5 Reasons You Shouldn't Date Someone from Your Class

[IamNuts]

I know this is isn't something any one might take seriously, after all chances are some of you reading this probably have a crush on someone in your class, and if you had a chance to date them why the hell wouldn't you. However if you think about it, dating someone in real life that sits next to you every day isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Though there are a few perks to making out with your classmate--you get someone as a study buddy, passing notes in class when it gets boring-- it often tends to get pretty messy. Perhaps you should heed these words of warning before you decide to exchange bodily with fluids with that hot guy in Biology class.
After all you can't just drop out of class if things get awry.

Seeing them everyday in class

Think about this, if your in school you'll basically be next to them most of the time, even if you don't want to. I'm sure spending time with them is probably the best thing in your life right now but literally spending a quarter of your day together in school isn't exactly exactly what constitutes as having a good time. After all you don’t want to hang out with your significant other all the time.

Worrying about your appearance

Most people don't really bother about their looks or appearance when in school, after all school isn't a venue you take your date to but with your significant other there you can't help but feel like you have to put some conscientious effort into your appearance.

Dealing with academics and feelings

So a teacher asks you a question and you fail to answer it because you forgot to read that chapter the previous the night, now normally depending on your personality you'd either just brush it off or probably be slightly embarassed, but when your crush is watching with the rest of the class you just end up feeling silly.

Teasing and Gossiping

Not only will your classmates tease you mercilessly, it's especially mortifying if they decide to do so in front of a teacher but you'll probably be the hot topic of the day for weeks to come, not to mention the inappropriate jokes and questions and general tom foolery. And god forbid if your teachers find out about it, you'll probably have to avoid eye contact with them for the rest of the year.

Awkwardness and Break ups

Most young couples can barely be together without groping each other to death, so when your in class or the cafeteria you might not know how to act around each other. Not to mention being that close in a public setting for hours long at a time can make for an extremely awkward situation.
What's even worse is if things don't work out - you can't avoid each other. You'll still have to attend classes everyday and I don't think I need to tell you how exes usually tend to act around each other making things even more awkward than usual.

[Anonymous]

If we're talking about high school, chances are that the first few bf/gf that people will have are from their own class. I took it as a learning experience not expecting it to last. When you are young you're limited in availability and maturity. Since that is true the expectation in any kind quasi-romantic (because get real you barely understand intimacy at that age anyway) ought to be an exploration of what you want or need from that kind of relationship nothing more. That said some of the best relationships between people start at a young age (and are above anyone's relationship dogma).

Awkward as you put it is something you fixate on that you ought not to as it appears to me your blowing it out of proportions and certainly are in some sense paranoid and assumptive.

As far as teasing or gossip that exist at any age or in any setting.

When it comes to academics some people can handle a dynamic social life and school work no problem. It's about priorities if someone wants to be in a relationship and maintain their grades they have to set aside time for both if that means they can only be in 1 club and a sport instead of 3 clubs and 2 sports, It isn't a large issue unless they are trying to get into an Ivy league school.

Appearance in this article has no substance.

Though you may end up seeing them in school it ought not to change your life in a negative especially since chances are they won't be in more than one or 2 of your classes and it isn't the end of the world to have a bit of distraction in school if the trade off is being more well rounded in your relationships as you get older

I had 3 gfs in hs they were only mildly distracting in class (people get used to "the system"). They taught me a lot about myself and gave a better understanding of women in terms of sensitivities and how good they can make me feel.

If you are talking about college, really?, for some people who end up being workaholics it's the only real chance they have at finding someone till they are settled in life around age 32 (prolly not having kids at that point) so the choice your giving them is worry about petty things or have children.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Great take. I do agree mostly. When I was in Uni I would introduce myself and talk to different people. I would get contacts and hang out with them later, like at a house party or something. I didn't really date anyone from a class from what I recall however.

