Is watching girls on live webcam cheating or not?

[Anonymous]

Just a question for you guys and gals. - Do y'all consider watching girls on live webcam cheating when you're in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I went through this. In the end if it makes you uncomfortable is where YOU have to draw the line for your sake. A lot of people are referring to just watching in a group, but they ALL allow one on one interaction, and if he has an account I promise you he's using it for that. But the group sessions you can see without an account- but the girls don't do anything worth while (because that's how they earn their money). Even if it means nothing to the girl (and I'm sure it doesn't other than $$$ and maybe an ego boost) it means something to your guy, because he chooses to believe he's getting her off- as if she isn't faking and/or getting off for every one who pays her enough.

I've learned, you need to decide on your OWN definition of cheating, with lines and boundaries. I used to only worry about physical ("IRL"). never crossed my mind to consider these types of things.

My boyfriend said he did it in all his relationships, sees it as porn, he pays for it so it doesn't count (as if sex with a prostitute wouldn't count cause money is involved) and told so many lies about how the site works when I realized what was going on. But I'm telling you from experience is not something that will go away, if it upsets you now, it'll upset you the next time and it'll just keep building and eat at you because it's the type of thing he can do at work, in the next room, in the bed while you're sleeping. It happened 6 months ago and I couldn't tell you why i took him back. I don't trust him, I consider it cheating and so whenever I look at him all I feel is betrayal. It's probably the most difficult thing to get past in a relationship. But it's not so easy to throw 2 years away. And just because note I question his feelings for me, doesn't mean the root of mine have changed. I've gone from convinced u found the guy I was going to spend the rest of my life with to wishing I'd never met him. And meaning it.

Good luck.

[Cherimags]

I seriously think I'm dating your ex. What are the chances?

[0Monika0]

@Cherimags i think im dating him too. Jeeze

[Shellcollins]

I think I married him..😢😅😭🤣

[Guy28]

Its a difficult one, I am in a relatioship myself and have sometimes used these live cams instead of porn, and i Think its more frequent than People Think. Im my opinion it can both be cheating and not cheating. I consider sites like this in the category of porn, but im also fully aware stuf can be done which i will consider cheating. If you warch cam girls, anonymus and Free i would not consider that cheating at all, that would be exacly the same as porn, but dont Think thats how most uses it. But i would also considere it allright as long as you stay in a public Forum evne if you giv some money to the performer. But what i would consider cheating is participating and be on webcam yourself, visiting the same actor again and again, sharing personal information and do private sessions with these girls, sending Them images etc. So in my opinion is not that simple that you can say watching girls live on webcam is cheating or not i Think it depends on how its used. Those girls i have watched, i dont know anything about them and they dont know anything about me apart from my first name and age and vice versa. And i would be okay if my girlfreind used it in the same maner as me. I have once watched the same actor twice and that felt wrong because the you start to form some kind of relation. My main reason for watching it is the pace i slower than in porn and i like that and the ability to affect the plot. In my opinion haveing sex or kissing another, sexting a real person, writing with other guys or girls, Holding hans with another man or woman i definitely cheating and a Big no go. I will encurage to adress this with some nuances cheating is a Big Word and to Big for this subject and i have been cheated on once, and if see just had watched some males on cam and not Said it i would Maybe have been disapointed which is fair, but it hadn’t been a Big deal.

[AbbyH]

This is something new that I hadn't thought about before, but my initial thoughts are that I might not mind if he was watching a general site other guys
were logged into, even if he was telling
her to do certain sexual things etc
All fantasy and I might even watch it with
him sometimes. But if he was watching and interacting with some 'non-professional' chick and they were sharing a relationship of sorts, sex, laughing, talking and getting to know each other, I'd have a big problem with that. Just that in
itself is emotional cheating to me, not to
mention it could easily lead to a real life
hook up. So if that was happening in my
opinion he migjt as well still be single
since he's not holding anything back. And
maybe he doesn't belong in any real-life
close relationship, or at least for sure NOT with me! That would be, as they say, a deal breaker in my book.

