Why you should date other races!

[Anonymous]

I want to share some fun facts, tips and advantages on interracial dating. I personally believe it should just be called 'dating' but anywho...

TIP: Do not assume that just because a person is from a certain culture or ethnic background that the person fits the stereotype of all people from that ethnicity. There is a great deal of diversity within a culture. Some people may "look" of a certain race or ethnicity but, may not identify with that specific group. When dating people of other races, just because you have a friend who is similar in culture or ethnicity, do not assume you know everything about his/her culture. Understanding the similarities and differences can help prevent misunderstandings.

ADVANTAGES OF DATING OTHER RACES

Learning about another culture or religion

Being exposed to new ways of thinking.

Having an incredible new experience with someone you love and respect.

Possibly learning a new language.

It keeps things interesting.

Breaking stereotypes

When you date someone of a different race, it gives you and your partner opportunities to break negative stereotypes about your respective races. It also provides a counterexample to ignorant and hateful stereotypes, and helps others become more open-minded and accepting.

You should broaden your horizons

The only failed relationship is one where you don’t grow as a person. Even relationships that don’t last forever can and should be mutually beneficial. Being open to “other” kinds of women and men offers a broader perspective of the world, including how you see it and how it sees you. And that positions you to make choices about things in your relationships that really matter, because you have grown in self awareness.

It's a good strategy!

Finding someone special is always a numbers game, so some level of strategy will do you good. If you’re statistically more likely to meet someone more your speed by checking “other” on ethnicity, then that’s just a well-informed decision. Well-managed decisions tend to offer better outcomes. Time is also a factor and plenty of it is wasted on people who just aren’t good for you. That doesn’t mean that people of your own race aren’t good for you, but if you are limiting yourself based on race, you’re also limiting your chances to find happiness. More options equals more chances.

Variety is the spice of life!

We all need it. A break from the norm. A chance to try something different. Variety enriches all other factors in your life: the food you eat, the places you visit, the shoes on your feet and the hair on your head. Why wouldn’t injecting a little spice into your dating selections be just as beneficial? Lots of women and men fall into the “tried it, didn’t work” category when it comes to dating people of other races, but bad dates are inevitable no matter what race the other person is. If at first you don’t succeed, try again. You may just find your soulmate.

It's the 21st century

The economy, business and information infrastructure is global — and yet your dating pool is ultra-local. Now more than any time in the past, women are empowered with the benefit of choice. Exercise it! (This goes for men too).

I'm NOT saying that we should all exclude our own races and strictly date people of other races, that's just ridiculous. If you're smitten with someone the same race as you then by all means, go for it!!

I do think that times are changing and the "norm" should be done away with. Rules are meant to be broken, if your parents or grandparents forbid you to date someone outside of your race you should say screw it and do it anyway!!

We do everything else our parents tell us not to, we're all human beings so why carry on with flawed 'traditions'? Ask yourself, why is being with another human being who only looks different from me considered so unorthodox? A better question is why do you listen to people with that flawed way of thinking?

You can't help who you fall in love with and anything that gets in the way of true isn't love at all. If you're not part of the solution then you're apart of the problem.

The only thing we're sure of in this world is change. Things are always changing and changes in our lives can happen at any time. Sometimes change is good.

[Someguy17]

Do it guys, totally worth it. This is coming from a guy who grew up in the south in a racist family. Benefits outweigh the cons, even when the family may not appreciate it. Lots of great surprises in store for those that venture outside of their race or culture.

I've gone from being totally against it, to being curious about it, to doing it. It has changed my outlook on the world and on women in many ways. I'm now able to appreciate the beauty of all women, and it has enriched my life exponentially.

[RedThread]

Pretty inspiring turnaround dude.

[Stacyzee]

I love this.

[Stacyzee]

Those that argue with your point clearly are those who do not broaden their horizons like you mentioned.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you! :)

[ElissaDido]

I thought about it many times. Yesterday our Biology/evolution teacher told us that the more a person is different from us, the more chances our offspring will be stronger...
But other than that, I think it would be very fun and interesting to learn and be in touch with another culture! But there are obstacles as-well...

[Anonymous]

Let's see.. I'm white with 3-4 generations removed from my native American ancestory... So, mainly white.

First girl I kiss = black (light skinned)
First girl I had sex with = black (dark skinned)
First girl I fooled around with = Asian
I've dated several white girls..
I've been interested in one girl who was from South America.. so latin American...

