She wants to take things slow?

Me and this girl had been seeing each other all summer and we were crazy about each other and I had never felt that way before but I had to go away to school for one semester. We put things on hold til I came back and now that I'm back I was hoping we would pick up where we left off. I took her on an amazing Christmas date we had an a very romantic dinner. I bought her roses, Chanel perfume and a beautiful heart necklace. she was amazed and loved it. We later went ice skating and we got real close together and we were about to kiss and she stopped me. She told me she is a little hesitant and that she wants to take things slow and me be patient with her. So I need some advice on what to do next because I'm crazy about her and she is worth every bit of it


Most Helpful Girl

  • Some girls have barriers around their heart. Back when I was in school I was taught that a kiss was precious and only to be shared with someone you could trust. Otherwise it should be just a kiss on the cheek. Let her be the one to kiss you and if she is worth every bit of it then you should have no problem waiting. She's gonna give you the chance to unlock those barriers, but only if you let her. When me and my boyfreind sped up too fast it nearly broke us up because going fast means you better be able to take the responsibility that goes with it.

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      because going fast means you better be able to take the responsibility that goes with it.

      --what responsibility?

What Girls Said 7

  • 'She is worth every bit of it.' Seems you already have your answer. :) Take things at her pace - you don't want to make her uncomfortable and risk scaring her away. I've ended things with a guy I was going on dates with for that reason.

  • ASK her. you're going to get all sorts of stories on here, some will f*** you up if you take them to heart and they don't depict her personality at all.. ASK HER.

    she raised it , she has an obligation to explain it.

  • Just take it slow. You'll be okay or she wouldn't have continued talking to you. She probably is just afraid that if you rush it could get ruined somehow. Slow is the best trust me. It makes everything mean so much more. Later on down the road, like a few months from now, tell her you love her if that's how you fee. =]

  • If she is worth it then go with her pace. Though I think it's weird about the kissing I mean yeah take it slow on sex or make out sessions but a kiss ! Espacially after thhat date!

  • If she wants to take it slow, you should listen. It's never good to rush a relationship; often people end up breaking up. Think of the long-term benefits rather than short-term. Have patience! :)

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What Guys Said 1

  • Did you kiss her this summer? Usually when a girl says this your being to clingy and its freaking her out. Back off some.

    • without question we did