All Men Want Different Things

[pavlove]

While women always get a bad reputation for being overly complicated, men aren't always as simple as we seem. While it is, of course, easier for women to get sex when they feel so inclined. I'd argue it's more difficult for them to find a suitable partner at least on their own terms. Men have the benefit of dating a gender that tends to want relationships and commitment. So then how does a woman navigate herself towards a suitable partner that wants one? Well, a start is dispelling some common myths that hopefully most girls already know, but perhaps a few have forgotten.

You can't anticipate what a guy wants by who he is

A really dark character can want a really corny girl. A good guy could want a girl who treats him like crap. "Matching" a guy's personality is never a safe bet for creating a connection and assuming he likes something becuase of "who he is" isn't going to get you very far. I don't know the science behind why we respond to certain things, but I know it isn't uniform.

We Don't Often Agree On Who's The Hottest Girl

Men have incredily broad physical tastes and it's usually not a hard one or the other between you and your friends in terms of who's prettier, more dateable etc. If you're seeing a trend, it's probably more due to a personality thing. Yes, blonde girls probably get approached more, yes, girls with big breasts and ass usually get looked at more, but honestly none of my friends could be able agree on who is the prettiest in a club in any given night and when it comes to finding your suitable someone it's important to realize just because you aren't one guy's ideal princess you are probably are in someone else's eyes.

A lot of us want fundamentally different types of girls

I like really bad, deviant, morally a bit lost girls. I relate to them better. However, a lot of guys like sweet do your laundry for you kind of girls. Also guys can change what they respond to very, very fast. As such, you also can't say well this type of girl always gets the guy because it is so diverse. Every flaw and every perfection you have is subjective to how the guy sees it.

[godfatherfan]

I usually don't read anything guys post, you this was really right on the money.
by the way... the girl on the far left of both pics is the hotest lol...
as with every single question by either sex on this board (or 99% anyway) the answer is "depends on the guy/girl".
as I constantly post, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

"Perfection is in perception."

[godfatherfan]

@SweetHomicidalQueen nice analogy. I am going to steal that one...
as I also say, if you steal from me, your stealing it twice...

[queenmariereigns]

This is nice but most of this seems like common sense to me. Sometimes people fall in love with the person they least expect

[Mishae]

Here is another vanilla essay on nothing. A lengthy explanation of why everybody wants something different heads nothing to our knowledge base.
First of all one must realize that the social situation dictates the actual response. That is a bar with dancing alcohol on a Friday night is a lot different than meeting somebody a church picnic. So do not tell me that everybody wants different and sound like you are the master of all relationships. You must excuse the hostility as today an answer of mine was bounced because I was too harsh though telling the truth and another was called nonsense because the master editor did not understand my point.
So what do people want Friday night at a bar. The girls want to same thing is the guys. They are not looking for a ring on their finger and if anybody thinks they are they are in the wrong place. This is led to confusion because the master editor does not define situation so everybody is writing tangentially with no background as to what the master editor is trying to convey.
Next, no matter what anybody says especially on this website, never ever think that a guy picks up a girl even in church. The girl allows the guy to pick her up. This is assuming that the guy asks first which is the usual scenario. A guy comes up to me starts talking to me and I'm talking to him and he thinks he's manipulating me either to say yes to a date or yes to a sexual encounter. He believes he is in control. While I know he didn't come up to me because he wants me to play shortstop for the Boston Red Sox. He wants either a relationship or sex or I should say sex first then a relationship. So it is up to me to decide whether to continue this encounter further. If I'm looking for sex and he's looking to become my husband I manipulate him out of the room. So therefore, it is the girls perception of what this guy wants or how this guy is or how his personality is or how he acts etc. as to whether there will be further interaction (whether she allows herself to get picked up).
Rather than take a couples therapy course or a one year course at Harvard on human relationships, try living in the sorority house for 3 years. You learn everything. You will learn the joy of a positive outcome in a relationship, the tears and feelings of rejection and the success when 3 girls go out looking for sex and all 3 find it. I just gave a few examples of what you learn but believe me you will learn hell of a lot more than that. And one thing you will learn is t

[Mishae]

learn is that every time a guy approaches a girl or is introduced to one he thinks of sex. What is attracted to is up to him and then you can reread the garbage as above from the master. What you learned in a sorority house is that although that one fact is true it is how you deal with that that is up to the individual girl. So no matter what anybody says, at any interaction, the girl is actually in control. That does not make us bad people and that does not mean we are playing games. It means we are deciding what to do with this walking penis.

[pavlove]

i don't think a lot of men myself included understand why who's technically in control is so important to women. perhaps, because for generations women had none to little control over what they wanted what was done with their bodies. i'm glad things have become a little more equal

[Matt2k]

I personally think it's a good take.

If it's so obvious and known to people , why do we constantly get questions here, treating men as if they're some kind of hive mind?

