Why Do Indian Girls Prefer Western Guys Over Indian Guys?

[Pepperoninchihuahuas]

Hello!

So lately, I've come across multiple inter-racial marriage posts,in fact there was just one,this winter in my family! My Hungarian friend was like "what are these guys hyping about?" Meaning she was flabbergasted with the number of marriages like this.. Having being fed with stereotypical facts such as "Indians are conservative and protective. Long shot to get your Indian tigress bro." it was pretty natural of her to pose a question like that. So today I'm going to address some reasons for why some Indian girls would prefer western guys over Indian guys.(white,black,European guys = western guys)

No big shocker, but I myself am one of those girls who're attracted to them westerners...and what's my reason? Well, you see Indian guys obviously have the typical Indian upbringing ,which is the problem!! By definition an Indian upbringing simply emphasizes the patriarchal relationship everyone in the family share and the massive protection that they have of Indian women in the family. Not to mention the major restrictions when it comes to attire and who you talk to and where you go (parties,etc). Some of them are so conservative that they still follow their messed up caste system. Awkwardly segregated they are and HAVE to insert their nose into everyone's business. They will never miss a chance to comment or gossip on someone's life decision. They can't help but disrespect it. However au contrarie,most certainly there are modern and westernized Indian families out there who are more accepting of everyone's decisions and other such and such issues. But still their values carry long and strong. I don't mean to hate on all of indian culture and values crazy because of I'm one of them, but some of them are very unreasonable and unnecessary.

Now boiling down to the Indian guys themselves. Most of them tend to underestimate girls any girl any race any culture. They just can't be equal but again there have been quite a few equal Indian guys I've bumped into and I'm happy to have. Again I don't mean to say that all Indian girls are going to burst with feminism and turn into actually tigresses but it's a major turnoff for any girl when they are not given a chance to play dominant. Western guys, specifically white guys actually like it when girls can lead them around and vice-versa unlike Indian guys. Western guys take care of themselves and Indian guys, not so much... :/ they tend to smell. Indian guys tend to be very condescending with their remarks. One of the guys in my karate class gave remarks like "don't be shy like a girl.. Don't be a crybaby..like a girl" to one of our fellow mates and that's just.. It. STOP being so bossy and stop running around with a chip on your shoulder! Don't put others down to elevate yourself! That's not the road to cloud 9.. Well it is to -9. They tend to do all of this for show... And if you confront them like I did once.. They'll not accept they're shit and will come back at you.! "Eh you shut up".

Going on dates with Indian guys is even worse. They just won't be interested in any conversation.I went on one with this guy. I ended up asking him a billion questions about him and was asked only two.. It felt like a waste of time.. (Stopped it right at the first date.)They are super boring to talk to at times.. And occasionally funny. They also tend to carry head weight which makes it so hard to approach them.It's so complicated you guys! 😖😖😖

This is what I think, and it sure as hell may be very biased. I've yet a lot to experience..and this is a very opinionated my take,like it's supposed to be.. Please feel free to drop down some of your oppinions and questions! And if you have opposite views do not hessitate to set them free!!

Pepperoninchihuahuas

(I don't eat pepperonis tho)

[Kitty_Katt_16]