And I've found a few mexican females to be attractive.

The weird thing is, I have no problem dating or being in an intimate relationship with anyone of any race, but part of me does want a white child. I guess that's a down side to being white in comparison to the other races. Other races their skin tone and features tend to stand out more in their offspring than a white child. And I kind of would like my child to look like me in as many physical outward aspects as possible. With that said, I know full well that a mixed baby of mine that is either asian/black/latino or whatever can very easily still look like me with a dark complexion or a combination of my race and the mothers race (as I carry my native American ancestry bone structure more than I do my white ancestors bone structures, but have my white ancestors skin, eyes, hair color)

But like I said, I have no problem with being in a relationship and being with a woman of any race and I know that if we have sex and have kids that my kid is going to be bi-racial and I wouldn't love my child any less, but I wouldn't be able to empathize with my child if they ever have to deal with problems because of their outward appearance being black or Asian or latin American because it's not something I can ever experience. I can sympathize but not empathize with them. And I think that fact kind of worries me because I would want to do everything I can to be there for my child but without ever truly experiencing what they are going through.

[girlinthemirror]

Do u have blue eyes and light hair?
Just curius, cuz u said u have native American roots

[Opinion Owner]

@girlinthemirror When I was little I had blond hair and my eyes are blue-ish green. Now, my hair is dark brown. My oldest brother carries the most traits as he has dark eyes and pure black hair and facial hair, but he doesn't really grow facial hair that well. I grow it fairly well and my facial hair is brown/blond/red.

[RexCatholicissimus]

Though I have no personal issue with interracial dating or interracial sex, I do think there's a certain cultural, social and maybe even a biological imperative for people of different races to actually have children within their own race (spanning from things like the child growing up culturally confused to things like social prejudice).

I do find it interesting how white men and black women apparently have the lowest divorce rate in America, though. I'm genuinely curious why that is, it may just be because not many black women and white men get married to begin with so the statistics are lessened by default, but if there other reasons I'd love to know.

[9mfeo]

If it's a rate though, isn't it normalized by sample size?

[Afrochick]

I find the divorce rate interesting as well.

[BigJake]

I don't understand why there's this sudden effort to push interracial dating as almost an imperative. Traditionally, black women and white men have not been attracted to one another. Black girls have thought "white boys" were unmasculine and unattractive, and white guys have considered black girls unfeminine and unattractive. Now, out of the blue, black girls want to date white guys? Doesn't make sense.

I think the real issue is that black women are facing a shortage of black men to date. So many black men are either locked in prison or dating non-black women that the prospects of black women have become substantially diminished. This has necessitated the campaign by black women to convince non-black guys that they're interested and a good option.

[9mfeo]

Or, you know, there's no logical reason to date exclusively within your own race.

[Bards]

Hahha omg

[BigJake]

@9mfeo Of course there is. There are numerous cultural and financial reasons to date within one's race. Within-group marriage is the worldwide standard. People of similar ethnic and religious groups marry one another because marriages based on commonality of values and experience are more successful than those that lack any rational basis.

[9mfeo]

One may still be of a similar background but not be of the same race. As in, Americans have a fairly uniform cultural experience.

[Jay-Are]

That is not the issue. Interracial dating is about dating whoever you are attracted to. You are white and attracted to white? That's fine. You are white and attracted to black (or any other race)? That's fine too. And any other combination is fine too.

The push is needed because some people are still too closed of to the idea.

[BigJake]

@Jay-Are What's wrong with being closed off to the idea? You said yourself that it's about dating who you like, so if you like your own race, what's wrong with closing the book on all the others? No one's ever criticized black people for solely dating black people, so why is it acceptable to criticize white people for dating solely white people?

[rjroy3]

He was referring to people who wouldn't date outside of their own race because of cultural differences or fear of being looked at differently by people of their own culture. Not because they don't like people of another culture. The "push" is to get people to let go of the fear of doing something they want.

Makes sense to me. I've dated many girls with racist family members and it caused issues. For some people, having a racist family is reason enough not to date outside their race even when they really like the person. And that is bad. Because you're letting others dictate what your life will be and what it will look like.

[rjroy3]

It's bigger than black and white. Try to remember that

[BigJake]

@rjroy3 If someone needs to seek permission to date someone, I'd say they're already lost.

