This is for those who have never been in a relationship before, or don’t have much dating experience. You meet someone with good potential (maybe through online dating or from real life), and you’re nervous and want things to go well on the first date. Here are some tips.
Basic dating etiquette:
- Be punctual (give yourself enough time to get ready, ladies!)
- Don’t text
- Try to have a positive attitude and be friendly. No one wants to be around a Debbie Downer, especially on a first date.
- Be prepared to pay for yourself
Be a thoughtful conversationalist
Think of questions, as well as answers to possible questions, before you go on a date with someone. This is to avoid those awkward, on the spot responses that often happen when you are new at dating or maybe just awkward in general. Avoid giving one-word responses because those are boring. Really focus on the conversation and try to add to it.
For example, when your date asks, “How are you?” in the beginning, try to expand on “Good.” Say what you were up to that day.
When your date asks “What do you like to do for fun / in your free time?” give a list of things and hopefully he or she will be able to relate with at least one of them, giving you a common interest and thing to talk about.
When your date asks about past relationships (“So when was your last relationship?”), don’t mentally freak out because you’re embarrassed about never having been in a relationship before. Again, give a thoughtful answer. You could say something like, “Well, I’ve actually never been in a serious relationship – I've only casually dated," and mention how you’ve been focusing on other things or just haven’t found someone you were mutually interested in yet. Keep in mind that your inexperience is not a big deal if you don’t make it one, so just own it and own who you are. Have confidence.
- What do you do? / Where do you go to school? / What are you studying?
- What are you looking for?
- Did you grow up around here?
- Do you have any summer trips planned?
- What music do you listen to?
- What are your favorite shows or movies?
- Do you have pets?
For the guys:
If the date went well and you want to see her again, offer to pay. She will feel special and appreciate your chivalry.
An hour or two after the date, text her and let her know you had a great time. You could say something like, "Thanks for coming out with me tonight. I had a great time getting to know you :)" and if she's mutually interested, you guys can set up another date.