My girlfriend has put on 10kg / 22lbs and it's honestly turning me off?

[Anonymous]

Hey all

So when I got with my girlfriend approx 12 months ago (start of summer/ southern hemisphere) she was about 59-60 kg (shes 5'8-9)

Today she's 70kg and its that time again so I have only really noticed since she's started putting some summer clothing on.

(she told me her weight both times, no speculation...)

I didn't see it at first but honestly, in shorts, singlets, etc even jeans now she really doesn't look nearly as good as she did, infact its actually turning me off quite a bit, and its even kind of embarassing

every time she asks if she is fat I ALWAYS say no, I can't bare to tell her the truth, I don't want to make her feel sad or break her heart, but she honestly doesn't look good

It really became obvious when I looked at pictures of her from last year, she looked A LOT thinner / sexier and this honestly made me feel worse about the situation

Im not quite sure what to do, please help, how do I get my slim sexy girl back without breaking her heart / making problems worse?

Updates

+1 y

sigh... I am NOT breaking up with her over this, I Love her, and her personality like crazy, iv never met anyone like her, its just a shame that I'm being turned off by her body of late and want to fix this problem...

[NoOneListens21]

If you're not into her anymore then break up with her. =/ maybe this is a temp thing maybe it's not. There isn't really a good way to tell someone you're with that you aren't turned on by them anymore. =/ You could do some activities with her I suppose to get her into shape but I mean..if it's really something that bothers you and her personality isn't enough and the physical is more important to you then leave. I mean what are you ganna do when she's pregnant? lol. cheat? or not even touch her? =P If you really want to stay with her..then just go out and suggest you do some activities with one another.

[duvexy]

Well, I guess you don't like her the way that she is. So, the fact that you lied to her really puts you in a bad light. Anyway, if you want the slim sexy girl back break up with her and find another one. If she really loved you she will work on herself. You can't be a tyrant and force or coerce someone to do something.

[eaeaea]

Start taking her out to active "dates".. as in "Hey babe, lets go hiking!" :D "Lets go swimming", "lets play soccer, basketball, baseball, whatever" or actually both sign up in some sort of sport! And if you do, stop taking her out to fast food restaurants. Instead cook for her, or tell her to cook something, but don't go eat OUT.

It doesn't mean you don't love her, but it does suck to be in love with someone you're not attracted to. Although she might notice it in the mirror, maybe she's not doing anything about it since you keep saying she's not fat. So stop lying to her and when she asks, maybe try saying, "you're not fat but you were somewhat slimmer before right? Lets go jog." Or I don't know haha, but stop lying to her.

If she loves you, she'll make an effort instead of feeling offended, upset or angry.

[h_i_n_e_s]

You NEED TO BE HONEST.

Sit her down and DON"T tell her you aren't attracted to her - say you've noticed she's gained a little weight and you are concerned about her health,and that maybe she should start being a little more sensible about diet and exercise.

Sure you can taking hiking dates, but it's not long term and you can't choose how active/what she eats that way. You need to be honest.

[lace1228]

70 klg is about .154lbs. According to the BMI she is still a healthy weight for her height. Depending on her age her body might be changing. I think you should do activity together like walking, kick boxing classes, join the gym together and do classes. Try eating healthier together. Maybe take her clothes shopping to fit her current body.

[dancing201]

i think you are just going to have to accept her the way she is or move on...

[papercut2]

Tell her to lose weight or rent her to a zoo

THOSE ARE YOUR OPTIONS BUDDY

[KingsOfleon88]

Join the gym together and get fit together