I'm an Indian girl too, the only difference is that I'm a South African Indian.
I agree with like everything you've said, but I have other reasons too; like the fact that I was brought up with 'Western" people... okay lemme just say it, I was brought up with white people :P Of course my family is Indian but I've always gone to white schools, and my mum and dad are very open-minded and they aren't typical Indians.
I like Indian guys... you know, Bollywood actors :P but I'm not saying that I haven't met amazing Indian guys in real life, like guys who don't judge and stuff; BUT, most of these guys are always like... they're a bit too much, I mean, even if they're 'modern' there will still come a time where they will pick on what you're wearing, or what you eat, how you cook etc. because most of the time, that's all that really matters to them.
My theory is that Indian girls are more attracted to Western guys because of their behaviour. Western guys treat their women a lot better; they're a lot more respectful and caring, for example; if you're in the kitchen washing the dishes or cooking, they won't go sit and watch TV, they'll come and actually help you, or just be there with you to keep you company. Most of them treat you equally, as in, they don't make you feel like there are limitations because you are a woman, in fact , they encourage you to try new things.
Now look, I'm not saying that there aren't Indian guys out there who do all these really cute things; these guys do exist, it all depends on how they were raised... but what I'm trying to say is that most Western people are raised that way, and we find that attractive.
Don't really know if I'm making any sense here; but this is what I think.
Honestly, though, you can't choose who you fall in love with, so at the end of the day you might end up marrying an Indian guy and realising that he is the best thing that's ever happened to you, or he could be the worst thing ever. Same thing applies to the Western guy; he could be amazing, or he could turn out to be a jerk. So I don't think we should be judging people, or trying to choose who to fall in love with, based on stuff like this.
... yep.

[datgirl]

Uh I'm indian and I have no problems with indian men. Every one is different stop making it a race thing. I hate obtuse people YES I'm talking about you.

[dudegrt09]

woohoo! ;)

[datgirl]

@dudegrt09 us indians must stand up to our haters haha 😜

[dudegrt09]

Sure, but glad that hot Indian girls are still into Indian guys ;P

[datgirl]

@dudegrt09 of course! Cause indians are hot after all lmao. we are no less than any other race.

[dudegrt09]

Sure I know that lol

[lonerider]

We need more women like you out here.. Gosh I am tired of this Indian bashing for... For what? Scoring brownie points with western men here? Attention whores. Anyway.. Keep preaching bruh!

[datgirl]

@lonerider I'm tired of it too buddy :)

[lonerider]

I hope more Indian girls start listening to you and realize that there are bad apples in every community.

[datgirl]

@lonerider I mean western culture isn't all that great. It's just over hyped. I definitely don't have an obsession with it or western men.

[lonerider]

USA does not even have a 'culture' for that matter

[datgirl]

@lonerider true dat ^^

[lonerider]

So, where in India are you from?

[datgirl]

@lonerider my parents are from kerala. Hbu?

[lonerider]

Natively from Maharashtra. Stay in Telangana

[datgirl]

@lonerider oh very nice! :)

[lonerider]

So.. your parents being from kerala means you speak malayalam at home, I guess?

[datgirl]

@lonerider they do with me. I sometimes I do. But we mainly speak English. But I'm trying to change that lol.

[lonerider]

you trying to learn malayalam? Cool :)

[datgirl]

@lonerider I know malayalam but I'm no expert lmao.

[lonerider]

Any other languages apart from Eng and Mal? Tamil maybe?

[Bvroon]

I found your posting rather interesting, admittedly I didn't really know that Indian women were interested in white/western men. I also must confess that I wasn't going to respond to your posting, not because there is anything wrong with it, but rather I was shocked by the number of negative statements from other men. I have never had any issues with Indian women, and in fact have found many of them to be quite pretty. Unfortunately I am married, so I suspect that I will not be subject to the attentions of an Indian woman, if I did receive such attention I would be very flattered and would have to respectfully decline due to the fact that I am married and am very happy with my wife. Were I single I would not hesitate to date an Indian woman, or really a woman of any race. it is my belief that women come in all shapes, sizes and colors and are all beautiful in their own right. I hope the negative comments posted previously don't affect you or your desire to seek out the man you deserve. :-)

[Intraluminal]

I'm a western white guy, but i gotta say this whole bash on indian guys is just overboard. Indian guys are this they're that, blah blah, there are SO many Indian guys, some of whom MUST BE friggin fantastic people. Celebrate the good guys and ignore the bad ones.

[YourFutureEx]

Thanks dude

[singlebee]

Thanks man!

