Mind blankness is emotional impotence
This is one of the most painful aspects even for guys who've at one time been good with girls, but either because they've lost momentum or been in a relationship for a long time, when they're forced to meet new women they can't think of anything to say and so resort either to "hey" or "let's ****" both generally illiciting a negative response though there's always the exception. Not being able to think of anything to say feels horrible, because you know it's you who's ruined it. Not only does it make you feel frustrated and angry at yourself, it's maybe the one most universal thing that makes you unappealing to the opposite sex.
Your friends are attractive
This is true and I'd say especially for guys. Girls can't trust the same way men can not only because men are typically more prone to cheating, but also for safety factors (this is not always the case; there are men who have legitimate reasons to not trust or feel safe.) In this way, penetrating a girl's social circle is the single most effective way of getting to date her. If she's always around your friends that's a lot of close contact with her guard down. This leads to an installation of the "don't smash the homie" rule. But, let's face it, if your girl is hot then would your friends really not get with her especially if they thought you'd never find out?
Many "Cold Approaches" Don't End Well
The stereotype of a player is the guy who walks up to a random girl in a bar and gets her up to the hotel. Well, if it's a hotel bar, it's likely the girl is waiting to get picked up for such activity, however, your typical "player" constantly has drinks thrown in his face. But even if his success rate is 30 percent, with such a direct approach he can be more or less sure to get laid with only an average of 5 drinks thrown in his face before a girl is down for his blunt charms. For someone who's trying to be more brave with women getting told "eww" when they try to approach with confidence can be soul crushing. In this way, the game can be crushing unless you take small steps or have a perservent attitude.
You Can Do Everything Right And Still Be Hurt
True for both men and women. It's really decieving to call it "The Game" since even if you play everything right you can still lose. It doesn't work like a video game even in some glorious moments it can seem like it does. There will inevitably be a moment in even a "10's" life where he or she goes that **** wasn't fair!
You Can Get Pidgeon Holed
And if you get put in the friend zone it can be hard to escape. You will get paranoid that you will again be put in the friend zone and subconsciously bring it about. You will act like you deserve to be in the friend zone since you spend so much time dwelling in it. It's natural to try to see where you fit into a system, but trying to see where you fit in can imprison you in the Dating Game, which really isn't fair.
Real Girls Require Real Confidence
Your mom telling you everyday before school that all the girls have a crush on you can give you real confidence because you actually believe it even though it isn't true. What isn't real confidence is you giving yourself a pep talk before going to the club. Such confidence can work on girls who are just as nervous and insecure as you are in the inside, however, the girl that you approach is most likely the girl that a lot of other guys approach and therefore she has confidence. If nothing else she is confident that she is desired by many men. As such, you interacting with her with anything less than a relatively equal belief that she finds you attractive too with be cause for automatic blowout. Why is this unfair you ask? Well, in order to really believe you are attractive to that woman you need to believe you're attractive to beautiful women in general. In order to believe you're attractive to beautiful women in general you need to have actually been desired by beautiful women in the past and if you have been then why are you not confident in the first place? Basically, The Game is meant to crush those at the bottom and elevate those already at the top.
A lot of this is reiteration of common knowledge, but I think it's important for guys to realize they don't suck...The Game sucks. It isn't their fault. It's something external to them. They aren't victims, but they also aren't responsible for the fact that it isn't fair. Acceptance is Peace.
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