[rjroy3]

Where did permission become apart of this?

[BigJake]

@rjroy3 That's pretty much the thesis you cite for this article's raison d'etre...

"The "push" is to get people to let go of the fear of doing something they want.

For some people, having a racist family is reason enough not to date outside their race even when they really like the person. And that is bad. Because you're letting others dictate what your life will be and what it will look like."

You wrote that people need some external impetus to overcome whatever internal roadblocks they've constructed to dating other races. That's nothing more than a need for permission.

[rjroy3]

Lol I think you're confusing motivation for permission.

[rjroy3]

That is far from what I said, so no it is not "pretty much" what I was pointing too.

[BigJake]

@rjroy3 If you need external motivation to date someone, you have serious issues LOL. You also might be Asian, as well.

[BigJake]

@rjroy3 But no, you clearly state that a "push" is necessary to get people into the mindset of dating people of other races. That's permission, pure and simple. If you didn't need permission, you wouldn't be looking to external sources on the internet for any kind of "push" to do it, you would just do it of your own free will.

[rjroy3]

Ahhh. You're racist. Ok, that's all I need to know.
*waves goodbye*. Have a nice day

[BigJake]

@rjroy3 That's really weak, but totally expected. Any time a black person loses an argument, it's an absolute certainty that the race card will be slapped down on that table.

[Afrochick]

DUDE LOL

[CapricornSwagL]

Lmao are you freaking serious? Everything you said is bullshit. I'm open minded to dating all races. The only 'unmasculine' men are feminine men and those types comes in ALL races. And what tf is 'traditionally' ? No. such. thing. I date whoever I want PERIOD. I do agree that most Black women will not date white because of the history (maybe some doesn't find them attractive which is fine and a preference) but for petes sake that crap is over. Lots of Black women are dating outside their race because they want too. Sure some seem the light after seeing Black men date white women (I personally do not care). I've seen lots of interracial couples in my 19 years of life, they seem happy, and didn't care that the world was watching and judging.

I don't care that Black men are dating other races. I'm gonna date a different race because I want to NOT because we're 'low' on Black men. And we don't know the race of whoever wrote this.

[BigJake]

@Afrochick Someone's got to call it what it is, embarrassing though it may be for people like you.

[rjroy3]

" If you need external motivation to date someone, you have serious issues LOL. You also might be Asian, as well."

Your words pretty much speak prove me right. This was never an argument for me and the fact that you think you won makes it surprisingly hilarious lol.

And you didn't really help your case when you said, "anytime a black person". Lol.

[BigJake]

@CapricornSwagL LOL I went to a very ethnically diverse high school near Houston that was about 40% black. I heard dozens of black girls say over and over again derogatory things like "white boys can't ball" or "white boys are punks," "punk" meaning something different in the blaxicon than what it means to white people. It became pretty obvious to me that black girls really dislike white guys and have little respect for us. I'm not guessing at this; I've lived it.

[BigJake]

@rjroy3 I'm sorry you feel a need to seek external permission from others to date whom you choose. If articles like this help you, then mazel tov.

[rjroy3]

You know someone doesn't have an argument, when they default to sarcasm. *raises drink to you*

[BigJake]

@rjroy3 No, my sarcasm reflects the pity I feel for you.

[CapricornSwagL]

@BigJake Omg dude your school isn't the entire Black race. Maybe those black girls dealt with something bad involving white guys. Maybe they were racist. We don't know. I was taught to not like white guys and date only black guys, guess what? My first boyfriend was white, my first kiss was white. Not because he was white but because I liked him and had feelings for him which is too real to ignore. He was freaking hot and we was a great couple. Some people didn't approve, did we care? HELL NO because it was our live not theirs.

[BigJake]

@CapricornSwagL My high school was pretty representative of the way black people feel, though, that's for certain. I don't need to poll every single black person to have a general idea of their views on white people. And what I'm saying isn't in contravention of reality. The reality is, white guys and black girls stay away from each other. Why? Probably because they aren't into each other.

[CapricornSwagL]

I just proved to you there ARE black girls and white guys together ROMANTICALLY -_- *sign*. I'm done. I see nothing can get into your brain to prove you wrong smh.