[Rah234]

HA HA, do you know where you made the mistake,
1. No white person would say "I'm a western white guy...". They would say, for example "I'm British, I'm German etc" or "I'm white"
2." Indian guys this , Indian guys that " that's indian English. That kind of word structed is only used in india pakistan bangladesh.
So guys 99% it is an indian guy commenting under a WHITE sheet. I don't know why you are doing this. Just to feel good!!!

[Guy13]

No Caste System is a reason.

[krash2002]

I've definitely been on the receiving end of being a westerner who has had a decent amount of attention received from Indian women.

Though I am currently married to the most beautiful Filipino woman in the world (in my eyes). I've dated a few Indian women along the way as well. Being a Caucasian male in the states shouldn't give you an upper hand in the dating world, but from what I've been told by the 4-5 Indian girls I've dated in the past and my friends who have dated some as well who are also westerners. It seems that western men in general have more respect for women, and actually want to get to know them for them. Rather than a means to an end.

Now, this isn't to say that all Indian men treat their women like a set goal/object, because that's not the truth at all, but from what the majority of Indian women I've spoken to in the past. It seems men from India see women as more of an objective goal towards a set proponent. Rather than a partner in life.

Again, this is my personal opinion.

[Colocasia]

Some are generally

[Anonymous]

I am an Indian guy and I will say that the majority of Indian guys and girls aren't attractive. As in only the top 1% of the population of Indian population can qualify as at least a 5, and 10's are about as common as pink unicorns.
I am one of those rare attractive Indian guys. Every time I go out I'm in public girls my age and younger will check me out 99% of the time. When I was in school I had absolutely zero trouble in hooking up with the hottest girls and many girls have told me straight to my face that I'm a 10. However, being part of a race full of unattractive guys actually plays to my advantage. My best friend has blonde hair and blue eyes, and I think he is way more attractive than I am. Yet whenever the two of us are out together in public, I get girls checking me out way more than they check him out. I believe this is because there is nothing special about a hot blue eyed blondie but a hot indian is a rare sight they have to look at twice. I'm not saying all this to brag, I'm just saying this to show how being part of an unattractive race actually helps me out.

Also to note I don't particularly prefer any race over another and I have hooked up with people from every race. I really don't care what race you are as long as you're attractive. In fact I think it's absolutely ridiculous to say that you only go for one race.

[Katerina_Belle]

I'm half Indian and Pakistani and I've always dating British Indian or British Pakistani guys. Though I would probably never date someone from Pakistan or India because of cultural differences... I don't want to generalise because there are many Indian or Pakistani guys that are probably modern; but I, myself, don't know any.
I think the problems you are having with the Indian guys you have been on dates with is just the guys you end up dating, because the Indian guys I've dated were no different to how a White guy would behave. I haven't been in a relationship with a White guy but I've been on dates with two.

[Anonymous]

Oh great. Another Indian girl who is willing to put down Indian guys as much as she can just to date white guys with all the bullshit excuses aka generalizations. If you want a white guy, no one is stopping you but the hate for Indian guys that a lot of Indian girls have is unreal. Why don't you just change your title from Western guys to white guys. I picked up that you're one of many Indian guys who isn't interested in all Western guys but mainly white guys cause of this "Western guys, specifically white guys actually like it when girls can lead them around and vice-versa unlike Indian guys." Lol at specifically white guys.

[ElissaDido]

She said not white particularly, she likes western guys in general regardless of their race I guess... But yeah shaming guys from your culture is not a good thing to do!

[Chief16]

@ElissaDido dude I'm biracial and an Indian national, and this comes across as one of the stupidest things I've read. India has 600 million or so men. That's more than entire population of North America or Europe. Just imagine the diversity. All the way North, from Kashmir down to the southernmost tip, the Kanyakumari. We're talking about all the major religions and their sub sects and all the different ethnicities and their subcultures. And the thousands of different cultures here. If she's gonna say that all or even most Indian men are just too 'traditional', its BS. I live in a metro and despite all this religious tension across the country, I can still offer namaz at the mosque on Fridays, without any scrutiny as a Hindu. It mostly this stupid media propaganda that take a very tourist view of the country. If you haven't lived in India, you don't know India. I wouldn't expect a foreign national to understand this, but this kid is way in over her head.

