Your #1 Deal Breaker

Your #1 Deal Breaker

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I believe that disrespect is the main source of any relationship breakup. Everyone is kind, patient, tolerant, forgiving, or hopeful to another, but if they feel disrespected, resentment, distrust, and fear follows it.

I experienced people who have been rude, said hurtful things to me, or lied to me, but I would forgive them. After a few times of them repeating their attacks at me directly or indirectly and after they apologized many times, I realized they were disrespecting my kindness. They kept asking what pushed my limits when I was giving up a lot for them and only asking them to stop doing what was hurting me.

Liars who whisper behind your back are the worst. There is no truer sign of a fake relationship.

Its okay to burp every once in a while, but at least say "excuse me". If those simple two words are not mentioned after-the-fact, you might as well fart and scratch your ass too.

If a guy doesn't know how to treat a girl and actually sinks to the level of hitting or emotionally abusing then its time for me to say bye-bye:)

It's a tough one by my number one would be putting the hands on someone else, if you have to hit me to get your point across that's the type of attention I wouldn't want.

Someone who won't help you at all, whether it's with the housework, or with a piece of work. Just generally be lazy and not caring about what you are having to deal with.

And, linking into that, someone who puts you down. Whether it's insulting your body image, or telling you your rubbish... Once someone start behaving in these ways it leads to all sorts of other problems like lying, cheating, rudeness, deceitfulness. In my opinion this is the starting block to all sorts of problems!

Points out your flaws like as I'd you do already see them

For me it would be the guy to lead a girl on who he knew was innocent and naive and had never been with or done anything with a guy before. He'd tell her he really likes her for other reasons than the one fact - he just wants her for her body. Lust. Then once he pries the truth of her feelings of him from her, he rejects her but just asks to stay sexual when she genuinely liked him.

We all make mistakes. I can forgive almost anything- that is, if you tell the truth from the beginning. If not, then it's over. People are with someone because of who they are but if they lie then the other person doesn't truly know them. Lies are a deal breaker and ruin many otherwise succesful relationships.

I can be a bit annoying sometimes though I try to keep it on my sister. :P
If the guy can't deal with that, it would be unacceptable big time.
Everybody has annoying sides and mine happens to be a bit bigger so he has to deal with that if he really loves me. My mother always had a short temper and sometimes it would get out of hand. I guess that is the main reason. I fear that if he has a bad temper he would hit me also relieving bad memories that should be forgotten. I know I'm not supposed to dwell on the past and I don't, but if he gets abusive because of his temper than that won't help a bit.
In conclusion, bad temper= no relationship

Isnt it obvious? smelly, messy girls or guys? ew.

Without honesty and respect there is no relationship, so these two aspects are my deal breakers.

I hate it when a guy can't just leave me alone..after just talking on the phone with him he and spending a whole day with him he texts " what are you doing? * I'm busy and don't reply * him: " hello?" " you there?" " hey..." " what's up " LIKE SCREW off I'm busy.. I can't stand it when guys can't just do their down thing. And when they question you about everything.. " oh who is that guy on your Facebook ?" umm my cousin.. some guys are just so clingy they hate it when you say hi to a guy or a guy checks you out.. like I'm dating you for a reason and I'm not dating these other guys.. ughhh it just annoys me when guys can't just take 10 min out of their day without sticking their nose in my business.

I do everything I can to get on the good side of those who raised the one I plan on marrying in hopes of becoming one of their own eventually, and they hate me for it.

Wonderful.

Uncomfortable or odd relationship with his mother.

You know the kind where he may still sleep in her bed at night when he has bad dreams. I just can't handle that.

Shallow ..narrow minded, judgmental chicks are a deal breaker!

I hate it when a guy is too cocky or arrogant, it makes him look like a bastard.
That as well as when a guy is too insecure about himself. So frickin whiny and annoying, it makes them look like a pansy. And then when they start complaining or asking about it, "Am I too skinny? Am I being too annoying? Am I not good enough?" And you're too nice to say otherwise so you say no when in reality, you just want them to stfu.