[the_champ]

MyTake owner makes MyTake about interracial dating, 'BigJake' sees this as an opportunity to jump on and attack black men and women. Bro, interracial means any and every race, for some reason you have a hard on for talking shit about black people. Why not mention Asian women and White men, how about all those white men destroying their culture? Why not mention any other race like Turks, Persians, East Indian, etc. why so hell bent on taking jabs at black people? Interesting perspective you have.

[Jay-Are]

If someone is attracted to just to white or black or Asian it is their choice. That's just a preference. Nothing wrong with that. But do you really think the issue is because too many black men are in jail? That makes no sense at all. When a black women dates a white guy it is because she likes that guy. Not because other black men are supposedly in jail. And Men & Women can date each other even if that racial combination has never been done before. So my answer was given because you were completely missing the point of this article.

[rjroy3]

@Jay-Are

He had preconceived ideas of black people as a whole. Don't take what he says too seriously. I just think it's funny that his whole premise is that white men and black women don't like eachother, yet my dad is white and my mom is black xD.

And when he made generalized racist comments and I point that out, he follows up with another racist comment. So trust me, just let this one go lol. He's a sad man.

[asiag299]

Wow you're a jerk!

[BigJake]

@asiag299 No, I'm a realist more than anything else. Black women didn't want anything to do with white guys before 3 years ago. It was only when they realized how many black guys were dating non-black girls that they seemed to suddenly become fond of white guys.

[asiag299]

Or it could be a possibility that just recently people started realizing that people from other races found them attractive. I don't mean just black people either most of the time when you ask people of other races why they don't approach other races it's because he/she says "he must not be into black girls or she probably doesn't like Asian guys." Until now nobody knew mutual attraction even existed and even now a lot of people still doubt it does.

[BigJake]

@asiag299 I still don't think it does exist between black girls and white guys. I went to a high school that was 40% black, and I never once saw a black girl with a white guy or even flirt with a white guy. It didn't happen. That, and black girls actually seemed to dislike white guys. On more than one occasion I overheard black girls put down white guys as a group. All of this gave me a clear picture of how black girls felt about white guys. We were a joke in their minds, and that was only a few years ago.

[asiag299]

I don't know what part of town you live in lol but you guys probably seemed standoffish. (this is just a guess) Most white guys aren't open about dating black girls and if a black girl did want to date him she would probably have been rejected. It's easier to mask the thought of being rejected by playing up your dislike for them. Although that isn't right either. Furthermore you can't generalize the whole world off of your high school experience with immature teens. Most people are jerks in high school to be completely honest. You're 23 right? So this was what 5 or 6 years ago you need to let your high school experience go and realize that your area may have had mean black girls but we all aren't like that. For instance I'm not going to say a white guy can't play ball because he's white! That's pure ignorance. Also the reason why they might've been mean is because maybe some of the white guys at your school showed no interest either which could breed a hatred for white guys as a whole.

[asiag299]

It's sad but true it wasn't acceptable and honestly that was 5 to 6 years ago it wasn't even talked about then or thought about mostly because white guys generally just didn't seem to like black women. Not to mention how the media tends to portray black women as generally non accepting of white males because the they deemed them "not masculine enough." when this couldn't be further from the truth. If you're masculine you're masculine race has nothing to do with it. Besides if that was how the media portrayed us back then as well as now why wouldn't black teen girls think this how they should act. Or this is how they should be? Teens are impressionable and also naive if they favorite actress portrayed the type of black woman mentioned above then teens would be likely to follow in example. The reason for this is because being like a celebrity is cool no mater how ridiculous they act. I can fully understand your point of view even though I'm a black female who doesn't think like this.

[asiag299]

I won't discredit your opinion although it is slightly biased as it's based on your experience but your opinion is your opinion and we all have a right to that. I will say that because of the age gap between your age and mine (7 years) could be a reason why our opinions differ so much as well as being on opposite sides of the fence. Seven years is a lot of time for things to change! We also probably are not from the same area either. Anyways it was nice seeing your side as well as debating with you. Sorry if I have long paragraphs lol :)

[BigJake]

@asiag299 Honestly, most white kids at my school were scared of the black kids. The black kids seemed to want to look for reasons to fight us, and there were a few gang beatdowns that made everyone just stay away from black kids for fear of their safety. So no, there wasn't much interaction between the two groups, but it wasn't because white guys "rejected" black girls. We were scared to even have anything to do with them, or any other black kids, for that matter.

