In today's day and age dating has become a relentless game of cat and mouse, heartache and pointless flings. People try to evaluate the person too quickly instead of actually getting to know them as a whole. It has really become like the actual dating game, you pick from a few people get to know one or too things about them and bam! You're in the relationship and just as fast as it started it ends and you're prowling the streets for the next "contestant".
Why does dating have to be so usless and yet so complicated now a days?
Recently I have been seeing a lot of my takes about, "the rules of dating" or "guidelines for a first date" but why are there rules in the first place? Isn't dating supose to be fun? Why can't people get to know eachother on their own terms and not what other people think it should be.
For example the typical first date is Dinner and/or a movie, which ends with the guy paying for some reason and a possible second date if you're lucky.
I see two things wrong with this, one why do people automatically assume the guy should pay? and why do guys assume us women want them to pay, i know i certanly do not and would not let the guy pay for me. and two why does the first date have to follow specific guidlines, why not just hang out, go to the park, somthing free yet enjoyable. The point of a first date is to get to know the person, and that's pretty hard to do during a movie in my opinon.
Another point I've seen people make is about how it is so hard to find someone now a days.
I'd have to agree with this, and it's not because there are not good people out there but more because people are lazy like i stated before. No one wants to take time anymore you either sleep with the person or find "the one" within a few dates and if not they're on to the next person. I understand sometimes you just don't have the connection with someone, or you're not looking for anything long term and there's nothing wrong with that. But when you find someone who you have a good connection with, don't rush anything. Don't try to get married on the second date or sleep with them on the first some of this takes lots of time, in the end it's worth it.
I just don't understand some peoples mind sets anymore some people hop from person to person, others do it to look desierable or cool. But really you're just waisting the amazing free time you have when you're single! Don't just jump into dating someone because they want to or any other selfish reason do it because you're generally interested in taking the time to get to know that specific person. Also don't go around thinking you're to good for anyone.
Just enjoy dating, without all the rules and without leading people on. a date is a date nothimg more relax and just be yourself.
(Sorry not very good at myTakes)