It's the age old question, isn't it? Where are all the nice guys? Well... are you ready for the answer?
The truth is, nice guys AREN'T that hard to find. The problem is, girls don't find them attractive until they're well into their 20's, by which stage, ALL the girls seem to find them attractive at the same time. (ok, maybe not ALL... but you get my point).
Now think about this from the guy's perspective. During his horniest, and unfortunately, dorkiest pubescent years, he's been conditioned to accept that girls will usually pass him over for the jocks and the cool pretty boys. So he goes and focuses on his work, gets great grades, gets an awesome job, go to grad school, builds a career, and before he knows it he turns from this dork who can't buy a girl a drink at a bar, to getting all this attention from women who were previously unattainable.
And guess what? The majority of these girls have a pretty healthy attitude towards sex, and he finally gets a taste of what he's longed for all these years. So he continues to go on these dates, and sometimes he gets lucky and falls in love fast and finds his happily ever after early. Sometimes he gets his heart broken and gets lured to the dark side. Whatever the case, this former geek has discovered his new found powers of being the highly sought after guy, and the girls are finding that they have to compete for his attention and his time.
So let me ask you this now. Why would a nice desirable guy pick YOU from the crowd to be his happy ever after? Why should he wait for sex with YOU when it's being offered without issue by others? Why should he not take up those opportunities to have fun with other people just because he hasn't yet met YOU? Why are YOU worth the time for him to sleep with?
The answer, unfortunately, is that for women to get what you want, they need to invest in time with a guy for his future potential and help him grow towards that, rather than just sit back and wait for a guy that's already gained success. A guy that's already found his success has options, and most women either don't have or don't want to do what it takes to compete at that level.
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