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Questions To Ask Girls At Beach or Park
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Questions to Ask Girls At The Beach & Park
Not only are parks and beaches a great place to get outside, but they are also amazing places to meet a lot of women. These places are absolutely filled with interesting girls that would love to talk to an interesting guy (that's you). While you may think that there is no way that you could possibly approach them, or get them to talk to you, there are actually plenty of ways that you can get a conversation going without getting the 'five o' called on you.
The greatest thing about beaches and parks is that people are there to have a good time, and to be social. People actually go to these places to meet other people, so many times when you strike up a conversation, you will be met with enthusiasm. It can seem awkward to just walk up and start talking so here are some great ways to get things started. Just remember, while there are a lot of people looking to be social, some just want to be left alone, so if you get that vibe, respect their boundaries (otherwise you might have a great conversation with the police). It's a Social Place, and People Are There to Have Fun |  | Remember to smile!
It freaks girls out when you have a blank look on your face and stare at them. | | | | | People go out to the beach and to parks to have a good time, and also to be social. If they didn't want to be social then they would shut themselves in at home (much like you have been doing, but you're going to get over your fear and get out now). In addition, people that are at the beach and the park are there to have a good time. They are cooking out, they are playing games, they are taking to other people, and they are in the perfect mindset to have you talk to them. | Cookout Conversation
"Hi, I'm --insert your name--, how are you today?"
- She answers.
"Listen, some friends and I were throwing some burgers on, and we bought waytoo many (make a joke about how much food you get at the grocery supercenter).Rather than waste so much, I was wondering if you would like to join us?"
- She agrees.
"Great! Well I have to be honest, I'm not the best cook, so you will probablyhave to come over and show me exactly how you like it (make sure you are smiling)."
- She quips that you are just trying to get her to come over.
(smile) "Well, yea, that was the plan, but I also wanted to feed you too."
- She smirks, and joins you. | | As long as you keep in mind that they are having a good time, and they are there to be social, you shouldn't have so much anxiety about talking to someone. Make sure that you remember to be yourself (don't try and show off, otherwise you might pull a hamstring, fall, break a leg, and need her to carry you back to your friends so they can take you to the ER, or so I've heard), and don't worry so much about the end prize (getting her to go on a date), just focus on talking to her. Keeping this in mind will go a long way to help you relax, and to help get the social ball rolling, here are some great examples to get her attention.
Cookouts
There is nothing like being out in the sun, feeling the ocean spray on your face, and having some charred mammal flesh off the Barbie (that's Ausie for bar-b-que). One of the great things about cook outs is they bring people together in a way that nothing else can (except for throwing money up in the air). People either want to know how you prepared your food, how long you cook it, or to help you eat it. No matter what they are after though, they are going to end up talking to you.
There are plenty of great ways to start talking to people when you are having a cookout. If you have a lot of burgers and hot dogs (you can get them by the hundreds at grocery supercenters), go up and offer some to the girl that you want to talk to, or the group that she is with. You could also ask her for some matches (say you left yours in the car, but don't | pull them out of your pocket when she says she doesn't have any), and then invite her (and her group) to partake in the feast.
If she is the one that is doing the cooking, then go up and talk to her. I wouldn't suggest asking for some food right when you walk up, that is a little rude. But there is no problem with telling her cooking smells great and that you were curious about how she prepared the food. You can also tell her that your burgers (or whatever she is cooking) always get a little burned, and ask how she keeps her's from burning (please stay away from any bun jokes though). After a little talking, you may be able to get her to agree to let you have some food, or at least help you cook yours (please, no meat jokes either here, be classy) if you go and get some.
Remember, cookouts generally mean party, and you can't have a party without a lot of people. So go over (or invite them over) and start talking. From there you might even be able to get a group of people together and on top of talking to the girl you like, you might actually have a great time. | Playing a game
Parks and beaches are great places for community games such as baseball, soccer, volleyball, etc. The other great thing about these community games is that rarely do you ever have enough people to really play, so there is always room to invite more. Even if you do have enough people, you are only having fun so you can always add more. | You want to seem
smooth and confident,
not desperate and needy. | Just like with the cooking example, this approach can work both ways. Either you and your friends can be the ones that started the game and invite her and her friends, or you ask if you can play with her friends and her (no pun intended, but you are welcome to make a play on words if you like).
If you are getting a game together just approach her, and ask her (and any friends she is with, don't forget to include them) if she would like to play since you are a few people short. If she is with her friends playing a game, ask if you could join the next round since you don't have enough people to get a game going yourself.
