What does "clear my head" actually mean??

[Anonymous]

I was seeing this guy for 2 months. He is recently divorced (w/in past year) and has told me he would try again if his ex wanted. We had sort of a fight about 2 months ago, but have texted several times since. This last time I asked if we could hang out again and he said that he wasn't gonna say we couldn't but that he had to get his head cleared up. But he continued to "flirt" in the texts after this comment. Is there really a chance we will get back together or should I just try to forget about him. I really like him and we have a lot of fun together, and he says the same thing.

[Jellyfish]

Let him clear his head. I think it actually means, clear his head. He's doesn't know what he wants and he has to figure this out. Don't communicate with him for 3 or four weeks, unless he contacts you. All this time alone he can clear his head and in the mean-time he will start thinking about what he's missing, he will start to remember all the good times and all the good things he liked about you. You have to let him pursue you.

For now, you work on forgetting about him. He might not be over his ex, or at least the impact his ex had on his life. But if he comes back to you then you know youve won him over.

[palek]

From what you say, it seems clear that his heart still belongs to his ex, and he seems to be telling you this loud and clear when he tells you that he would go back to her if she would have him. At the very least, I would say that he needs time to work through the aftermath of his divorce. If I were you, I'd bow out of his life, and give him room. Resume living your life without him in it, and see if he has a change of heart down the road. You need for him to want to make you a priority in his life. Otherwise you're probably just in for a lot of heartache. All the best.