So, my ex girlfriend dumped me after almost a year of dating. She said she never loved me and that the relationship was not going anywhere.
In fairness, I may have taken her a bit for granted and never told her that I loved her after 10 months of dating (though she could have said something too). I tried to get her back by clearing up my feelings for her, but she had already decided it was over.
Because we are somewhat in the same social circle, I wanted to keep things amicable. She told me we could still be friends, have coffee together (although she said she would not call me for coffee because she has a "full life" while I could feel free to call her), wish each other happy birthdays, etc.
Months of NC passed and I saw her again at an outing with mutual friends. It was awkward, but amicable. A month later, I saw her again and when I approached her to say hello, she went cold and rude on me. I later found out that her friends told her I had been socializing and dating other women. True enough, but I was not dating anyone seriously and besides, it was my ex that broke it off and said we could still be friends. If I had any inkling that she was interested in a reconciliation, I would have pursued. But, she never contacted me.
Recently, my birthday passed and she never contacted me for that. One of my friends who knows my ex's friends thinks my ex dislikes me. But, why? I was nothing but gracious about the breakup. When she was cold to me, I continued to take the high road and never once expressed hurt or anger (although I felt both).
I know my ex is attractive and she told me she is used to getting attention from guys, including exes.
So, is it because I would not feed her ego and beg her back after my initiatial attempt at reconciliation that now makes the bad guy and persona non grata?
In fairness, I may have taken her a bit for granted and never told her that I loved her after 10 months of dating (though she could have said something too). I tried to get her back by clearing up my feelings for her, but she had already decided it was over.
Because we are somewhat in the same social circle, I wanted to keep things amicable. She told me we could still be friends, have coffee together (although she said she would not call me for coffee because she has a "full life" while I could feel free to call her), wish each other happy birthdays, etc.
Months of NC passed and I saw her again at an outing with mutual friends. It was awkward, but amicable. A month later, I saw her again and when I approached her to say hello, she went cold and rude on me. I later found out that her friends told her I had been socializing and dating other women. True enough, but I was not dating anyone seriously and besides, it was my ex that broke it off and said we could still be friends. If I had any inkling that she was interested in a reconciliation, I would have pursued. But, she never contacted me.
Recently, my birthday passed and she never contacted me for that. One of my friends who knows my ex's friends thinks my ex dislikes me. But, why? I was nothing but gracious about the breakup. When she was cold to me, I continued to take the high road and never once expressed hurt or anger (although I felt both).
I know my ex is attractive and she told me she is used to getting attention from guys, including exes.
So, is it because I would not feed her ego and beg her back after my initiatial attempt at reconciliation that now makes the bad guy and persona non grata?
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So, I think I can finally accept that it is really over. My birthday came and went last week without so much as a simple text from my ex. Mind you, this was after she said we could still be friends by wishing each other happy birthdays.
In fact, she scheduled some event with her volunteer group on my birthday night. Since, I was on the email distribution years ago, she must know that I received it. Perhaps it was a coincidence or she is taking a jab at me. No idea.
In fact, she scheduled some event with her volunteer group on my birthday night. Since, I was on the email distribution years ago, she must know that I received it. Perhaps it was a coincidence or she is taking a jab at me. No idea.
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