Whoa. You are seriously about to make a mistake. Your question is loaded full of emotion and completely lacks logic.
Problem number one is that you are not a friend with this guy. There is no such thing as a friendship when one person is seriously falling for the other, but the other doesn't feel the same in return. It is called unreciprocated love and it hurts like heck.
I happened to be in your situation, only the girl I fell for didn't care for me as anything more than a friend. No matter what I tried, be it giving her constant attention, ignoring her, expressing my feelings for her---nothing worked. The problem is, sometimes people just don't fall for you. It is a blow to your ego, but true.
Think about it for a moment. You, by your own admission, told us that he is "obviously afraid of relationships". That means he's either immature, is not over one of his ex's, fears commitment, doesn't know how to love or a combination of all of the above. Wowzers! Does that sound like someone you can be happy with in the long run? Of course not!
You need read the words you typed above. Emotions are all fine and dandy in a healthy relationship, but you don't have one of those. You're on feelings overdrive and he isn't going to meet you even half way. That doesn't work. Trust me, when I finally gave up chasing my unrequited love, it took me over four months to finally be over her.
You must stop talking nonsense about wanting to get your heart broken. I KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE AND IT IS BRUTAL. Your best long-term approach should be to cut off all communication with them forever. Every time you'll see him in the future, you're not going to be capable of seeing him only as a friend. It doesn't work like that when you've fallen for a guy that hard.
You must find other things to fill in the voids that he will leave once you cut things off. It isn't easy, but trust me, I've been there and back. A broken heart is a short and narrow path to depression, which for reasons I don't think I need to explain, is extremely bad for your physical and mental health.
Any guy that shows warning signs of not wanting to be in a relationship