When you can't do any thing with out feeling suffocated. it's more than holding hands when walking from the car to the restaurant or where ever its more like hugging and tripping over his feet. and when you get inside he stares at you the whole time... its intense. and then he orders everything for you and when its served he feeds u..... uggggggggggggggh...

the best man I ever dated, the right path, smart, head on straight, good looking, future security... had this FAULT and I could not stand him more than two months... xp

My ex I came home for work one day and fond her in bed with her boss and he was on top of her and that was my deal breaker I kick her out the door and him as well and have not seen her in 10 years thank god

I cannot stand stupid people. I like bookworms, people I can have conversations about Dyson spheres and the works of late Plato vs the original works. (which by the way, original works were closer to how the real Socrates behaved and preformed the elenchos.)

My number one deal breaker, that ended my last relationship was my ex had major jealousy issues; I have a lot of guy friends and my boyfriend couldn't seem to handle that. My guy friends are like brothers to me, they've been with me through so much and they stick by me no matter what; so if a guy doesn't like me spending time with guys who are like family, it's a major deal breaker for me.

My parents are suffering lung diseases from smoking, this has caused me to hate smoking and if the guy I am going to live with smokes and gets a lung infection or disease I wouldn't be able to deal with the heart ache it would bring to me like it has from seeing my parents smoke.

My #1 deal breaker is cheating. Once a guy does it he will keep on doing it. If I'm ever cheated on that relationship is thrown out the window!

No matter how charming, or handsome you are. If you are under 5'10, I just can't even start speaking to you. A tall girl needs a tall man, plain and simple. There's other deal breakers, but this one?_ is my #1 deal breaker, because all the other one's I can adjust to, but not this one.

A Man Is Only As Good As His Word.

I'm a VERY honest, direct sort of person. I tell it like it is, regardless of whether the news is good or bad. I have a reputation for being very trustworthy -- diplomatic as well, but not deceitful to any degree. I rely on others to be this way with me as well and appreciate honest, direct communication.

The one thing I would consider a real deal-breaker is lying. If a guy starts lying to me about small things, I can be sure that he's not being honest about the bigger things.

If I catch him lying to me about anything one time, I may give him a second chance, but if he lies twice, he's out. I had a relationship that I found out (too late) was based on a lie on my ex's part.

Trust is the MOST essential element in a relationship. You can't build mutual trust without honesty. You can't have honesty if one of you is always lying/hiding things from your partner. I hold my guy to this standard because I hold myself to that standard. :-)

My Deal break is a guy who compares you to his ex girlfriend and tries to morph you into her. It's stupid, if you want her get back with her, if you want something new stop trying to change me!!!

When a girl expects her *ideal* date and if it doesn't live up to it, she's automatically dissapointed and never talks to you again.

I was with a guy who always had to be the center of attention when he was with his group of friends. If everyone was talking about something he didn't like, he would literally interrupt them and start talking about himself!

Do you have a cat? If a woman has a cat, then the deal is off. We go our separate ways. I don't need a woman who loves her cat more than she loves me. And a woman with a cat always puts the cat first.

Will not commit or settle down

Just about every relationship has a breaking point. There are things that your spouse or partner can do that will force you to call it quits. Last week, I asked you to vote for your number one deal breaker and you responded. Let’s see the results.

Between the choices of poor financial management skills, lack of physical attraction, different life goals and values, emotional and physical abuse, and cheating and infidelity you responded as emotional and physical abuse as the number one deal breake

I can't stand anyone who cannot take a joke or crack a joke. My mother is this way am nothing I say or anyone else for that matter can make her laugh.

I hate snobs. This people put me in a loop.