[Anonymous]

"While it is, of course, easier for women to get sex when they feel so inclined. I'd argue it's more difficult for them to find a suitable partner at least on their own terms. Men have the benefit of dating a gender that tends to want relationships and commitment."

Yeah you understand. Basically four types of people in this situation:

1) Guys who want: Sex and then relationship/friendship

2) Guys who want: Sex

3) Girls who want: Relationship/friendship and then sex

4) Girls who want: Relationship/friendship

It's easier for guys to get female friends, but harder for them to get sex. It's easier for girls to get sex, but harder for them to get male friends.

People don't talk about the male advantage in this. It's good someone recognizes it. That's why any chick who bad mouths me and says "No you want get sex." Then I say "Well trick you won't get a friend."

Dude that first point is spot on. So many chicks think they can "read" guys. You can't read me. Girls have admitted they can't. Personalities can be tough to read sometimes. I'm typically shy and quiet, but can get pissed over the little things. Not only that but I'm also into multiple types of girls including ones who are outgoing and wild. So yeah us guys sometimes can't be "read", but girls try it anyway.

Spot on with number two as well. Man I've seen smoking hot big girls and smoking hot girls with gaps in their teeth. Some guys may not like that and think it makes them ugly. Both of them in that picture are hot though. Can get the D lol. I don't have a particular type. I just prefer straight up honest chicks who are willing to accept me for who I am. I mean as far as personality goes.

[Azara]

there's another.. women who just want sex.

and I don't know what you're talking about., everyone talks about how its easier for guys to get relationships. when they talk about easier for women to get sex. well women talk about it. guys just complain about not getting sex.

anyhow for a lot of people sex and relationships are hard to come by. and it doesn't matter to them which sex gets ether easier. averages dont deal with human beings in real life experiences.

[Opinion Owner]

@Azara Not saying there are women who just want sex or guys who just want a friendship. What I'm saying is those I listed are the most common. There are also people who don't want either.

I said "relationships/FRIENDSHIP". Don't forget the friendship part. That's important. Plenty of girls are willing to just talk with a guy and be friends with him. The moment he starts talking about sex is when many get paranoid. Meanwhile plenty of guys are willing to have sex with girls they are attracted to. The moment they try to friendzone them is when they get paranoid. That's how it commonly is. Sure there are some people of both genders who are different. I didn't say there weren't. I just said basically in the situation the Taker Owner has presented those are the common types.

[Opinion Owner]

*aren't

[MargaritaPeach]

You're right. They are all different and they all want different things. That's what makes getting to know them so fun. Most of the time, they turn out to be even more impressive than I initially gave them credit for. Getting them to open up is my biggest challenge...

[TatyanaTheEmpress]

That's true, but all women also want different things 😜

[pavlove]

;)

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[Anonymous]

I swear people on this site forget that everyone wants different things in the opposite sex from when it comes looks all the way to personality.
I have seen it for myself, and also read many guys wrong as to what they want, cause you cannot always judge a book by its cover.

[ClariceOwen23]

And yet you disagreed with me when I said the same thing about women on another take of yours. Enlighten me as to why you're always right.

[CoolSky01]

I don't know what is your take but if its similiar to this one its easy to see why its wrong , women choose the best , put 10 women in a room with 10 guys and they would go to the best dude in all aspects , men on the other hand like pretty girls but can easily choose a girl you wouldn't even expect them to choose

[Waffles731]

@CoolSky01 And women also value different things in a guy as well

[CoolSky01]

@Waffles731 yes but... chaces are they will go to the perfect guy that has everything they want which is fine really but they ignore everyone in the progress , it makes sense dont get me wrong but its how it works

[archiz]

@CoolSky01 lol no not at all.
It goes both ways or else no one is getting laid.
I have different tastes and preferences from my friends. I like large big athletic men, another one likes lean fit men like the tennis players, another one might like the skinny type.
Not to forget that each has a different lifestyle, different expectations to match.
the list goes on and on really

[lumos]

@CoolSky01 It's not even close to how it works, get a grip and stop being so biased towards your own gender. I could just as well sit here and complain about how guys only care about young women with big boobs, big asses long hair and a bitch personality?

[CoolSky01]

@lumos no one cares a bitch personality thats not what we want , now great ass and big boobs... can't say its a bad thing but when we say personality we mean is she smart, funny, loyal and can be trusted? hot women get opportunities , heck not so attractive ones can easily get laid so if we trust her to not tocuh any man, flirt with him or get close while we're not there then she's a keeper , unlike a men cheating ( which very bad ) a woman cheating nto only hurts a man ego and feelings but his pride and how he's viewed by his male peers , no guy wants to be called the sluts husband that is much worse than being called the manwhore wife and everyone can agree on this.

[ClariceOwen23]

@CoolSky01 I'm glad I chose not to argue with you. Goodbye!