I don't judge everyone based on high school experience, but it did make an impression on me. I think it was closer to the real truth than a lot of the PC stuff I hear in the media and on the internet.

[asiag299]

I can understand that I do find that tons of black kids even now tend to have a lot of hate towards white people. I guess in a way its understandable but at the same time every white person isn't out to get you. I think your high school just had generally bad black kids not so much as them being black was the problem so much as the problem was that they were aggressive humans. So I can see why it made a terrible impression on you. I just hope you understand that not all black people men or women are like that. I just hope that you don't let that rotten experience keep you from exploring friendships or relationships with black people. I also can respect the fact that you weren't rude in your opinion. I like that we were able to be respectful towards each other as that seems rare on the internet.

[BigJake]

@asiag299 No, I won't play the dozens with people on the internet. It seems petty and childish to me. I'm glad to have a real discussion about this, and I appreciate the fact that you took my views at face value without labeling me a racist just because I don't have a Kumbaya view of race relations.

I am open to friendship with black people, but it always seems so strained. I watch football games on Saturdays with a bunch of guys at my college. We usually get together at 3 and have a watch party for 4 or 5 hours every other Saturday. There's one black guy who comes, and he always seems so uncomfortable around us. He's a nice guy, but you can just tell he feels out of place. That's why I think segregation still occurs. Black and white people just don't feel comfortable with one another. I'd say this is reason #1 why interracial dating isn't more common. We just don't have the commonality that makes for easy relationships, so we go where we're wanted.

[asiag299]

I understand what you mean even now sometimes I get awkward around a huge group of white people and it's not because I'm racist. For awhile it's been seen as weird or taboo to have friends of other races without being seen as trying to act white or act black (seriously how can you act a color) It was just easier to hang out with people the same race as you. In this aspect I most definitely agree with you. Most of the time we don't feel comfortable around each other and do to our history it kind of makes sense. So you're probably right about that being a reason why it's less common for black and white people to be in interracial relationships with each other.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to get more down votes from the racists like before, but I agree. Love is love, you can't help who you fall in love with. People generalize someone else because of the way they look based on other people, instead of getting to know the individual person. I see it in the comments already, some are already being prejudice and trying to give an example as to why their view is right to them. No one can know every single human being to make that judgement, but whatever.

Yes, I am guilty of this, but not on looks. I dated an extremist in his religion and I don't want to do that every again. It's scary, but I would be open if the person wasn't an extremist. (Sorry this is off-topic a bit).

[RedThread]

I think people should date individuals and if they happen to be a different race than that's cool and if they aren't then that's also cool too. I don't think people should actively seek it out just like I don't think people should actively seek out people with the same skin color as themselves. I just think we should treat people as individuals.

[coconutelixir]

Now, do you think it's fair to actively seek out a person of a particular culture due to interest or similarity/familiarity?

[RedThread]

@coconutelixir sure but keep in mind that culture and race aren't always the same thing. Someone can be of one skin color and have any culture. If we short change people right away we might miss out on that.

[coconutelixir]

I get you. I was just noting that cultures tend to have predominant races so it ends up being about race "unintentionally." I'd say it's very fair to have cultural preference, afterall, it's a way of life and the chemistry between two people shouldn't necessarily be the sole thing to consider if cultural way of life is important to the person. You're right that someone could miss out on an very compatible individual that way. in my opinion, it turns into do you wanna give a chance to the unknown in a way.

I think a lot of racial preference may be misnamed and is actually really a cultural preference, but I'm sure a good amount of racial preference is sexually motivated and an even lesser amount motivated by something else like hate. What do you think?

[RedThread]

@coconutelixir I kind of think everyone is an unknown when we are getting to know them regardless of race.

When it comes to perspectives of beauty, I think a lot of us are taught what's beautiful growing up and even if we don't intend to be hateful or show prejudiced, we are all raised in a society that still puts a lot of emphasis based in the color of our skin and desirability based off of that. So no I don't think people are motivated by hate but I think we are all influenced by it whether we realize it or not. It could also be cultural stereotypes that we are influence by in the same way. People's beauty standards are diversifying more and more though so I think that's a step in the right direction. I remember there was a time when my beauty standards for women were more racially based but that changed as I explored new ideas, watched foreign films, and learned about different cultures (I love traveling). In the end I think beauty is pretty fluid and our tastes can really change.

