Why do people become so offensively bitter after a break up?

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I've noticed almost every girl I've dated and had a falling with, they turn into complete snobby, condesending people. Like they'd wish I caught an STI or killed off. I understand break ups are hard but does it really make you wish emotional/physical harm or death on the person? I've had a girl I was in a long term relationship with that cheated on me and I still don't wish for her death or harm, I think it's insanely immature and somewhat bad karma for yourself. What gives?

comebackbrighter · Accepted Answer

I'm really sorry to suggest this, but it sounds as if the common denominator here is you. Why did the girl cheat on you? Why do you fall out with girls so often? You sound mature in that you are questioning why this is happening to you. Without knowing your specific circumstances each time, I can not comment further, but perhaps by typing in a specific question into a search engine, you can start reading other people's experiences and learn from them. Or you could read some of the many relationship books available to you. One of the best qualities in a man, in my opinion, is the ability to recognise problems with themselves or with a relationship and to be able to question, research, articulate and to reason. If the girl doesn't respond to you then you need to be dating someone with a better intellectual match to yourself. I really hope this helps you.

Primrose · Accepted Answer

wow. lol if you're saying the truth then man. You date fked up women lol. Ripped out a path of your friend's hair?! what? that's PAINFUL. omg.

you needa filter on these girls.

i'm assuming you are in high school. High school girls are dumb as sh*t. You have no idea how many times I've seen girls' insecurity get the best of them and then them attempting to justify themselves. Do yourself a favor and just cool it for a while.

Seeing this always makes me glad I'm a girl and not a guy because girls are freaking cray lol. Especially the ones still stuck in high school land.

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

Getting hurt, dumped or rejected can really be difficult for some people. When it hits you real hard then it's not as easy as just letting it go. It's a given that it will create different emotions and sometimes yes, it can be immature, but when you're broken you don't think clearly and I don't think that anyone can really understand or grasp what that other person is feeling cause everyone experiences love differently. Eventually we all come to terms with it, but the road is long and hard for the person who lost the love of their life :(

flowergal101 · Accepted Answer

I think it's because of all the emotions and bitterness during the breakup they associate with the partner so from then on that person is all those bad feelings

Distant · Accepted Answer

I can understand the hostility coming from the breakee but not the breaker. That's always the case with me, haha. Never friends with an ex and they're always total snobs even though I was usually out of their leagues and harbor no ill will against them.

lem4lyfe · Answer

Maybe it's just me and a few others, but I have two ex's and even though we don't talk much (we all live in different countries) but they're there when I need them and vice versa. We're like distant friends and I don't wish anything bad on them. Even though we didn't work out, they're still really good people.

Hasabrain · Answer

Girls usually have a lot of things planned in their heads as to how there lives will be with you. You breaking up with them destroys their fantasies they more than likely thought would come true. Their dreams have been crushed and that's not easy to deal with.

Anonymous · Answer

Getting rejected by someone you gave everything to is probably the worst kind of offense there is, aside from physical or legal harm.

AnnieVincereVelMori · Answer

She's obviously extremely insecure or a GIGANTIC b*tch, so who cares? Be glad she's gone.

Anonymous · Answer

I sense a great amount of bitterness and or immaturity on your part. I have a feeling also that you are a charmer and a bullsh*t artist and deserve whatever nasty thing that a female that you dated wishes upon you.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Rejection physically hurts

Anonymous · Answer

It's something called feelings and because you date stupid bitches that are bitter and not mature.

AnnieVincereVelMori · Answer

Simply put, rejection hurts.

Anonymous · Answer

Some girls are just bat Sh*t Crazy!

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