When I was 14 he jumped her when she was 7 months pregnant and proceeded to beat on her. I stepped in and beat him up pretty badly. That day I vowed that I would never get married because I didn’t want any man to think he owned me, and I would never ever let a man beat on me. A few years back I got engaged to a man, soon after he put that engagement ring on my finger the abuse started. First it was a shove here or a push there. Then one night he forced me to have sex. Don’t get me wrong I like sex but when they pin you down on the bed and take it from you it’s a different matter all together. When I went to get up and leave after he was done, he pushed me back on the bed and sat on me and slapped me hard across the face. The look in his eyes was pure rage, and I was scared for my life. I truly believed he would kill me. He demanded I give him my truck keys so I could not leave. I tricked him into looking for my keys in his room, and when he left me alone I bolted for the door.

When a guy is a complete jerk, I'm automatically turned off him, no matter how good looking or otherwise "perfect" he may be. I also can't stand people who don't even ATTEMPT to look outside the box, and go through the same routine day after day.

That includes smoking and drinking, boys! You can be my dream come true, but if you do drugs, you can forget me. Nothing is more unattractive. I think I'd rather date an X-convict.

I absolutely cannot stand smoking! If I'm attracted to a guy and I find out he smokes the attraction dies then and there. And chewing is even worse!

I can't stand when men can't seem to keep their hands of their crotch when they are talking to people. Sometimes I don't even think some of them realize that they are doing it. Its like on some subconcious level their afraid its going to get up and run away! Definite Dealbreaker to have to put up with a Crotch Holding Loser!

White socks! can't stand a guy wearing white socks especially with black shoes!!! guys please this to the legend that was Michael Jackson!!!

He Has Also A Nice Body. Adorable Eyes . Very Comfortable To Cuddle With . ;'3 :D

Simply being rude and obnoxious for no reason.

I absolutely hate when guys spit especially around my parents and people of importance. So swallow and get over it... seriously!

I'm a firm believer that we are shaped by our pasts and our experiences. For this reason, I won't have anything to do with a girl that has a shady past, be it with relationships, sex, drugs, finances, debt or anything else that she'd expect me to help her carry.

And when you get into a relationship on a long term level, yes you will have to help them carry it or get out.

So I'd say go after the girl with high potential but low costs- someone fun and exciting that doesn't couldn't write a book titled 1000 Ways for your soul to die.

You'll thank yourself in the end.

A religious person is a huge "deal breaker" because I'm an Atheist leaning Satanist. Also I'm anti-religion especially against Christianity, but as a libertarian, I respect their right to practice any religion. I'll date a creationist but not a highly religious church goer.

It's a bit of a weird one, I know. When I was little, whenever I ate anything, my mum would yell at me if I chewed with my mouth open or she could hear me chewing at all. I guess it kinda rubbed off on me, and now that is my biggest pet peeve, I CAN'T be around anyone who chews with their mouth open. I think I come off as a bit of a freak because if I'm eating with someone chewing like that I'll either (depending on how close I am to them) ask them to chew with their mouth shut, or I'll leave. Unless it's someone super important like a teacher or boss. I don't even care so much about the gross factor of seeing the chewed up food, it's just the noise that makes me cringe and want to hit something. I would never be able to put up with a partner who chewed like that, it would drive me insane. That's always been my major deal breaker.

A deal breaker for me is for someone to not think I am worth the time. In fact A wise man once said: Don't make somebody a priority if they only make you an option. I say: Since I am not your priority, you are not even an option. Deal brearker

Its sums up everything ,lies,dishonesty, betrayal,disrespect.....etc

If he has ever done a black chick

Not much to explain, if she is rude to me in a way I don't like, its over... way too many fish in the sea to put up with bullsh*t

Many times have I seen girls dumb themselves down around guys. Why is that? That's my number one deal breaker. Why would any guy want a girl that can't carry on a conversation? Who's only knowledge is about men and mascara? I want a girl who can stimulate me intellectually. I can't stand a girl who isn't bright. I'm not even talking book-smart (of course, that's a plus), just plain intellect. I wouldn't last one minute in a relationship if the girl isn't smart. That's my number one turn-off: when a girl dumbs herself down because she thinks it's "cute" and "feminine", when in reality it's just, well, dumb.