Should I move in with my boyfriend
28 year old needs advice. I've been dating my boyfriend for five months now. Things are great. He lives down the street from me which is... Show More
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I wouldn't recommend it. Doesn't matter though; it is your best option. Do it.
A slow transition is the way to gobut before you move in, like everything else in the universe, get a contract for how much rent actually is and something that legally says you are splitting this and that. Why? Because humans are insanely unpredictable. It doesn't just protect you, it protects your daughter, and the fact that location is right next to home is such a plus that I'm not concerned as I would be if it were anywhere else and things do happen to go sour.
I don't think it will mind you but you plan for the worst and hope for the best, esp. if you have children involved, and the simplest way to work with this is to just cover your ass so you can move into forever happy after land.
So the checklist is simple:
1. Get an actual agreement that dictates what you will really pay.
2. Move your stuff slowly so that the transition is easy on the child.
If he resists the contract just tell him that you want to do it for your child ( because you do ) and that since both of you have been screwed in divorces and love in general it isn't so much a matter of trust as it is as matter of learning from your past mistakes. He will respect this far more than if you give an emotional answer since it makes a hell of a lot more sense AND he can relate. It's win/win
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What Girls Said 4
Just do it. I don't know what you mean about ruining a good thing. You're both clearly adults, it's not like you're not mature enough for a relationship. At this age you have to be looking for something serious. Living together will only make you guys closer and it seems like the best choice right now. If things don't work out, then it wasn't meant to be.
The best thing for your child would be to NOT rush into anything you aren't sure of. Family living is tight quarters and stressful, but your familiy is also a sure thing. If you moved in with him she would get attached to him a lot faster and what if it didn't work out? Then she's had to men walk out of her life. I moved in with my Boyfriend at 3 months and we were engaged at 8 months. I never once doubted it though, I knew it was the right thing to do. If I had doubts I would not have moved so quickly.
i would do a slow transition.
i think five months is too soon