Lessons from TJ's AKA Dumber Dating History

This is an important milestone for me and it’s because I’m going to do my first ever myTake on a topic. For me, I know this might be childish and silly. But, I am going to go through and tell everyone my mistakes in past relationships that led me to where I am right now. Without any more interruptions, let’s get this party started:

My first ever girlfriend came back shortly after middle school. I was 14 at the time and I meet her at a charity picnic. She had red hair and was cute. I decided to talk to her for a few minutes and got her number. After the picnic, I decided to text her for a bit to get to know her better. Being completely dumb, I asked her through texting to be my girlfriend. She agreed! Yes my heart was pounding very fast. That night, I went over to her house with her friends and chatted. Once her mom drops me off home, she kissed me. It was my first kiss ever J The relationship ended three weeks later because she found a better guy.

Lesson #1: Don’t ask anyone out through means of texting/social media.

Afterward, I was very lonely and no one to talk to for three years. During my junior year of high school, I meet a girl that liked me and messaged me a lot by texting. I was being naïve again when I asked her to hang out with me at my parents’ house AKA stupid decision. It didn’t work out well because I was very shy and she left for a better guy.

Lesson #2: Don’t go to anyone’s house until you get to know him/her better.

After the breakup, I was feeling much happier than before until college started. Once I started my first semester of college, I got sad because I was studying all the time. Once my freshman year was a success, I meet a girl through a friend’s grad party. I thought I would never have had a shot with her, but she was in with another guy. He treated her like crap and she dumped him. I basically help her move on from the previous guy and now is in a long term relationship with the man of her dreams. What I wish I could have done was asked her on a date.

Lesson #3: Have the courage to ask someone out on a date once you got to know him/her better, even if it at first it’s through text messaging.

Once she found her guy, I was basically working and studying while in college. I never talked to a girl during my sophomore and junior years. Then came senior year, yes there was no signs of senioritis from me (great start!). During my senior, I turned 22 years old (2nd favorite number besides 17) in October was feeling down after my best friend started hooking up and I had no one. I then took the plunge and started doing online dating for the first time on OkCupid.

Side note: If you want to know why 17 is my favorite number, just let me know in the comments.

A week after my birthday, I took the time to set up my online profile on OkCupid. I then learned tips and tricks online as to how to be successful in online dating. After treating dating as a part time job, I got a girlfriend within the first month. She was 17 and I was 22. Turned out to be a major mistake because she was autistic and never told her parents about me. It lasted for a few days.

Lesson #4: Don’t date anyone that would been consider illegal.

Shortly after I learned the horrors of girls, I decided to pursue a little bit more and found another girl (that was legal). It started out great with many of my firsts with her [1st make out, 1st love letter, 1st watching over her pets]. After I started a miniature argument on Christmas Eve, she got mad at me and didn’t seem interested in me. I did my best to help her, but then the sad truth came out. She pointed out that I was a bad kisser and too emotional. Like every girl that I dated or attempt to date, she dumped me on New Year’s Day 2016 and found another guy a week later.

Lesson #5: If a girl says that you are a bad kisser and doesn’t want to help you out, then she’s not the one for you.

Now we come to today. Hate to say this but in today’s age where girls yell at men because of who we are, I don’t have any friends that are female and male as well. It’s sad that I’m working ultra-fast in putting purple sectors in the game of personal development. Yes, I fit the lone wolf mentality very nicely. It’s like the world hates me because of who I am.

I just want to tell a girl that likes me that I hope you know that every time I tell you to get home safe, don’t hurt yourself, have a great day, stay warm, have a great night sleep, taking care of you what I am really saying is I love you. I love you so much that it is starting to other words meanings. I love you more than any material thing on Earth.

Lessons from TJ's AKA Dumber Dating History

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  • 3mo

    I think those points are valid on your past but that is doesn't mean it's so for the future


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