I don't feel good enough for my boyfriend.
The fact that he's absolutely gorgeous contributes to it but he's just so popular, caring, good with kids, motivated, ambitious and just perfect in... Show More
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Babe, he's in love with you for a reason. Take a look in the mirror BUT instead of putting yourself down, I want you to stand there and say everything you LIKE about yourself and cool things you've done. NO NEGATIVITY.
I've been through this, too. I've been sexually assaulted and have been in three mentally abusive relationships in my short 21 years of life.
My current boyfriend is completely amazing and I have no idea how I found someone so perfect. But I did and he loves me. I had to get over my own feelings that I wasn't good enough, which I did, by taking in the reasons why he says he loves me and loves about me and expanding upon that to reasons why I love myself.
I would write lists, talk to myself while looking in the mirror and DO things for myself that felt good (like manicures and self facials! <-- go to Lush and get a mask. It's like gold. I feel so refreshed afterwards). I also have an injured knee, so take up sports like swimming which is low impact or cycling on a stationary bike (if you want workouts, just message me).
Just remember he's with you and he loves you for who you are. Screw your ex-boyfriend. And don't even think about him ever again. He was a f***ing douche bag who needs a good ass kicking. No one ever deserves to be treated like sh*t and like they are not good enough. He was obviously not the right person for you and this current boyfriend who treats you like a queen is.
Just got to learn how to love yourself! :)
What Guys Said 6
It's easy. Let HIM decide if you're good enough for him. Just enjoy your time with him and be happy. Worrying like you are will only push him away. If he wasn't attracted to you, he wouldn't be with you. Even if you don't believe it - just don't say anything. Eventually, you'll learn to forget about it.
You said in your own question you don't like to think negatively and its obvious you don't want to pursue this line of thinking. He has already reaffirmed you are good enough, so a bunch of random guys on the internet are not going to affirm you any more than he has.
So I am going to leave you with a more cryptic, but relevant answer:
Sometimes the brightness in others reveals our own darkness.
May be People are not commenting much on your thread because they wanna tell you that you shouldn't be feeling this way .
What your feeling is completely illogical. Really, and most likely due to how your ex treated you . What you need is therapy . Stop saying stuff to your boyfriend and enjoy year life with him. Let it go... but seek therapy while you are doing this.
Your boyfriend is with you because he gets all he wants from you . You fullfil him. WHy question that ?
It's not that you feel he won't like you back, it's that you feel like you're not good enough. By changing the message of what you're actually trying to say, by saying "you won't like me back", you include him in your insecurities, and it's natural that he would sound confused. Tell him that you feel this way because your ex's didn't treat you well. Then he will understand.
You feel negative because it's the first time that you found someone who really cares about you and doesn't disrespect you, and because you're used to your ex's being like that, it's hard for you to accept that you have finally found someone that really cares about you for who you are.
Also, love grows, so don't let the fact that he didn't initially love you bother you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What matters is that he loves you now. Also, even though you chased him, does not mean he doesn't love you.
What you need is trust. You can only trust him and yourself by being exposed to his caring, and over time, you'll feel better about yourself. You need him to constantly reassure you, and slowly, it will work. Stay strong, and good luck.
first .. no body is perfect .. and I don't think that being handsome promotes that you should date a super model .. we obviously see hot girls with less than average guys so looks actually are just a bonus the important thing is that you feel yourself attracted to the other person .. if you won't be able to get through it in your inner game .. reward him for treating you like a queen by doing nice things to him that he will like and appreciate !
Same happened with my ex girlfriend , we were as you said , like twins , I was doing everything for her like she was a queen , she also giggled when I complimented her and ever time I kiss her
we were in each-others mind , when she was going to finish a sentence and couldn't I did and the same for me , pretty much the same as you , she also though she wasn't good for me and always saying , you could find a very pretty girl better than me , more sexy etc... I said , "like you? hahaha are you kidding me? the god made only one angel for me , and it's only you , I could never replace you"
she was always insecure and tried to show that she wasn't jealous but I knew she was , I tried my best not to make her jealous but girls are always around me at school at gym , at English classes
even on the way home , I was being jealous too but only certain times she did not have problem with it , but she was always thinking that way I will find another girl like you , that she does not deserve me and that I might find another girl and leave her hurted
But in the end she dumped me , with no reason , maybe I wasn't enough for her , just try not to do the same thing and hurt your guy , he seems like me and she loves you , if you dump him he is going to be hurted very very very very very much. For this I am certain
What Girls Said 2
Dont let the past ruin your present.
If he thinks you are not good enough for him, he would of not dated you.
But he loves you, he thinks you're perfect in his eyes.
Stop thinking about all those negative thoughts.
Just enjoy the moments you are with him and thank god he put him in your life.