Self proclaimed "nice guys" and 30 year old single losers take heed. This guide is for your benefit. I composed it after weeks of soul searching, research, and analytical thinking in order to benefit you. There are a lot of guides and dating advice not only on this website but also all across the internet, and it would be a lie to claim that mine is any different. But for those of you willing to sacrifice 10 minutes for the sake of reading something that could potentially change your life, today is your lucky day. You may not like what I have written (if the hatred, libel, and flaming I received on my last MyTake is any indicator)--heck, the women here probably won't like it either. But if you choose not to read it, then it is your loss. Again, I am not forcing you to do anything nor am I claiming that my advice is any different, but to those of you who have stayed with me thus far, let us begin.
I used to be a "Nice Guy" not much different from yourselves. I was constantly rejected, ignored, friendzoned, and pathetic by every meaning of the word. But after a lot of soul searching and a determined effort to examine my past logically, I came to discover four noble truths which have changed my life. Now to those of you with thin skin who get offended easily, I once again warn you that this is about to get offensive and frank, but if you have stayed with me so far, here are the Four Noble Truths.
#1) You Are Sexually Worthless
Like it or not, but males are at a disadvantage from the get go. It is simple anthropology. My textbook calls it "sexual selection theory." Essentially this means that the gender which has the lower sexual output is the one that is more valuable and sought-after via to the law of supply-and-demand. All across the Animal Kingdom and in our own species, this is women. Their sexual output is children, a commodity that human women can only produce about 1 of a year whereas the sexual output of men--sperm--is in abudance since a single man can impregnate multipe females a year. This is why whether it is lions with their huge mane or birds with their vibrantly colored feathers, the male is the more beautiful creature. Males are the ones that have to pursue women; the competition is between us and us alone. Women are the ones sought-after, the one with value. Us on the other hand are sexually worthless. The sooner you swallow this bitter pill the better.
#2) Rejection is the Norm
Leaping off of my first point, rejection is not the exception but the norm. Since women are the ones sought-after and males are the ones who have to compete, rejection is the norm for most guys since women can afford to be picky. So if you ever find yourself constantly rejected, take solace in the fact that it is not personal. It is simply sexual selection theory in action. We see this all across the Animal Kingdom as well. Most males of a species do NOT get to mate as only the top 10-20% of males--"alphas" as much as I hate that terminology--tend to horde about 90% of the female population to themselves. Now fortunately we Westerners live in a society which was shaped by Christianity (for better or for worse). This means that monogamy has become the cultural norm, which in turn means that every guy no matter how much of a loser he may be has a shot at acquiring at least one mate if he plays his cards correctly. But in order to do that, you have to accept the grim reality that rejection is the norm.
#3) Women Are Primal
Ladies, you may commence the libelliousness, attacks on my personal appearance and character, and all around bitchiness since if I haven't offended you yet, I am about to now. But the truth of the matter is that women are primal. Humans may be a peculiarly advanced species, but at least on the primal level, our decisions and behavior are still influenced by evolution. What this means is that just as every man wants a fertile woman with huge breasts and a body like Hannah Davis, so every woman wants a man who possesses the Holy Trinity of Male Attractiveness: Money, Confidence, and/or Looks. But the difference between men and women is that whereas we would be lucky to get a woman half as beautiful as Hannah Davis, women due to sexual selection theory are actually in a position where they can holdout and acquire the man of their dreams. To make matters worse, women also have a distinction between the sorts of guys that they will sleep with and the sorts of guys who they will have a relationship with. Unfortunately it is the former sorts of guys--the Holy Trinity ones--who get the sex while it is the average guys and/or losers who get the "relationships" despite putting in more effort and treating the woman better. Massively unfair, I know. Probably the most defeating truth out of this list. But if you want to succeed, you need to accept this truth for what it is.
#4) Being "Nice" Alone Will NOT Get You Anywhere
Finally, do not fall into the delusion that just because you are nice and a reasonably good guy that you are entitled to something. Reality is not nearly as pleasant as the movies where the girl of your dreams magically approaches the nerdy loser at the end, and the underdog succeeds despite making no effort whatsoever. Being nice in itself will not get you anywhere, especially if you are not even making an effort to approach girls. There is a such thing as sad endings and injustice, where good people who do good all of their lives suffer a horrible ending whereas bad people who did bad all of their lives suffer a great ending. Just compare the lives of Gandhi--a good guy who was assassinated--to the life of Genghis Khan, a despot who lived a long, pleasurable life with no repercussions for his actions whatsoever. You are not entitled to anything, and being nice in itself will not get you anywhere.
