Girlfriend is a swinger?...can I trust her?

[Anonymous]

So I've been going out with this girl for about a month and she says she won't sleep with me unless I officially make her my girlfriend. I agree and say I definitely want her as my girlfriend. Well that same night we go out with her friend and her husband to a night club. Towards end of night my girlfriend says we all want to go to a hotel together. I thnk hey why not , we each do our thing and have some b fast in morning. Well next thing I know we are on our way to a really rauncy hotel in the ghetto, and I walk into a sex hotel with like S and M stuff everywhere. As I walk in everyone gets butt naked in 2 seconds. My girlfriend and her friend are in a hot tub doing everything together, then then friends husband is pouring liquer on their heads and starts having sex with and other stuff with his wife in my face. I'm letting this ride out as I want to see what my girlfriend is capable of doing. At this point she gravitates towards friend and husband and the husband grabs her by back of head and pull towards her and kisses her. at this point I'm nautious and never felt more sick.. I pull her away, and proceed to walk out. She wants me to stay and I say no. She then starts crying and saying she is leaving with me. I leave her there (who knows what happened then) and she begs me to forgive her next day and says her ex made her get into that stuff and she thought that was her only way to make guys happy. My concern is if this happened in my FACE! what in world will happen behind my back! Can I trust this girl? Now every time she goes out I'm going to think this will happen.

[DutchAtheist]

Well... At the very least she included you in this from the first time it happened while you are together. I think you need to have a good long talk. Ask her if this is something she needs in a relationship or if she can be exclusive. I find her explanation that her ex made her do this and she thought it was necessary to make a guy happy plausible, but then she has to explain it and convince you that it will not happen again. If you get a feeling that this is something that is a significant part of her sex life, I would walk away from the relationship.

Unless you think you could get into it, but by what I read I think you aren't the type.

[Anonymous]

You should just be with her for a while and see if you can trust her.