A lot of people respond to hurt by hurting back. It's not really mature, but dealing with the pain of rejection is so hard, and for some people it's just the natural, defensive response.
It is possible that he's just a jerk, but chances are he'll feel bad about it later.
After my breakup a month ago, I purposely had to avoid my ex for a week so that I wouldn't lash out at him because I didn't want to hurt him - I wouldn't have been able to control it, probably. It doesn't mean that one person hates the other or has always thought these things - it means that they aren't really capable of dealing with it.
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I'm going through the same right now my now ex of almost a year into a argument as usual this time his dad and younger brother got to him and messed with his head and he said some hurtful things. He realized what he did and is to the point of depression and angry at himself because he said he lost me and for the way he treated me because he loves me and wants me back. Every chance I get I curse at him call him names and its been a week since we broke up but I'm to the point of beyond hurt and when I feel that hurt I tend to lash out just out of anger even though I love him and want to be with him.
I assume you're the one who dumped him? I assume he is hurt and this is his way of "defending" himself and dealing with the pain. When you say he ignored you a few weeks, do you mean you attempted to contact him, or did you mutually ignore each other?
HIs feelings are hurt because of the way you broke up...so he wants to 'get even.'
He knows you can be hurt if he brings up these intimate details from being together and uses them to make captious criticisms of you that he doesn't even really think are valid himself.
This behavior is a sign of immaturity...and sort of confirms it was a good idea to break up!
Raw emotions, hurt feelings, not thinking clearly. Petty and pointless, but alas we're all only human.
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rejection hurts, so people rationalize rejection with revenge
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