How can I get a guy back after acting needy after the first date?

[Anonymous]

After the first date, I didn't hear from him for 4 days so I called/texted him constantly and said it seemed like he led me on and we argued about that and I ended up calling him names. By that time, he stopped answering all my texts/calls. I ended up going to his house apologizing for the second time and that I was going through some major problems in my life, which is why I lashed out on him. He accepted my apology, so I left. I feel bad for what happened. Can I still get another chance with this guy in the future? We go to the same university and have the same friends at school. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the guy. With me? No. You'd be gone after that. Like you never existed, but is there a chance? Of course, there is always a chance. I'm willing to bet this guy isn't as jaded and cruel as me, because he accepted your apology, and didn't call the cops when you showed up at his door. Just take it easy. Sort out your life problems. Then think about a relationship. If you can't live with yourself how can you expect someone to live with you?

Also, one call (no voice mail, unless it's important) and/or one text... no response? wait it out... if you have a chance. He'll respond eventually.

PS be sure to add something like "hey whenever you get this" or "sorry to bug you". It'll help ease into the conversation.

[Asker]

You mean call or text to say hi? It's been several days since I apologized.

[Asker]

Wouldn't he think I'm acting needy again or stalkerish if I contact him?

[Anonymous]

" I didn't hear from him for 4 days so I called/texted him constantly and said it seemed like he led me on" how does that even make sense? from your wording, it sounds like he didn't hear from you for 4 days either, but he still didn't complain about being led on...sometimes you gotta put yourself in their shoes. but regardless, you just have to ask him out and if he will give you another chance

[Anonymous]

ignore him. the damage has been done. you already look desperate and crazy, this guy isn't going to want you back for anything good. he'll either politely ignore you, tell everyone that this stalker chick is on his d***, or try to use you for a hook up.

[waynef21]

That to me is like hitting your own self destruct button for this guy... give it up, if he does give you another chance, it'll probably be a booty call chance and nothing more... why bother?