[Ellie263]

I currently like this guy on my university course. The thing is we are in ALL classes together including tutorials , workshops and seminars you name it. So basically I see him everyday:/

[ConsultantIsBack]

@Ellie263 lol well damn, that could either really work out or not

[Ellie263]

I know mate -.- that's why I'm soo reluctant in even showing him I like him because I see the guy waaaaaaay too much. It doesn't help we have 23 contact hours a week lol

[mandy97]

@Ellie263 if you like him enough try, there are two options it ends great and u go on for years until the uni finishes or even u get married OR u breakup and its awkward, I think its worth risking

[Tiarn99]

Yea this is well worded. I never planned on going out with someone at school, but I eventually fell into its trap. We went out for three months, and I broke it off. What was even more awkward was that straight after our breakup, he started going after two different girls, one as the back up for the other and vice versa. So seeing those girls at school was super duper awkward (they were in the year below us thankfully). Even WORSE, now he has a girlfriend (not one of the two lol) and she moved schools to be with him. So now I see them a lot, and I'm still single.

[stillagoodgirl]

I agree! People never seem to get it though and I just sit back and watch the disaster happen.
It happens in my college classes but hardly last Unless maybe it's towards the end of the semester.

Guys think I'm mean for not giving them a try but I tell them why it's not a good idea and maybe til the end of the semester it could work. They don't wanna seem to wait though

[Logorithim]

I did this once- we were in an exclusive relationship about 2 1/2 weeks into the course. Worked out fine without any distractions (we were both 20).

[1GuyOpinion]

1. no problem with this when i like someone.
2. no problem I keep up with my appearances regardless.
3. no problem, if my crush is watching ill will be trying to impress her
4. how do they know i have a crush on her? I don't talk about my feeling so nobody will know beside her (when I decide to tell her and ask her out)
5. YOLO , all relationship end in break up, divorce, or death. So what? People still date each other. Just have fun and enjoy the moment.

Short version : Don't give a fuck. I date anyone that i'm interested in, anywhere!

[Mesonfielde]

Well sometimes seeing them every day isn't s problem; I had classmates in high school who started dating in 10th grade and they are married now, they have been married for about 3 years now. I think this shouldn't be taken as universal. But you do need two mature people for a mature relationship.

[TheMainManeMan]

I mean I can see your point, and I'm not saying you're wrong, but I personally COMPLETELY disagree.

The way I see it, if you truly love someone... go out with them. School, work, church, same neighborhood... if you truly love them, go out with them.

May sound really cliche, but I don't think there should be ANY restrictions on love.

Only if you're some kind of deviant/psycho attracted to a family member, but other than that, I say it's totally fine to date anyone.

[Prof_Don]

I don't give a fuck. I will approach women anywhere, including class and at work!

What is up with this idea of convincing people not to approach women they have "frequent unplanned interaction" with? Those people are the most likely to date because they observe each other enough to develop a crush!

So stupid.

[NonCreativeUsername]

They aren't saying not to... they are saying it'd be awkward as fuck in those situations and why.

[Prof_Don]

@NonCreativeUsername Nothing worth obtaining is obtained without risk! I will risk the possibilities of these situations for love and female company. :) #JustSayin #JustSaying

[NonCreativeUsername]

Well, if you're in this situation I'm guessing you're pretty young so there isn't any hurry.

[Mysterio421]

In my opinion class is fine but at work is very risky. You better be willing to lose your job. A lot of things can go wrong if you date co workers. Take it from experience.

[Anonymous]

For a high school class it makes some sense. But at the same time the alternative is abandoning worthwhile relationships.

Some other things. I don’t think seeing someone everyday is really a bother. You did the same thing with all your high school friends and did you get sick of them? Not really.

My concern about appearance would be the other way around. I don’t care really about appearance in front of a partner, they already like me. I care about it more in class — and in high school I had a uniform so not a big deal.

Your crush should already be aware of your abilities. If you can’t have humility in front of them well then you’re not off to a good start. Running away from that doesn’t make it better.

Not sure what you’re getting at with the gossiping. People will say shit, sure. I don’t see how that affects me.

Having it not work out is the really the only thing that’s a concern.