[Anonymous]

I know this girl as guy. I'm a girl and I must say I'm not completely sure if I would consider it cheating or not. I know the same sexual acts in person would be much worse. Porn watching I can deal with and excessive amounts of that can do a negative toll on a relationship. But the live cam thing I believe can make your perfectly secure partner feel insecure. I think it's to personal some things should be left special between two parners with exception of the couples who feel openly ok with it. I feel if a guy is ok with partaking in this activity than he should be ok with his girl do this same activity and being the one acting as live cam girl. I think most would not approve.

[kholland65]

It really depends on how personal the relationship is. If the person in question is just one of many in a chatroom watching this girl, then its basically no different than p*rn. However, if its one on 1, there is interaction going on, and they're a repeat customer, then it's basically cheating, because its going beyond simply watching something to actually having an interpersonal relationship of some sort with this person on the other end of the camera.

If my Girlfriend was logging into chat rooms with other women and watching guys strip and masturbate or something, I honestly wouldn't care. However, if she kept going to the same guys, they had some sort of friendship (even though its based on sex), knew each others names, the interaction was one on 1, or something else like that, then I would have a problem with it.

[Markezzo]

I don't really know where I would categorize that. P*rn is one thing, but watching it live and having the ability to interact with the person on screen... The girl might be a stranger, but IMO it doesn't really matter, you might as well be sexting with a close friend. Just because there's no physical contact doesn't make it okay. That's just me though, feel free to tell me I'm wrong, I can't help feeling that way.

[justrandomlymadethis]

I feel the same way. Interaction is def possible with web cam, so it is the same as sexting. Just because it is an unknown person doesn't mean it's any better than a friend or co-worker.

[Electric_Dreams]

It's not exactly the same as setting - it's better (for me - I like to treat myself with one of those lovely girls about once every 4 months)/worse (for the girl whose guy is cheating on her with cam girls, because it is cheating). But yeah just making a point that it is even more cheating than setting, until the sexters make contact with each other of course. It is not trivial.

[GenXer80]

No its the same as watching a vid. Most viewers just watch. They don't chat or share cams. Sounds like someone is a little bit in secure. Want a hug?

[justrandomlymadethis]

I find it cheating. Why do you feel the need to see these women on web cam anyways? If you were in a content and happy relationship you wouldn't need to see these women you don't know on web cam. Maybe take a break from the computer, and think about the situation, before you get tempted to do something worse.

[why-makoto-kun]

This.

[Confucius16]

Yes, this is good.

[Distant]

98% of guys do not consider it cheating and the other 2% are lying about it.

[Confucius16]

Whether trivial or big, anything that brings doubts to mind is cheating. There should be commitment in a relationship, not wavering attention. if a person really loved his/her significant other, he/she wouldn't do this. So yes, this is cheating.

[uncleruckus]

so if a guy looks at another girl and that makes his girlfriend have doubts about herself, then he is cheating?

[Confucius16]

If a guy looks at another girl, it isn't cheating. But the guy should not be looking at other girls as much as he wants to or whenever he sees someone he likes, if he is already in a relationship. That is commitment. What I said above, I said it is cheating, just to a lesser extent. Whether or not the girl has doubts is not the key here. It is whether or not anyone cheats. It seems we disagree on the definition of cheating.

[why-makoto-kun]

My mind only fantasizes/wonders about dating other people instead if I'm unhappy or feeling neglected. Sometimes it's reparable, but it's usually not. That's why if I had a boyfriend who insisted on webcam girls, strip clubs, etc. I would know he either wasn't into me or was non-monogamous and thus not a good match for me.

[Confucius16]

@uncleruckus: Any girl that suggested webcams, etc. would make me think "why lust after others when you're already in a relationship?" or something. I'm sure that some normal committed people fantasize once in a while, even in healthy relationships, but it is one thing to think those thoughts and another to actually want to act them out. But if that works for you, then I'm not going to try to change the way you are or anything.

