When we go out on a first date, it's common to obsess on how to impress the person we'll go out with. We give a lot of thought in our appearance, in our manners, on what to say in order to come off as an interesting and sociable person who has hobbies, interests, knowledge, a nice job, generally on being someone of interest to the other person. Though, this way of thinking is problematic.
Actually, if we are very concerned about how we are being perceived, we focus so much on ourselves, on how we look and how we act, so we don't pay attention to our date, making him believe we're socially awkward, shallow, boring or too self absorbed. Also, we miss what the other person is saying about himself, his life, his interests, his beliefs. So we miss the real purpose of a first date, to get to know the other person, to see how much we can communicate and if that outward attraction we feel can also run in a deeper level. In the end, we won't even have a good time.
Another worrisome fact, is that we are putting forth so much effort to impress, that we we stop being ourselves and we adopt a persona, a role. Subsequently, this leads to the other person having a wrong idea about us. So, if he's impressed with us, it will actually be our fake persona that impressed him. This puts us in a hard place, where either we 'll have to keep pretending in all our future dates in order to live up to his expectations, or to admit that we were lying about who we are. Most peple don't like liars, though. And what if the other person stays unimpressed by our persona, while he might have liked our real self? We harm ourselves, by denying ourselves the potential to find a person who will accept us and love us as we are, what we all deserve.
In conclusion, when you go on a date be yourself. Of course you should dress well and show your positive traits, but in the way and the degree you like, and you feel comfortable to. Don't fake it to impress. In example, if you're a girl who doesn't wear heels and feels sexier in combat boots, don't feel like you have to wear heels to impress your date. if you're a man, you don't have to wear a suit if that's not your thing. You don't have to pretend you have a lot of money, if you don't, or that you're a social butterfly, if you're an introvert. Nobody's perfect after all. The point is how compatible we are with the other person, and we can only see that if we pay attention to him and are ourselves.