But what now? Have I led you this far solely to shatter your spirits even more than they already are and to leave you left for dead? Was this entire MyTake just a lowblow kick to the groin in an already defeated foe? Of course not. Desperate guys take heed, I have only taught you these Four Noble Truths in order to prepare you for the Fourfold Path of Redemption. That is, my Four Steps (because I was too lazy to do 8) to help you make the best out of the Four Truths and even the dating field.
#1) Take Affirmative Action
If you want a woman, then you have to go out and get one yourself. Nothing in life comes easy. It will be difficult, you will be nervous, you will be constantly rejected, but if you want a woman then you have to work for one. The good news is that the more women you ask out, the easier it becomes as you become desensitized to rejection and it comes naturally to you. As stated earlier, women are NOT going to approach you since they are the ones who are sought-after, and you are not entitled to anything simply because you are nice. Life doesn't have happy endings because of virtue; it has happy endings because you worked for one. Make your own ending; take affirmative action and do what you have to do to get a woman.
#2) Better Yourself
Leaping off of my first point, better yourself. Better yourself as a part of your affirmative action. You may never be able to fully possess the Holy Trinity of Male Attractiveness in its entirety, but possessing at least one of the members is not too unreasonable of a goal to set for yourself. If you are a nerd with no Confidence, then work hard in school so that you can get a good job one day and acquire Money. If you are poor with no prospects of bettering your economic predicament, then go to the gym in order to better your Looks. If neither of those two are possibilities, then focus on increasing your Confidence. You'd be amazed at how many ugly fat guys with no money whatsoever are able to acquire smoking hot girls simply because they were Confident. So make an effort to Better Yourself, acquire at least one member of the Holy Trinity of Male Attractiveness. Be like the male peacock with all of his feathers.
#3) Be Utilitarian
As stated earlier, rejection is the norm. So while this may seem objectifying, you do need to start thinking of women more as numbers than individuals. You need to take a sort of Machievellian approach to dating. The simple mathematical truth is that the more girls you ask out, the more likely you are for one of them to say Yes. So being utilitarian means that you are constantly asking girls out and exploring your prospects, constantly looking at things in a mathematical sort of way. Remember that even if 99 out of 100 girls say No to you, you only need 1 to say Yes. So be utilitarian, get out there and start asking out women nonstop!
#4) Aim High
As I mentioned in my last point, even if 99 out of 100 girls reject you, you only need 1 to say Yes. So aim high with women, only shoot for the really attractive ones who are way out of your league. Rejection is already the norm anyway as any "Yes" is going to be an act of Divine intervention, so why not take the miracle to the extreme? Holdout and wait for a really attractive woman to say Yes. Furthermore, most average girls are just as--if not even more--picky than their really attractive counterparts, so your odds at getting a really attractive girl to say Yes really aren't that much worse. You might as well aim high. Plus, a huge part of the reason WHY so many average and less-than-average girls are so damn picky nowadays is precisely because so many males are desperately pursuing them in the hopes that their odds will be better than if they pursued a really attractive girl. Men, as males united, we need to stop this. This is a horrible trend which is enabling girls who are barely average to pursue guys who are 8s and 9s on a scale from 1-10, and enabling fat chicks like Ashley Graham to be swimsuit models who we're supposed to be attracted to. You need to aim high, take power away from the average and less-than-average girls. Aim high because you only need 1 really attractive girl to say Yes.
In conclusion, I have one final piece of advice that will make the women hate me even more. Remember men that despite all of the factors that are stacked against us, there is at least one factor which is in our favor: Time. Time is on our side gentlemen. Whereas women start off with all of their sexual value during their youth and then begin to lose it as they age, men start out sexually worthless but then acquire their value as they age. So while you may be a loser right now, you can be a winner tomorrow if you use your head and plan accordingly. Furthermore, while all of the girls may be winners right now, tomorrow they will be losers on the decline once they reach 30. This means that you CAN control your future so that you will be a winner tomorrow, and that if all else fails, you can at least settle for a lot of aging, horny 30 year old "Sex and the City" women who are desperate because they're still single.
Or you can settle for a fat chick like Ashley Graham (just to piss you off again after my first MyTake)