So this take is going to get flack, and I know no matter how impartial I try to be, I'm either going to be called a white knight or a misogynist depending on the person who gets pissed off reading this and I recognize that. For guys who are saying it shouldn't be their sole responsibility to approach, I'm sorry but that's how the world is. I'm not trying to be cruel, I'm trying to help you play your cards the best way that they've been dealt.
So I'm sure most of you have seen this video
And thus the divide that has already existed about this topic only became worse and has widened. Girls are saying how this is a serious issue (it is) that guys don't recognize. Guys are saying how are they ever supposed to meet anyone if they should never talk to a girl which this video is in a way implying because it showed zero disparity between the guys who were absolutely stalking her and being invasive and the guys who wished her a good day.
So lets begin.
1. Body Language
Look at her in the video. Look at her facial expression. Look how fast she's walking, how she pumps her arms. That is not the body language of someone that is open to being talked to.
Body language is key. If you see a dude who's naked in the street foaming at the mouth you'd probably not go have a friendly chat. You'd stay indoors and call the cops saying some dude is outside on PCP. It's about reading their body language and picking your battles. If they give you a smile and play with their hair, bite their finger etc. Those are cues that she is much more likely cool with you approaching her than miss speed walker in the video who looks like she wants to punch someone. When they give you some form of body language that says "Oh hello" that's when you MAY be in the clear to go introduce yourself. It doesn't mean that they are for a fact wanting to talk with you. They may just be really nice or nervous when someone looks at them. So don't take it as them leading you on because everyone expresses things differently. Just know that these are usually signs that they are fine with someone talking to them in a pleasant manner. And so under these circumstances it's understandable to approach them, which leads me into my next point.
2. Introducing yourself
First impressions are everything. That said it doesn't mean you have to be Mr. Casanova saying something suave. It means be polite and respectful. THAT'S IT. Whether you come off charming or not depends on your personality and the specific girls personality you're approaching. You'll come off charming to some and not so charming to others. If you are not polite and respectful you are severly limiting yourself to only a small group of women who may still find you charming. So you may ask "Well what do I say?" And to answer that I have another controversial video that is popular on youtube.
Now take notes.
Not of the girls rejecting or the guy. But of the girl introudcing herself to the guys. The difference between the guy and the girl is the girl actually introduced herself. The guy skipped that part and went straight for the flirting. Now yes, he would probably still have gotten a bunch of those rudes comments and behavior from some of those girls but girls have recieved that same treatment as well when they have displayed interest in a guy. It's not a gender thing. It's an, unfortunately going up to a rude person, thing. And you should consider yourself lucky you didn't meet such a rude person under different circumstances and end up dating them not knowing how inconsiderate they are to those they have no interest in. People complain about the video being a double standard but really the dude approaching girls and the girl approaching guys were way different. She actually approaches the correct way where if he approached the same way his chances would have been better of them being more kind with their rejection.(Again that doesn't mean they'd actually be better but the odds are better if he approached like she did).
So if they are receptive to your introduction then good for you! If they are not as happy about being approached(or in some cases walk out our cuss you out half way through) then take it with grace. If they stay long enough for a goodbye thank them for their time and just be on your way. Don't get upset. You aren't doing yourself any favors by getting angry at them. It's understandable if you feel embarassment or a little hurt because your feelings were just rejected but just let the embarassment or hurt run it's course for a little while and let it out of your system. Taking it out on them or the next girl that was unfortunate enough to be the girl after the rude person will not help you.
Well that's about it.
I used way too many photos/pictures for such a short take.... Oh well if you have tips that have helped you with meeting someone that I haven't talked about be free to share them. Unless they're rude/manipulative things then no thanks because the whole point of this take is about doing a good curteous approach. Critique if you like(Please be gentle).
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