At least 10 times a day there is a post of 'She Friend Zoned me! What do I do?' It always bugs me because there is no such place.
So what is it? Well, most people think this:
Which I will say is partly true. The concept of a friend zone is actually not a thing for her, it is somewhere you have put yourself.
One of 2 ways:
1) So you met her and she was beautiful, she smiled at you back and you somehow made contact and started talking... You didn't build up the nerve to ask her out and then you missed out. Most men keep on looking for another opportunity but it's never going to happen. She has stopped seeing you as someone she can fall for so she moved on after giving up waiting.
2) You get talking to a girl you like who doesn't like you back, you never had a chance and you were never going to be more than just a friend.
So what can we do to fix it?!
In most cases, not a lot... I'm sorry to tell you that as I know it hurts but its true. For number 1 you have the best case of redemption, I suggest simply backing away and re-approaching. Its kinda like parallel parking in that respect. You screw up, you start again. If she asks you why you have backed away, this is your cue to tell her you like her and make your move.
For Number 2 however I am afraid you are pretty much doomed and for your own health I beg you to tell her you like her and you cannot be friends otherwise you are torturing yourself and probably her too with all the unsaid stuff between you.
Just know that while you think we heartlessly do this to you, we don't. We know fairly soon if we want to go out with a guy on a date or be his friend. I suggest you ask quickly and await a response, the one you get will be your answer. It will either be a yes or a 'sorry I don't like you that way, I hope we can be friends?' which means you will only ever just be that.
Also, in reference to the above I would like to add that as a girl who had a lot of male friends growing up (most were my brother's friends who adopted me when he stopped hanging out with them when he moved away) I never led anyone on. I did know that most of them liked me and it killed me with all the unspoken words as I knew I was hurting them by not being more than friends and I was petrified I would lose them as friends. We don't do it maliciously and we are scared to talk to you in a way which may take the sting out in case it makes you hope for more.
Please excuse this myTake as it is hastily written but I felt it needed saying...