[lumos]

@CoolSky01 l o l.

[CoolSky01]

wants a bitch*

[asiag299]

@CoolSky01 I actually agree with you in some ways lol

[CoolSky01]

@asiag299 iam just being honest yes personality and looks matter not gonna lie there is not point in denying such a clear fact , but what we we really want, seek and crave is a woman who is ours , only for us , only we I ge to see her naked, only i get to touch her and tease her in certain ways, only i get to kiss and hug her whenever i want, only I get to have sex with her and she is not going to betray my trust and get with another man , this is the reason somemen call some women sluts mainly because they lack that quality that we look for in them the trust we truly want when considiring a girlfriend , she can be perfect but if she can't keep her hands off other guys ( even if in a non-sexual way ) its going to be a problem later on , and trust me it has done that for me and for others i know so i decided to avoid such girls , better than trying to change them.

[GoodDogNigel]

@archiz

"I like large big athletic men, another one likes lean fit men like the tennis players, another one might like the skinny type."

Lol, so one likes the athletic type, the other likes the OTHER athletic type, and the last friend likes a body type that suggests a large amount of physical activity, ie an athletic type.

Wow, the level of unawareness is hilarious.

[archiz]

@GoodDogNigel ok sweety, if you re gonna react that way never mind.
I ain t arguing with you.

[Kingfrosty]

sorry girl but this guy what he just said is true for me 100% and i would be willing 2 bet my life that at least 90% of sll money out there want that
"what we we really want, seek and crave is a woman who is ours , only for us , only we I ge to see her naked, only i get to touch her and tease her in certain ways, only i get to kiss and hug her whenever i want, only I get to have sex with her and she is not going to betray my trust and get with another man , this is the reason somemen call some women sluts mainly because they lack that quality that we look for in them the trust we truly want when considiring a girlfriend , she can be perfect but if she can't keep her hands off other guys ( even if in a non-sexual way ) its going to be a problem later on , and trust me it has done that for me and for others i know so i decided to avoid such girls , better than trying to change them."

[Kingfrosty]

"want this" sorry 2 am XD

[GoodDogNigel]

@archiz

But you legit gave three body types that are the result of the same thing.

[ClariceOwen23]

@Kingfrosty and when did I ever say that it's not true?

[archiz]

@GoodDogNigel nope. cause guys have different body types like girls.
some are naturally large, or skinny etc...
some need to work a lot on their shoulders to make them look large but the width of their torso and waist are still narrow. You can be skinny without really working out.
Plus you completely ignored the 2nd part of my comment.
there is also personality and lifestyle. I might be interested on the more artsy/laid back style extremely open minded etc..
another girl might like the guy the be well mannered, posh/like, calm and conservative etc...
There is really different preferences man.
It's a salad bowl.

[Anonymous]

Great take and like someone else mentioned, common sense.

[pavlove]

thanks!

[the_ultimate_agony]

Good thoughts. This gives a lot of hope to different girls out there

[pavlove]

thanks man

[Star_Lord]

All men want pretty girls for sex, That's a hard fact!😄

[nileve]

some women consider ugly girls pretty and pretty girls ugly

[nileve]

meant men

[Star_Lord]

@nileve I am not that kind of man, I have a good taste in women.

[Star_Lord]

I will never think that way

[lacorine197]

Fact on what? That's a hard, lie.

[takumii]

But fundamentally guys do want the same thing.

For instance,

Any and Every guy would want ANY of those girls (pictured above) naked in his bed, holding a jar of beer in one hand and bag full of weed in the other.

[pavlove]

i think we'd disagree on who's hotter

[takumii]

That is personal preference, everyone has different preference, but it's the same thing :|

[pavlove]

it does because if we're both at a party and a girl likes one of us more than the other than she's going to sleep with that guy not the other guy. Therefore, who's the hottest matters.

[takumii]

They will like me moar :|

[sailorjupiter]

the best take i ever read.. thank you for that

[pavlove]

wow thank you

[Zorax]

Exactly, great Take, I agree 100%

[pavlove]

thanks !

[Zorax]

You're welcome

[ImaginativeDreamer]

Agreed, but all of these types of girls on the pictures above are hot :P

[Anonymous]

for example I LOVE SKINNY GIRLS, not big girls <3 :)

[MrPresident]

Poor big girls.

[GoodDogNigel]

@MrPresident

But I like big (ger) girls :D

[apexalpha]

I wonder why this is news to some

[pavlove]

lol yea exactly but i think we assume girls know stuff about us that maybe they assume wrongly about just like we do with them often

[COCOCHANEL]

makes sense

[Let_me_do_that]

yes it is ma love

[James19]

rightly said... cheers

[Fishcake]

It's all bs

[pavlove]

lol what is

[Anonymous]

All men want sex objects...

[Let_me_do_that]

agree 100%