[coralee]

Taking the age of the people in question here I really don't think any of these points are that big of a deal. Your young have fun. Heartbreak, drama and feelings are all a part of life and you need to get used to them. If this was a 5 reasons you shouldn't date someone you work with I might take it more seriously because as someone who has crossed the line with a coworker it's a bad idea.

[Rawrzz]

You share like...3-6 months and then you'll never see each other again. If it was workplace, then I would better understand. But... you don't have to sit *next* to them. This should be more like "5 negatives to dating someone in your class" Not "shouldn't".

[Anonymous]

For some people it's the only way they even meet possible romantic partners though so it's that or forever alone.

[IamNuts]

Yeah I know, I sure did :P

[Opinion Owner]

what?

[IamNuts]

I had my first crush when I was in school and he's currently my boyfriend.

[Nicolás25]

Yeah but your not going to be in a class together forever so just date someone from your own class eventually you guys will hang out outside of class or the class will be over totally worth it if I wouldn't have i would have not met my beautiful girlfriend and we are totally comfortable and happy with eachother

[BruceJender]

OK, so I can date someone who is on my University course then? I don't see her every day and we've got time away from each other.

[IamNuts]

Yeah I'd think so but I can't say for sure, I wrote this take with my high school in mind.

[micheal727jovanie]

Great take this should also apply at work. I know what it feels like and trust me its all fun and games til someone loses a sandwich. :(

[bloodmountain1990]

Agreed. Same reason you wouldn't date anyone from work either. I've had old coworkers date and when they broke up and still worked together, it was very awkward and made it hard for shit to get done. The boss picked up on it too and was pissed.

But regarding the topic, most of the girls I dated or hooked up with in college were from outside of class because seeing someone every day that you had a one night stand with is awkward.

[asiag299]

Ehh I can't agree with the second one as it's just in my nature to always be presentable. I hold myself to a certain standard and I would never be caught out and about without looking polished school or not. Now that I think about it I disagree with all of this. lol Maybe I'm too mature to worry about this. This sounds like a middle school relationship tbh. Plus I'd never have to juggle feelings and academics as academics come first regardless. I don't take honors classes for nothing. :)

[AleDeEurope]

I've dated 4 girls in my class, they were all friends. It wasn't bad to be honest, I didn't have a problem, and I actually did better in school.
The only problem came when they all joined against me xD

[ChocoLada]

Wow, what a tragedy :P

[Elaurious]

Pay attention in school and don't be a fool, kids. If I were a parent my daughter and son will not be interested in anyone but their books., plus teenage sex is gross as fuck, people who do it are disgusting and have low self esteem.

[mr90skid]

Cool take :) I saw a lot of that in highschool and it was funny to watchlol especially when teacher doesn't know they broke up and puts them in group project "I know y'all like working together" ;)

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

all of those reasons are kinda dumb except for the last 1. like the "dealing with academics and feeling" 1. who cares if you can't answer the question? you just look stupid for 3 seconds. half the kids didn't do the homework anyways.

[IamNuts]

Obviously no one cares about whether if you can answer the question or not other than the teacher, these are American high schools after all but try seeing it from the point of the person answering, no one wants to seem like an idiot in front of their crush.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

who cares? everyone looks stupid once in a while and y'all are already dating. or the thing about seeing them in class everyday (or every other day in college... or every day). i don't get how it's a bad thing. you literally get to be with them. the teasing and gossiping thing... maybe in middle school. and i don't think anyone dresses to impress to go to school/class. I don't know if this is a girl thing, but most dudes just put on whatever's convenient.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

here are a few things you missed:

y'all know each other. it just feels kinda awkward that you're dating a girl you thought had cooties back in kindergarten.

pre driving, y'all can't just meet up. i mean you can and can go to basketball and football games or something else, but it could be kinda awkward in the beginning having to be taken to dates by your parents and stuff.

[RationalMale]

Problem is, the people in your class, if attractive, make the easiest dating prospects. You see them every class period, you have ten built in discussion openers, you don't have to go for the number or a date close immediately...

[DarkHumorRUs]

So it'll basically be how it is right now (study buddy and seeing each other in class everyday etc.) but with sex and love?

Sign me up.