I do not understand something you said..."But, from the day she moved in, there's been a running joke that she's a sister-wife and how we have all the benefits of a plural marriage!" Who is doing this joking and what do they mean by sister-wife and benefits of a plural marriage? If your wife or the friend is doing this, it sounds like there is at least a suggestion that they are not against the idea. If it is someone outside of the house, what kind of reactions do your wife and friend have? Obviously you see that there could be many problems following that path, but some people go there and are okay with it. I think you need to figure out what their thoughts are and if they are against that kind of thing, then that would help you fight the thoughts you are having. If they are for that, then you guys need to figure out if that is a risk you want to take.
Start first with what I asked... who is saying this and what are the reactions of your wife and her friend. Let that guide you as to whether there is anything to pursue or take it as an answer to avoid everything.
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You need to TALK to your wife about this and figure something out. You need to pray to God to forgive you and take these feelings away and maybe go to couples counseling. Before things get worse
i mean I think your wife put you in an unfair situation. this whole thing is a little bizarre to be honest. I'm surprised your wife is comfortable with her attractive friend living there; it's like she's testing you or something. I think you should have an honest conversation with your wife. OK, maybe not 100% honest - don't tell her you want to sleep with her best friend or anything! but talk to her about how long she thinks her friend will be there, you paying for everything, etc. be honest that the situation is kind of uncomfortable. it's better to be honest with your wife and prevent a mistake than to make the stupid mistake because you were trying to be a gentleman and just save face. (this is my opinion - I hope it is at least somewhat useful to you. sorry I can't be more helpful.)
Naturally as a human, you want to try new things. This woman and her children are fairly new to the home, once you see someone everyday you become close to them and in that process you can quickly turn a friendship like care into false feelings. Because your telling yourself you have feelings for this women your going to actually develop them. Before its too late, hit reverse and morph those "feelings" back into a friend like care.
Don't view your wife as the person you've been with for 10 years, maybe try to look at her in new light as is meeting her for the first time.
Tell your wife you do not feel comfortable having another woman in the house - if she knows you are attracted to her best friend, she will get rid of her because that's not worth losing her marriage over.
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you need to talk to your wife and give home girl a dead line. shit is not cool. NOT COOL
Your wife's best friend needs a deadline to move out
I think that's big no no
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