If you find it difficult to start talking to her while she is in the middle of a volley (and yes, that would be slightly inappropriate and also lots of weird), wait until the ball gets away from her and get it, then start talking to her when you give her the ball. Just make sure you only go after the ball if it lands near you, after all, you want to seem smooth and confident, not desperate and needy. | | Music speaks everybody's language
Whenever there is a large group of people together, there is bound to be music playing. That is especially true at the beach and parks where people are enjoying each other's company, and relaxing. It can also be a great way to start talking to the girl you like without getting yourself overly nervous (it always helps to have a reason to be talking to her, not that you need one, but typically you won't be so nervous).
If you have brought a boom box with you to the beach, then make sure that you sit close enough to her group that she would be able to hear it. After a little while, ask her (and her friends) if there is anything that they would like to listen to. Perhaps she has some CD's in her car, or just a favorite radio station. Either way, you are talking to her, and by finding out what she likes to listen to, it gives you a great opportunity to keep talking to her.
Although if you didn't bring a boom box (you should realize by now, props help), then after a little while, go and ask her if it's ok to move closer so that you can listen to the music too. When you move close, thank her again and ask if she would like any drinks (you should have a cooler). You can also ask her what music she likes and tell her a few CDs that you have available and ask if she would like to listen to those.
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| | "What a beautiful dog. What breed is she?"
-She answers.
"Wow. How old is she?"
-She answers.
"Only one? They are funny at that age, they are fully grown, but still puppies, so they are still very clumsy."
-She agrees, and laughs.
"So do you go to a lot of dog friendly places?"
-She says she doesn't know of any.
"Really? There are some great places at the beach and even some restaurants downtown. I would like to go, but to be honest I feel a little awkward going alone. Would you like to try them out with me sometime?
-She agrees. | | | Lady and the tramp bringing together more than just meatballs | Dog parks are a great place to talk to people (and by people I mean women). The greatest thing about these canine retreats is that they are typically in an enclosed area of a larger park (not much space, so you are close to other people), she obviously shares a very important interest with you (the dog silly), and people love to talk about their animals. This is probably one of the easiest places to start a conversation with a complete stranger.
| The great thing at the dog park (or other dog friendly events) is that once you introduce yourself and start to talk about her pet, she will probably not stop talking from that point on. It's a great, non-invasive, friendly conversation that can let you learn a lot (mostly about her pet), but also let her see how great of a guy you are (because she likes animals, and obviously so do you).
Like with most other situations, it wouldn't hurt to have done a little research first (not on her, on different animal friendly places). That way, when you talk to her, you can bring up so other areas that she might like to take her dog, and since you also like pets, you could easily invite her to go with you. A truly great thing about many dog events is that they are at outside places with a lot of people, so if you feel uncomfortable asking her out alone, then ask her to meet you out at the next community event. From there you can always ask her out again (pets optional). | | Be Friendly and Be Approachable!
| A golden rule of trying to talk to any girl (or anyone for that matter) is that you have to be friendly (and approachable, but that normally goes hand in hand with the friendly part). If you are not friendly, then no one is going to want to talk to you (and be honest, how many unfriendly people have you ever wanted to continue a conversation with). | | Don't forget to include
her friends
when you talk to her.
If you ignore them, then they will do the same to you, and eventually,
so will she. | | The easiest way to be friendly (apart from doing everything the opposite of rude), is to smile. It's amazing how when you smile, even if there are some things that are bugging you, that you will start to be happy (or at least happier). In addition, when you go out to have a good time, forget about everything else going on in your life that is giving you problems, you can deal with all of that later.
Of course sitting in a corner all by yourself smiling isn't going to attract women to you (unless money is just falling out of your pockets, and even then, you better have a pretty big smile). But sitting in a corner sulking will absolutely drive them away, even if you go and talk to them later, they will remember you as that creepy guy in the corner. You' re going out to have a good time, so act as such. Women that you talk to don't want you to kill their mood, they want you to add to it. | | Respect Her Boundaries
While the majority of people at parks and beaches are looking to have a good time and to be social, there are some people that would rather be left alone. Perhaps they are having a bad day (they are not being friendly and approachable), or they just have a little time to relax and just want some sun. Whatever their reasons are (and there could be millions of them), you need to respect when people don't want to talk.
| Leave people alone that don't want to be talked to.
You want to be a friendly person, not a pushy jerk. | Unfortunately people don't typically wear a sign that says "I don't want to talk now, pick me up later." The only way that you will know that someone wants to be left alone is when you try and talk to them. Even though most people will probably be polite and talk back for a little bit, there are some people that will snap at you and tell you to bug off. If they do snap at you, don't let it ruin your day. Just apologize for bothering them (you can even let them know that the invitation stands for a cookout, or the game, etc.), and leave them alone.
Some people would say that you have to be persistent to get what you want, and while I believe that is true, I don't agree with engaging someone that doesn't want to be engaged. If you are genuinely nice, and apologize for bothering them some people will even come around and may start talking to you. If not, then there are plenty of other fish in the sea. | | | |
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