Why does she keep pulling me back in?

[Jazes]

well, I've dated this girl for about 2 years now I'm 21, she's 18..and I feel safe saying I love her with all my heart but I'm the nice guy with the routine as a door mat, breaks my heart time and time again, uses my what feels sometimes like crazy love for her against me, just saying the meanest sh*t I've ever herd from anyone, even from enemies if I had any lol. Going back and forth and all over the place with things like "I'm confused" "i don't know why I'm not with you". "we are still friends, your the best man I've ever known" "i can't be your friend, because I can't see you because I care about you and I don't want to fall back into old habits" "i love you,i will always love you" this and that basically a huge contradiction with me in the middle..just keeping me in layaway or something, in limbo..yet to think about it she's always pushed me away for some reason and I run after..main conclusion we came over the years was "she couldn't let me and express herself to me?"..because she has been hurt before? I really don't know what to do..I love her so much and I hate that fact at times because I can't stop thinking about her and I feel such shame for putting myself threw such pain when I knew I deserved better.. yet although almost half or more of the 2 years together I've known that chasing her was totally wrong, advice from friends, family that could see me hurting and how jaded I was. I've felt at some point I've started to feel I'm addicted to the misery can she bring, is she just messing with my head cause she knows I love her still and maybe she loves me.? I've came to many conclusions of my own but still how do I sake her out of my mind and let it be.?

Thanks.

[puiimun]

Sorry, but from what you have said, it seems like she isn't in love with you and merely craves your attention. I say start standing your ground, say what you want and do what you want. Don't let her step all over you. Make her work for you. Make her realize you won't always be there for here; make her realize she can and will lose you if she doesn't start getting serious about this relationship. You deserve better, and you know that, so give yourself what you deserve. She isn't the best out there, believe me, you WILL get over her and find someone much better. It just takes time. Best of luck. :)

[Jazes]

Its hard to know, she's dumped me so many times lol..deep down I know she loves me and the chemistry still between us is intense..should I break all contact with her so she can get over this "CONFUSED" stuff.?

[puiimun]

You know she loves you? Well if you are absolutely sure she loves you but don't think she is treating you properly then tell her, and if you have and things haven't gotten better, then tell her you're going to break away from her for a while until she is able to mature and have a strong and stable relationship with you.

[Jazes]

Its worth a go eh, I've got nothing else to lose. I don't think she even knows what she wants..she gets close to me and then severely pushes me away and the chase continues.

[puiimun]

NOT worth it, don't throw your life away for something like this. I know you have strong feelings for her, but believe me, once you distance yourself from her, your life will be much better after you get over her, which yes, will take time, but is not by any means impossible. Be strong and have confidence in yourself. Oops I answered instead of commenting back. Sorry.

[Jazes]

Thanks, I value your perspective.

im just stuck in the funk of feeling ripped off without any real explanation other then "im confused'..which doesn't me sh*t when your on the outside of it.

[puiimun]

In all honesty, I think she is just stringing you along, but whatever you do, just stop feeling like crap man. :p Live life.

[Jazes]

There we go in all honesty, that is what I like to hear.

[Reeses-pieces777]

she doesn't even know what she wants. love takes time. and I think she likes you because you're a good person in her eyes however, she perhaps hasn't figured out what she want sin a relationship and she sounds very up and down about it like she isn't sure. she sounds young.

[Jazes]

I thought that at first. I gave her 2 years of pouring myself into her and really getting nothing in return but weak "i love yous" and constantly pushing away when I find a crack in her wall. she's 19 now, id like to think her sh*t would be together by now.

[chettah-two]

the truth of the matter is SHE DOES NOT LOVE YOU...

Next time always say to yourself "what would a strong and confident man who does not take sh*t do..."

then proceed to do just that...

because that person is in everybody, its like if someone was manipulating your mother, little sister etc that guy will definitely come out.

ALWAYS KEEP THAT IN MIND..

[Jazes]

Thats a good way to look at it., what should my reaction be when she tries to get back and she will after she's burned all her other bridges and realizes.. do I just tell her to get f***ed and p*ss off even tho I may still care about her and she could be trying to reach out to me.?

[chettah-two]

Use your logic here, if she comes back to you after she has gone through all the "jerks" the only reason she is coming back is you are her last resort.. Hence probably she only talks to you when she is bored or have no one or nothing to do..

Women love a STRONG and CONFIDENT man, would than man want to be the last resort/back up to ANYONE.. HELL NO!!!!

Once you realise who she is, you'll get over it, BELIEVE ME. U're not the 1st and won't be the last in that situation.

[Jazes]

Yea that makes sense. it is what it is. so I've gotta change that.

thanks man.

[madi25193]

find aanother girl

delete her number

tell her you don't want to talk to her becuz she hurts you too much either she loves you or not

u seem like a nice guy don't let her ruin you for the woman that will really love you some day

she is just a messed up chick who knows she has power over you

and she likes that power a lot

good luck :]

[L-I-F-E]

sometimes we fall for people who are actually bad for us..we manipulate ourselves to thinking they're the one and we can't leave without them..but when try and accept the rejection and think that she really doesn't love me..you will feel better..

[CestLolaVie]

Leave her, it seems like your worth so much better than her.. its a shme when people like you fall for people like that, its just not right.

[aimee91]

You probably don't want to hear it but she's messing with if I wore you I'd get her out of my life ASAP...