[why-makoto-kun]

Right, it's just a matter of lifestyle choices IMO.

[uncleruckus]

there are no lesser/greater extents of cheating it is black & white. it isn't lust after another person when a guy just wants to see something different that his girlfriend will not do. how many girls do you know that will slam a foot long dildo up her ass? same reason guys watch other forms of p*rn...it is to see something that they won't see in their normal relationship

[why-makoto-kun]

LOL I'm not even going to comment. Rofl!

[Confucius16]

Gosh. Butts are nasty. If one person can't satisfy another person's needs, it does not mean everybody needs to go out seeking something they can't get.

[why-makoto-kun]

Mhm. Or, maybe if the person can't satisfy those needs in bed, they're with the wrong person.

[Confucius16]

Exactly.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Personally I know its a grey area, but I would say it isn't cheating.

This is down to me classing cheating as requiring physical contact. If we just define it as needing interactivity then where do we draw the line; Webcams? Games? Dreams?

Although I would still consider it to be morally flawed even if I don't see it as cheating.

[martyfellow]

I consider it perverted and idiotic, but not really cheating. I can't abide people who prefer images to the real thing!

[martyfellow]

Clearly the bewst answer, right?

[why-makoto-kun]

Yes, it is cheating unless you specifically allow that I'n your relationship. I think any guy who tries to convince his girlfriend it's not cheating is either not into his girlfriend or isn't meant to be monogamous.

[why-makoto-kun]

Also, I do consider strip clubs to be cheating, so...

[Confucius16]

I agree. Actually, strip clubs is just really wrong, in my opinion. People that go there need a better life, and those performers aren't really respecting their bodies either.

[Confucius16]

It seems some people are downvoting us, who disagree with us.

[why-makoto-kun]

Yeah, it's really sad. I hear the "dancers" donxmt even really enjoy what they're doing. It also treats women like commodities-- like a woman has to be flirty or aroused by any guy she meets, God forbid she has preferences or is grossed out by some guys. Ugh.

[Confucius16]

I hope that people can learn to be more modest about themselves.

[why-makoto-kun]

Sadly, modesty does not keep the old men from hitting on me at work -_- LOL.

[Confucius16]

WHAT! OLD MEN! You really mean old men, right? That's so wrong. Where I come from, nobody hits on anybody. I know it happens out there, but I guess that is something I'm not used to seeing. I would respect other people's privacy and I hope that by being modest myself, I can influence both other men and other women to become modest. I'm going to make people become better people through the power of (my) action.

[uncleruckus]

lols you guys are quite the pair. judging people for what they do and trying to change them to fit your ideals. have either of you actually been to a strip club?...already know the answer. strippers are at a job. if they truly disliked it they would quit. also they don't have to do private/lap dances for anybody. 'right or wrong' god forbid a girl be able to do what she wants with her body and do something that has existed since the beginning of time.

[why-makoto-kun]

Confucius, I have had 70-something guys make sexual comments to me at work. It's disturbing. One example being "I like that red hair; you don't know what that does for me" and 50-somethings and up saying gross things. Some will say things that say I'm pretty, but in a non-sexual way, which I appreciate and tell them "thank you."

[why-makoto-kun]

Dude, Uncle Kracker, we are preaching tolerance but we don't want people to do things they deep down don't want to do (societal pressure) or get their rights violated. Sure, some strippers may love their jobs, but many likely do it because a crappy waitressing job won't pay enough to support their kids or pay off college loans. It's dehumanizing to pretend you're attracted to someone you're not, and give "favors" in the private rooms.

[Confucius16]

Yes, we believe in not judging people, but that does not mean that we can't disagree or debate about a topic. No, I will not go to a strip club, because I'm religious and traditional.

"If they truly disliked it they would quit" is not exactly true. Did you know, 70& of employees hate their jobs? link I know this is unrelated to strip clubs, but you get the point.

People have to do jobs to get a living.

