You’ve met someone and have agreed to go out, but while on the date or when you were saying goodnight, something personally embarrassing happens. Any of these examples and more:
- Choking fit
- Something stuck in your teeth
- Getting pulled over
- Being short of cash
- Zit bursting/bleeding
You might feel as though it would be best if the earth would split open at your feet and swallow you in. Instead, like a champion, you motor on through your night or try and end it with some grace. The problem is, after going home you wonder if the person thinks you’re a complete ass and will ever want to see you again.
First dates are horrific ordeals for people who want to make the best possible first impression. Realizing that we all make mistakes is hard to accept at the time you did something stupid. These are things couples can experience and have a laugh over once they’re established, but your greatest fear for this very moment is that you exposed a part of yourself that is truly human.
One thing to realize is that your date is probably guarding the impression they’re making on you too. They are doing everything possible to give a good front so you can assess their look and personality just as much as you are with them. Think they’ve never had a choking fit or let out a fart? They probably did just minutes before seeing you, and will again the second they return home.
You might be mortified, but the best way I can think of handling it is with some humour. You can say something like, “Well, that’s out of the way now, isn’t it?” Or, “Okay, well I guess we just inadvertently experienced Date #23, so how about tomorrow night we go on Date #1 again where you discover that I’m perfect?”
If your date found you irresistible before your little moment of being human, then they will probably adore you all the more afterward, maybe even feeling as though they too could feel comfortable should the moment come up and they end up feeling foolish about something later on.
Worst case scenario, your date went home and decided never to see you again. Listen: Your date was probably looking for an excuse not to go out with you again during the date anyway, and this silly reason was the excuse they were looking for. They did you a favour by not agreeing to go out again, and you certainly don’t need someone in your life who won’t forgive you for tripping and falling on the curb on the way to the car. Bigger things in life will be dealt with in relationships and you don't need someone to pick apart the small things only to know when the major things happen they won't be able to deal with it.
If you continue in to a relationship, things in life are going to happen, there’s no avoiding it. Someone is going to enjoy your company and remember how much they liked you more so than remember your “incident”. If anything, it will make for a cute story to tell others in years to come about how you met and what happened on your first date.