Is he seriously in love?
I have been seeing a guy for the past month and he officially asked me to be his girlfriend. During the getting to know each other aspect of the... Show More
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Sometimes that happens, but there is a fine line between infatuation/lust and love. He's on guard because he's had his heartbroken and men handle things differently then women about that. Men recover from those much slower and are much more guarded no matter how "tough" they seem. Plus now he's got another obstacle with being told you're too good for him. Relationships are emotional investments for men and there is no way he's going to invest time, energy and feelings into something he thinks he'll fail at. I'd have a conversation with him.
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Love is a strong word and you two have only been together officially for a month. That's really not a long time on a relationship scale. So no, at this point I don't think he's seriously in love yet. But he could be in time. Just like in time you would love him as well. These things don't happen quickly. Trust also takes a long time to form. He's not there yet it appears and it's up to you to decide whether it's worth spending your time with someone who wants to test you constantly and use his ex as a excuse for his behavior. I wouldn't be able to handle that personally. I don't like people using their ex's as a excuse to treat their current partner differently. Him also not wanting to admit he's in a relationship or wants to share it is also a result of previous relationships too. So once again, because of something in the past he's treating you differently. I don't think that's fair. As for meaningfulness conversations, this is something you have to discuss with him because if he doesn't have a desire to do it than no amount of effort from your side will change it.
Um he sounds like bad news girl. He has way too many issues and sounds way too insecure to be in a healthy relationship. Him telling you he loves you was just his way of getting you to not leave him. I've dated guys like this before and they are nothin but trouble. RUN LIKE THE WIND:)