[Confucius16]

People often do jobs that they don't like, because there is no other choice. They need money. For strippers, it has nothing to do with them doing what they want with their bodies. Yeah, they can do what they want, but it is dehumanizing. They aren't respecting their bodies. But still, some of them have no choice. So I feel sorry for them.

[ketfoen]

It's cheating, but I think it's way more forgivable than cheating physically with someone else.

[KERMlT]

Cheating defined could be a stark contrast from person to person. The general rule of thumb is putting yourself in their place. Would they get mad if you watched someone live on webcam? Personally I'd rather watch a sex tape we made rather than p*rn. Though I do watch p*rn to find someone with the same body type so I can imagine it was her I was watching.

People need to go over what they consider the boundaries because if they don't it could lead to a huge fight.

[weewillie17cm]

It depends on your relationship.

Just friends? open? engaged? married? you didn't say

I'm single and sometimes chat with girls and sometimes go a bit further than chatting on cam

If I were head over heels in love and in a relationship I would no longer have the need to meet other girls in that way

[Cryostatic]

Personally, I view them as being somewhere in between p*rn and a strip club.

And since it does incorporate some elements that are similar to a strip club, I can understand why some women would be uncomfortable / upset about it.

[Electric_Dreams]

It annoys me when girls say p*rn is, because seriously if your guy travels/doesn't see you all that often then you better hope he's looking at p*rn because otherwise he probably IS cheating.

But as for webcams, that's actually a kind of a relationship as far as I'm concerned. The girl should know so she can let him know whether she is okay with it. If a guy is with a girl who would like to watch them with him then that I think is okay, it's cyber swinging or cyber threesome really.

But no I think if the girl doesn't know and isn't okay with it if she does know then Its cheating. Granted not as bad, but I still think it is.

[PhilaPenn]

Those sites are for creeps. If he's into that, then he's probably deeply addicted to p*rn lol.

[mechanized82]

Watching is different than live interaction. Do they know each other? Are they talking/typing to one another? That I probably would consider cheating. Just watching is watching... and honestly if a relationship is good, and both people are sexually satisfied, there should be no desire to watch or interact with another person.

I watch p*rn because my relationship sucks. The few and rare times in my life that I had an amazing woman in bed, I never felt the need to watch that stuff.

[CuriousSteve]

It's not cheating but it is morally suspect if you're in a relationship.

[beastman88]

its only cheating if you get caught lmao.some people are just very visual, sexually. if iam not around and my girlfriend needs to get off, I wouldn't mind as long as she doesn't invite guys over and f*** on my bed. that's what I consider crossing the line.

[AnonGuy]

I assume he does not actually know these girls. It's just some website where he's paying to watch strangers strip?

That's not cheating. Same thing as going to a strip club.

[Prof_Don]

Imo that's a gray zone...this is why this stuff should be discussed between couples.

I wouldn't be comfortable web camming live with a girl (regardless of it's a girl I personally know or someone who works for a website), if I have a girlfriend.

[Koldhearted]

i agree with most people saying that it's a little worse than p*rn

[ForeverYours39]

Anything sexual involving him and another women (porn, webcam girls, physical contact with other girls) is cheating in my eyes. He made a commitment; therefore, fun time involving other women is unethical and disrespectful to his girlfriend.

[why-makoto-kun]

Yep.

[Confucius16]

I agree.

[ForeverYours39]

<3

[ForeverYours39]

I think it's terrible how many guys answering this really don't consider things like this. p*rn, and strip clubs cheating. You made a commitment to a girl that you only had eyes for her, so why are other girls getting your attention and turning you on? That's unfair and completely disrespectful. If I found out my SO was doing something to this affect, I would be heart broken. I'd probably dump him, too, because he obviously doesn't respect commitment.

[why-makoto-kun]

I agree, it makes me feel injustice when he's the only guy I see and I have to compete with other girls.

[Hamburgers]

F*** yeah it is. If my girl watched some dude jackoff on the net I'd pop her right in the throat.

[GenXer80]

Insecure. Grow a pair.