Tinder is an interesting phenomenon. I find it largely a waste of time unless you're in an area or profession that seriously doesn't lend itself to going out and meeting new people, but it can also be a fun outlet if not taken too seriously. Observe.
DON'T be her friend
Tinder is primarily a hook up app...meeting online is primarily a hook up method with a minor in helping two shy people meet. As such, although many claim to want friends and primarily be interested in that...it's often just a cover up for what they might truly want. It's also a reaction to all the guys who ask them for sex in the first message and are not very attractive. You should not try to have similar connections or anything else friends have...you are there to hook up and so is she...but not just with anyone. That's the mindset.
DON'T be her lover
Another temptation is to create a love connection. This is better but still not what i would use Tinder for. I'd consider other routes or other apps for such things. With Tinder, you need to let go of the idea that this person is going to be anything but in your bed although of course if you meet the one along this path you can alter course.
DON'T SUGARCOAT
Again, this is a hook up app. Your mindset needs to be that she wants to hook up but not just with anyone. It's pure animalistic display of "alphaness" and value. Even if you hate these terms realize that this is why it's a "dating game" app. You're trying to meet a girl of high value (let's be honest you're just looking to meet a girl) and she's looking to meet a guy of high value to have sex with. This leads to the next...
DON'T WRITE NOVELS
It's easy to forget that dating apps are essentially texting without them giving out their number. In fact, i prefer to keep texting on the dating app until a date has been set. It's different and it keeps it in the context of hooking up. You want to keep it concise and in being overly simply you will finally have found uniqueness. You have your one liner that's attention getting (don't go for looking at something about her...tinder gives very little details and it's too friend bonding like. ) Just say something you'd probably be embarrased to have your friends hear you say either because its so corny or so harsh that it grabs her attention. From there it's simple seeing what she puts up with then scaling back when you've gone too far. Which leads too...
DON'T FALL FOR TRYING TO GET TO KNOW HER
She will throw this at you constantly. Let's get to know each other first. I'm not that easy. You're going to have to work for it. No, you come from a mindset where girls are abundant and you're not into the games she plays but if she's ever interested in not playing them you'll be around (but probably won't since time is money.) More times than you think she will backpedal on her original stance when you're fearless to it. Oh, I just meant i wanted to get to know you more. I didn't mean it that way. I just thought it would be nice. Then she'll follow the lead and likely give you her number for a meet up.
DON'T THINK HOT GIRLS ARE NICE AND AVERAGE GIRLS ARE WHORES
It's more often the opposite, yet when a guy matches with a really hot girl his instinct is beta mode. My experience is that less attractive girls often supplement their resulting insecurity by "making a guy work for it" in other words making him as beta as possible then going with the alpha because that's what she's attracted to. Hot girls are actually more straightforward in the sense that if you treat them like you're just hooking up you are giving her the experience she expects from her beauty and wants because so many are intimidated. This isn't full proof. Nothing is...but the point is don't suddenly start asking how her day is just because she's got blonde hair.
As always, disclaimer, this in no way implies or suggests that you should not believe a woman when she says she isn't interested in you or in having sex with you. This only suggests things for you to initiate but if you are getting rejected then step back and move on. Don't ever push.
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