But I didn't respond. He was abusive during our whole relationship and lied to me alot. He wasn't even able to break up with me, he decided to ignore me, so I had to find him. When we broke up he told me many many bad things, then I still tried to win him back, but he ignored it. I haven't spoken him for a few months.
I don't understand why he decided to wish me Merry Xmas but I didn't respond to protect my feelings. Was is it a bad idea or should I wished him too? I still miss him and I am not over it.
he probably was just thinking about you. during holidays regardless of how relationships are/were we tend to think about them.
I don't think you should feel about not responding and based on your description of the guy and the relationship I think you have every right not to respond.
You mentioned you miss him and are not over him. Do you miss him specifically or just having a relationship and someone you know who is out there thinking about you and caring for you? I ask because it doesn't sound like he deserves you
The least you can do is ignore him, given his past lyihg, abuse, and cowardice. Do't feel ashamed of anything you do to him after this experience. If you're nice, he will take that as weakness, and try to hurt you again, no doubt!
I know how you feel, my ex did this too. He broke it off with me saying some dreadful things like "I don't want anything to do with you anymore" and "these last few days have been the happiest I have been in ages" (we were on a break for the few days) so I assumed he was ending it for good. I was very hurt. Then on Xmas say he wished me a happy Christmas. In ways this made me feel happy he was thinking of me, but also awful because we started having a convo, and now these past few days he hasn't contacted me. I refuse to make the first contact. Maybe he will send you a happy new years message?
Maybe you could wish him a happy new year, keep it concise and amicable. "happy new year, hope all is well :)" or something like that. He will understand you needed your time to think things over, but are still thinking of him. I mean do you still have feelings for him?