I am going into grade 12 this year and turning 17. I'm reflecting on my highschool years and I've only ever dated/ had flings with older guys. By older I mean guys 18-24.
Now I know what you're thinking, that's sketchy/creepy. I am not promiscuous I am a virgin. Let's get that straight. What's wrong with dating a guy 5 years apart? When you are over 18 you could date someone 30 and it wouldn't matter. I've always found myself wiser than people my age, and I have the mental capacity to date someone older. I'm smart enough too know when they are trying to take advantage of me, it's not a big deal
Highschool Boys are so immature. They look and act 5. All they talk about is partying, hooking up, and hockey. They gossip SO much, more than girls I've come to realize. They are way more superficial about girls looks, constantly comparing girls bodies. They are all dumb followers who are too afraid to be unique. They even have a game called blow job points where girls get points for how many guys they give blowjobs too...yup
Here are my reasons why dating older guys is better:
Older guys always smile at me, hold the door for me, watch with caution when I walk up the stairs in heels etc. I cannot recall the last time a guy my age has held the door open for me. I do however remeber getting hit by the doors in my highschool by idiot guys who swing them open, hit me, and then just stare at me and walk away. Crowd the middle of the hallways in groups and packs. ! got ice tea spilt on me once, because a guy fell into me and he said nothing. That leds to my next point
I also cannot recall the last time a guy my age said thank you, please etc. Older guys know how to politely approach a girl. Instead guys my age resort to yelling at me from far away, usually lewd comments. I remember one time in grade 10 history this guy would always comment when I walked by. One time my leg got scraped up from a biking incident and I was wearing shorts and across the room he yelled ma'am are you okay you're leg looks a little banged up there? It was obivously super sarcastic too. If you truly cared about my leg you wouldn't be yelling about it across the room, other than to embarass me.
3. Hook ups
Okay, I know guys in their twenty are usually just as horny as highschool boys. However, the older guys go about it differently. Most would take you out on a date first, and then hookup at the end of the night. If they don't even do that, they will say something like " hey, I'm just going to be completely honest I'm just looking for fun, would you be interested in hooking up?" In highschool, boys will text you something like "sup girl dtf?? my moms out to get groceries so u gotta leave b4 4pm tho" or, they will yell across the class to you in grade 10 history are you down to have sexual intercourse and then the next day they will yell the offers still on the table if you know what i'm saying. Yes, this is the same guy as leg guy previously mentioned. No, I am not making this up.
I have really developed a liking for university guys. Older guys are so much easier to talk to and connect with, carry out insightful conversations with. It's literally impossible to talk to guys my age because they don't know how to continue a conversation. They will reply with one word answers like "lol" "ya" "okay" " true that"
How does that progress anything?
5. They dress BETTER
I really enjoy a guy who can dress. Most older guys I see wear clothing from Zara, H and M, Hollister, Guess and designer brands if they are really fancy. Granted older guys have more money to spend on clothes, but I live in a wealthy area where guys at my highschool could easily afford to look nice and presentable. A lot of guys my age are still wearing their roots sweats and GAP sweaters mommy bought them in grade 9. When were sweats to be worn outside the house?
6. They have more money and freedom
Now this may sound shallow and gold digging but i'm not. It's not really a big deal but yes, it is nice to be treated to dinner once in awhile. It is also nice to not have to rely on mommy and her mini van to drive you to a date. A guy who is independent and lives alone is really attractive to me for some reason. I know highschool boys cannot control their freedom as much, but im just not interested in them
7. They look more like men
Well this is obviously a given because they are older so you cannot be too hard on highschool boys for this. But since I am a taller girl ( inbetween 5 foot 7 and 5 foot 8) with curves, I don't want to be dating some short skinny guy. I know it sounds shallow but I know for a fact he would feel uncomfortable and so would I. I like guys 5 foot 11 and over with muscle. Hell, I would take a guy with a bit of pudge over a guy who is 110 pounds and rail thin. If he had a good face and awesome personality I would consider it. But guys at my highschool lack both looks and personality so I don't feel shallow for saying this. Older guys tend to have more defined facial features and look more mature. I like that
So the next time you judge an underage girl for liking a 20 year old, you have to understand that the guys in highschool really just don't cut it. I don't even care if its illegal, I know what I want.