Have you ever wanted to talk to a beautiful woman, but you talked yourself out of it. You might have made some excuse as to why it wasn’t the right time like:
“She’s too pretty, and probably has a boyfriend.”
“She looks like she doesn’t want to be bothered.”
Or “I am not dressed right today, and plus I didn’t shave.”
So many times I have heard many of my fellow men; my brothers at arms say,
“I am tired of trying to talk to women!”
A lot of men cower at the very thought of it, for three reasons A) they are not comfortable with talking to beautiful women. B) Rejection hurts and C) Most men don’t know how to communicate, without coming on too strong.
I was that guy, a guy who had talked to women in the past and because I wasn't comfortable, had no confidence and either came on too strong that they were counting the seconds until I left.
Later in life, if I wanted to talk to a girl, I would just wait for a girl to fall in my lap, or rely on a blind date. So what changed you ask? I got tired of watching my friends getting all the hot chicks, and I ended up with their fat unattractive friends. Wait now, I know that came off as really harsh, and by no means am I a super-model, but don’t you think for a second that attraction is not a key factor and being the DUFF in your entourage is fun.
So gentlemen in this article I want to highlight a few points that will help you with talking with women, and not passing up on a great opportunities to meet beautiful women who could potentially be your wife and the mother of your children… Keep in mind there are no tricks of seduction, they don’t work…Corny lines get old, unless you can make up one she has never heard, but still it’s risky. Just being yourself in a calm controlled and captivating way might do the trick.
ALWAYS BE PREPARED TO TALK
Men never make the excuse that you are not ready to talk to a woman. Always look presentable, always carry mints in your pocket, grab a small can of BOD man and spray your body, but not too heavy. Prepare your mind, if you are single and looking, then be ready to at least say hello, how’s your day? Never come to a gun fight, with a knife! If a lion see’s food, he takes it and will be the first to eat. Talk to her with your heart and mind ready for anything, rather it be rejection or a love connection.
PRACTICE TALKING TO PEOPLE
My brothers, with women game is not essential, trickery devices, and seduction don’t work. If the girl likes you, she will accept your conversation. However, before you open your mouth practice speaking WITH people. Not to people…there is a difference.
There is a saying that say, (Practice makes Perfect) but I say, (Practice makes permanent) there is no such thing as perfect.
If you are out in public just start communicating with anybody, about their shirt, shoes, ask them how they are, and you will find people are an open book. You have to get women comfortable, laughter is a plus. I can walk up to anyone and make them laugh, just by being comfortable and that comfortably came with practice. A beautiful girl that works out in the gym walks in the store, you recognize her. Do you turn away and pretend she is not there? I think not you gutless yellow belly! Be PREPARED always.
“Hey, how are you, I think I know you?”
“Yeah, you do look familiar,”
“We go to the same gym,”
“I always see you working hard; I would love to try one of your work outs,”
“All thank you,”
“Can I get your number and set up a time we can work out together?”
“Well I’m married and therefore don’t hand out my number,”
“No problem, well thank you for your time and don’t be afraid to say hello,” I said as I exited stage left.
So in this example I didn’t get the number, I was rejected, and although I felt a little hurt that she was already taken, maturity has taught me that this is a part of life. Women will say no, but not all of them. Remember guys dating is a numbers game the more women you ask out the greater percentage of a positve outcome will happen. Get comfortable with talking with people and rejection, if you stop and cower, because she turned you down, then you might never get the girl of your dreams. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
REJECTION WILL HAPPEN
Some guys are naturally comfortable with women. It’s not a big deal to start up a conversation with them, it’s no big deal if the girl says good bye and walks away without giving him a shot. That’s because these men, understand that rejection will happen at some point. These guys get a thrill out of doing what most men fear to do, and that’s actually approaching women. Even if she shoots you down, it’s the accomplishment of knowing that, at least I tried. It’s not considered a moral victory because it’s not man vs. women here, it’s Man vs. yourself…
If you have a hard time hearing the word No, or someone telling you that, they are not interested, or are in a relationship, then you need to think about professional help.
The word No or rejection is a part of life, as is death and taxes
Think about if your girlfriend or wife, being approached by a guy, would you want her to entertain another man’s conversation? Of course not! Please consider that rejection is part of the process as well as getting accepted, either way you have to over come yourself.
HAVE A PLAN
Just as an author would have a plan to write a story, he must understand there has to be a beginning middle and end. When you see a girl and you want to talk to her. First think how you would approach a guy, asking about his car, or asking about football scores. Seriously, take your excited feelings about her nice curves, pretty face, and images of her naked body dancing on a pole aside. Plan to greet her by asking how she is doing? Wait to see if she has any reaction, if she responds, or not. If you fail to get her attention be a man and try again. Say it louder next time, and get her attention. However don’t be rude, it’s just some girls are very shy and are not sure you are actually talking to them. So clear your throat and put a gentle bass in your voice and politely get her attention. When she responds ask her something about current events, or if she watched the game, find something about her clothes, nothing sexual, throw sex out the conversation unless she brings it up. Get her talking about music; get her comfortable by just asking questions. If she is interested she will stay for the conversation. If she has a boy friend she will tell you. Most women will say my boyfriend loves this or we do that, and then you will know….dead in. Here is an example of using your observations to start a conversation:
Me: “Hey how you doing?”
Her: “Good…” She said with a blank expression.
Me "I'm Joe, what's your name?"
Me:"Sally nice to meet you!"
Me: “I can’t believe you’re a Broncos fan.”
Her: “Yeah, my favorite team.” She smiled
Me: “Are you from Denver?”
Her: “Yeah, came here to Arizona when I was 14.”
Me: “I did too, we got a lot in common except the Steelers are the best team ever, which, you and I know, we gave you the game for Payton, so you can thank us!” I said playfully.
Her: “No way, we beat you guys fare and square!” She said high pitched.
Me: Well one can dream, say how about we watch the game next Sunday at Fox and Hound?
Her: That would be nice, take down my number!
In this example I was able to get the girl to engage in conversation, make her laugh and get her to offer her number I really believe it was because I was prepared to talk, I understood I could get rejected, but with good observations I had a plan; greet, listen and ask questions, and ask to exchange numbers.
CLOSING THE DEAL
I had a hard time with closing the deal. Talking to women was easy for me, but then asking for their number was very hard. That’s because I didn’t have patients, wanted to get in and get out with the digits. My friends you have to relax, a woman’s intuition is very strong. It’s like she uses the FORCE to detect sincerity, nervousness and plain old weirdness.
That’s why practicing talking with people and taking your time is best, when your comfortable she is comfortable. Just yesterday I talked to this gorgeous girl at the gym and she could not stop laughing. She hung on every word, and finally I got her number. To me she was a perfect ten, I mean, really gorgeous. The way I did it, was just being carefree, relaxed, and asked questions. She said something and I asked questions about what she said, got her talking more, and then at the end, I said, “We should hangout.” Then BAM! my friends she gave me her number with a smile on her face.
… My friends no more shall you cower at the sight of a pretty woman, no more shall you make petty excuses for why you can’t at least try and carry on a conversation with her. Let this be the last day you turn your back on the opportunity of a life time. Be prepared, practice, understand rejection, have a plan, and close the deal.
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