[coconutelixir]

O ya, every one of us is an unknown to the other, I meant the difference in culture adds another unknown on top of that. Speaking for myself, no one in my extended family has married outside the ethnicity. It wouldn’t be received well, and though they could warm up eventually, it would change things. I can’t imagine a life with someone not having the same relationship with my family. That kinda sacrifice and unknown puts me off even trying, so I don’t. If that pressure wasn’t there, I wouldn’t mind a person’s background. I guess for me, family and culture does not affect attraction, but it affects pursuing the attraction.
Back to racial beauty, I am with you. I do notice the world is heading towards a more open-minded perspective. It’s nice. When you stop and think about it, it’s weird how much emphasis has been placed on this 1 feature (skin color) compared to all other features. For some, a person’s skin color can divert attention from their eyes, lips, hair, style, personality, etc

[DivaMonae]

I understand and agree with some of what you said but we shouldn't have to be influenced to date someone of a different ethnicity or race.

The #1 reason as well as only reason we should want to date someone of a different race is because we're into them and it just so happens that the color of their skin is different if that's so happens to be the case. If they're the same then that's fine too. We should be encouraging people to date or be with who they want regardless of their race.

[myTake Owner]

That's one of the points I was getting at. If you like someone you shouldn't shoot down the idea of dating them just cause they're a different race.

[9mfeo]

Here's how I see it: eventually, when most of the bitter racists die off (so like 50-100 years in the future), not being open to other cultures will be the unusual thing. You'll be ridiculed for holding on to an archaic idea like mayonnaise only goes with mayonnaise and boiled, unseasoned chicken breasts. Don't get caught on the wrong side of history, friends: be open to love, whatever culture it may come from.

[Curmudgeon]

But what happens when the opposition comes NOT from white men or women, but from Black Women and East Asian men, as it does now? (See my comment above, or is it below?)

[9mfeo]

@Curmudgeon as a mostly white person, I can only write from my own perspective.

[guitar94]

Why should we go out of our way to date another race? Date who you like, skin pigment is unimportant.

[myTake Owner]

Obviously I did NOT mean people should only date other races and exclude their own. That's not the message I was trying to portray. I should have picked a different title cause it seems to be the only thing a lot of people are focused on. Thanks for your opinion. :)

[jjmarvin]

I don't care about culture or religion.

It would be disrespectful for me to date someone for "aren't i just the little stereotype breaker? Take that society!" reasons.

It is possible to just be legitimately attracted (or not attracted) to one race, certain individual races, or every race.

Doing it for social justice reasons is so tacky

[Bards]

I doubt most people do it for social justice.

[jjmarvin]

@Bards lol i know bards. But the Internet is rife with people who explain it in those terms. It just gives the whole thing an air of disingenuousness. I just genuinely find all races attractive so it just makes me cringe a little

[Bards]

Thats true :/

[myTake Owner]

@jjmarvin Obviously I did NOT mean people should only date other races and exclude their own. That's not the message I was trying to portray. I should have picked a different title cause it seems to be the only thing a lot of people are focused on. You're absolutely right tho. :)

[Anonymous]

So, your argument for interracial dating is basically "cultural tourism/voyeurism."

Let me be frank: I find that repugnant. It's horribly insulting. And it IS, in essence, a form of racism.

There should be one reason and one reason only why you are dating someone: you met them and you struck it off nicely. If any of that other shit came into the decision making on whether or not to "try" interracial dating (especially if you're out proactively looking for interracial dates for those reasons), then I'm sorry, but you're not mature enough to be dating.

[myTake Owner]

My point was that if you're attracted to someone of another race you shouldn't not date them just cause they're a different race. No one has to go out looking for people of other races to date but they shouldn't exclude them from their options.

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

I think most people are like this anyways, why did you feel the need to say this.

[FakeName123]

I agree with anon here. This is ridiculous of a mytake and sounds more racist than a lot of actual racist pieces I have read in my life.

[myTake Owner]

You obviously didn't read and comprehend the take fully.

"Finding someone special is always a numbers game, so some level of strategy will do you good. If you’re statistically more likely to meet someone more your speed by checking “other” on ethnicity, then that’s just a well-informed decision. Well-managed decisions tend to offer better outcomes. Time is also a factor and plenty of it is wasted on people who just aren’t good for you. That doesn’t mean that people of your own race aren’t good for you, but if you are limiting yourself based on race, you’re also limiting your chances to find happiness. More options equals more chances."

