is totally cut me off now just how sad it is when we were on the same bus stop but he would pretend that I wasn't exit there even tho I said hi and stood beside him. Really wanted to talk with him but he is a stranger/or he acts like one to me :(

[mademoiselle_lexie]

It's so unfortunate when you care about someone, they care about you and then life tears you apart.

I'm sorry this happened to you but there are other girls with whom you might have a less complicated and happy relationship since the girl you care about now has kids and has to put them first.

Hang in there. If you could do it for 7 months you can do it again!