The Three Girlfriend Model
This of course is not a new invention but rather a realistic strategy to living a lifestyle which is mainly invisible in dating unless you're famous in some way--multiple girlfriends. Because of social media, it's impossible to do this clandestinely, however, the model doesn't require secrecy but rather a polite understanding of what you're willing to offer and a vague don't ask don't tell policy. The rules of the model that act as pillars holding up the foundation are:
Always Have Great Sex First
Because you can't offer commitment, you have to offer something else in it's place of equal or higher value. To me, the most obvious choice is great sex. If you can't have great sex then you need to work on that, which I believe each and every man is capable of performing. Of course, like wine, sex gets better over time, however, a great first time is still very much possible. This creates a connection with both parties helping each other reach ecstacy. You are with one another because it is highly pleasurable to do so--not out of lonliness, neediness, or emotional dependency.
Privacy is Crucial
When they're not with you it's there time. Of course you text frequently, but never to check up only to check in. They can be swiping right or meeting guys at parties or bars that's not your concern. It only becomes your concern when they break up with you for them if that happens at all. The point is you cannot claim their time as your own and you must given them privacy and space more so than you would a monogamous girlfriend.
No Schedules
Scheduling one girlfriend Monday through Wednesday the next thurs through Friday and the last sat and Sunday misses the point of dating three girls. No week should look the same and everything should be based off your pleasure center--do you want to see this one today or that one? This one in the morning or that one in the afternoon? When you introduce logic and you get away from the present moment's desires, you create the very structure of responsibility and stress you were trying to avoid in the first place. Now you HAVE to do something at least three times a week and you don't have the freedom to see or not to see one. Girls will be a lot more flexible as long as your foundation--pleasure--is kept up. In other words, when you're with them you ALWAYS make them feel really good even if a month goes by in between. One consideration to make is if you need to plan a trip with one of them then of course you can plan ahead but if financially possible trips should be planned as close to the actual date as possible.
No Favoritism
Favoritism is monogamy plus cheating. In reality you have one girlfriend but you use the others for whatever you don't feel like you're getting. The three girlfriend model is not about such business. It's about the guy who wants love, connection, and sexual variety all. As such, every girl deserves to be treated as your girlfriend and if you see her as less attractive than the other two then she needs to be let go or made into a friend. Again, avoiding stress and stresfull situations is the utmost importance in this model.
A NOTE ON JUDGEMENT:
You of course may be judged for adopting this model mainly by women. Remember though that it's not like you're having your three girlfriends all come over for dinner and divide you like concubines. They simply all know you date around and are ok with who you are and maybe even prefer it. As for the men who will get jealous of your lifestyle and try to shame you about it--saying you don't have the guts to commit or that your lifestyle is weird and that you should be living with the crazed fundamentalist mormons in Utah--again these are your girlfriends not your wives. You're in love with all three of them, sure, but the relationship has nothing to do with monogamy. It's simply a more emotional appraoch to dating around. It's a hybrid theory combining the best elements of relationship theory and hookup theory into a emotionally and physically enriching part of your life.
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