Dating someone of another race who you're attracted to can also help you to find happiness. That person just may be 'the one'. The fact that you view it completely as "cultural tourism/voyeurism" tells a lot about you and the people who agreed with you.

[angelling]

Really great take, the first point is so important. I actually broke up with my last boyfriend who was of a different race (well this contributed, it wasn't entirely the reason) because of the lack of understanding of my culture and the plain ignorance towards it. I felt like I had to pretend to be like him and do things his way when I do things differently because of how close I am with my culture. I really urge anyone who's going to date interracially to find out how close the person is with their culture and be sure to understand it.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks. :)

[PLLFan21]

Nice my take! Being mixed myself, I never had "identity issues" .. I always knew I was human, and not what my skin color is. I don't understand how people thing it's wrong or bad to date someone who isn't their "skin color" , sounds a bit ridiculous to me. At the end of the day... We all bleed the same color, and we are all human..

[coconutelixir]

I personally would prefer to be with someone of my own culture or at least of the same religion (could be different race), because it's an important part of my life and would make it easier/ more peaceful/more relateable for now and long term BUT if I met someone amazing to me whom I had great chemistry with from a different race/culture/religion completely, I wouldn't automatically reject that.

I'm all for people dating who they want. Do it for you and what matters most to you. I think it's okay to prefer your own so long as you don't sit there bad mouthing or barring others for doing otherwise.

[Marinepilot]

I see nothing at all wrong with interracial dating/marriage. Sadly, all too many people do. You cannot help who you fall in love with. The heart wants what
the heart wants. Although many people don't see things this way.

[Curmudgeon]

I`m not against interracial relationships. I have been involved time and time again with lovelies of the East Asian persuasion. My personal opinion is that you should love the person you love. After all, that`s a lot better than marrying a person you don`t love – or not marrying at all.

However, there is one possibly thorny problem--what if the ratios of the couples are not equal or close to it?

One unexpected effect of the growth of interracial marriage has been to increase resentment toward whites felt by black women and East Asian men. Black men are about 3 times more likely than black women to be romantically involved with white men. And corrpondingly, East Asian women were 3 times more likely than East Asian men to be paired with white women.

Result: a fair number of lonely and annoyed black women and Asian men. And they, not white men or white women, are those most opposed to interracial relationships.

[NotATumblrGirl]

Weather a person wants to date outside of their ethnic group is there business. Racism will still be alive and you can learn about other cultures without dating someone from hat culture.
I think society worries to much about being politically correct. Yes, I am happy people are being more accepting of each other and respecting each other. However, that does not mean a person has to abandoned what they believe in or want.
What makes the world so great is our differences and the beauty of our differences.

[rjroy3]

I don't think everyone "should" date someone of another race unless they want to. But if they do that will also be a beautiful thing : ). I'm sure you didn't mean EVERYONE should only date outside of their race, but the tone of the take was leading that direction. Just thought I'd point that out

[myTake Owner]

I agree.

[Mandycandy42]

Hey what if everyone STARTED to date, have sex with and marry, exclusively outside their race? I think it's a beautiful and hot concept and with mostly mixed children being born from now on? What an entirely different world this would be, eliminating racism is embracing each race and all becoming one a part of the human race! Gets my heart racing thinking about it!

[myTake Owner]

@Mandycandy42 that sounds like a wonderful thing.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

I don't know why but I feel like black people with white people look sort of odd depending on their features. Like a really dark black person with a really pale white person looks somewhat bizarre. I don't know I guess it's the contrast. I don't feel that way though if it's a light black person with a tan/light white person, that looks a little better to me. But all the other kinds of interracial dating look fine, it's just that one pairing. And no I'm not racist lol, I'm a biracial person myself it's just a personal opinion.

[myTake Owner]

I think the contrast is interesting and beautiful.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

That's cool for you. In my personal opinion it's bizarre.

[Adaeze97]

I think people should be more open minded about dating outside of their race when it comes to dating but I wouldn't say they should feel obliged to date other races.
Personally race has no influence in dating for me, but being the only black student in my school I ended up dating a white guy.
But I wouldn't go out of my way to date someone of a particular race, including my own.