[ManOnFire]

@Chief16 Ahh, I see. Yes, I myself know a lot about India and it is quite diverse, yeah. I think the big issue here is that that Take poster is discriminating based on oppressive rural Indian men, and also well-to-do egotistical Indian men who want to oppress women. And then there are the Indian guys in between who are all for their women being treated equally and having jobs and being independent.

[Opinion Owner]

@ElissaDido Then why did she say specifically white guys? It's clearly evident that she didn't wanna be too obvious that she meant just white guys rather than Western guys in general when she meant specifically white guys. And as an Indian, I know for a fact that barely any Indian girl prefers black guys or Asian guys but a good majority of them do prefer white guys. Western guys is just code for white guys cause these girls don't wanna admit that they prefer white guys over Indian guys. Same can be said for a lot of girls of other races.

[rjroy3]

Didn't even know this was a thing. Most Indian guys I know are with Indian girls lol. I think it just goes to show you that there are chodes in every color and nationality. Most of the time I think part of the allure to foreigners is because you don't see the good around you. Yes, accents can be hot and they're new and the idea is exciting but we're still just people.

Now I definitely love foreign girls. I'm international when it comes to women. But I still love American women. Black women, latinas, white girls and the cute Asian thrown in there. Filipino girls are sexy too : )

[Colocasia]

I completely agree with you 😊 New is attractive always but what makes you stay is what has always felt common and comfortable to you. You're gonna like foreign guys but its only a guy of your race who will be able to know you more easily

[rjroy3]

@Colocasia

Not race necessarily. But where you come from. Locals.

[DruBiEN]

I don't see many Indian girls around me who prefer western men (European men) over Indian ones. They bash Indian men sometimes. Agreed. However I see it clearly that the westernized Indian women give more preference to the western men since their way of thinking and living are modified by the experience in western society. I give equal preference to all ethnicities, it is just the matter of what fits best to ME like no gossip, no judging people for their decisions for their own life, no poking nose into someone elses business, not being sneaky, etc.

[TripleAce]

Quite silly because almost everything you mentioned you can find in other ethnicities too, Italians families, Arab families Asians to name a few. You clearly haven't seen old fashioned families with those backgrounds. You also tend to fall under a stereo type of an Indian girl that's shaming her own people.

Also it seems like you are just attracting and meeting guys that simply don;t match up well with you. That quiet guy has a perfect match out there but its just not you and that's fine. Having white skin doesn't automatically make you a conservationist. Having the right personality does.

[Anilkumar11]

Voo thats good bro i love your comment

[Anonymous]

Being an Indian myself, although I live in Singapore, I find that I'm not that attracted to Indian guys here.

A lot of the Indian guys here are very desperate. When they look at Indian girls, all they see is a chance for a date, for a relationship, since Indians are a minority here. But other guys view you as just a girl, a friend, anything more than that is actually a real attraction to you because of your personality and looks, not because you're simply Indian. That's why my boyfriend ended up not being Indian but Chinese. Cause we didn't see each other as anything more than friends at first, no expectations or hopes and stuff.

You won't believe the amount of guys that started chasing me when I first joined my school, all of them Indian even though of all the guys I mixed with in my school life, only 10% were Indians.

[shiv1990]

I'm an Indian and I pretty much disagree with everything you mentioned above. Patriarchal upbringing is a family related issue and depends on the kind of family the person belongs to. This notwithstanding that even in western countries, traditional families exist that support patriarchal system. So it all depends person to person. But here, you're shaming us.

[Anilkumar11]

Bhen ki lodi badman kr rhe hai sali pagal hai ladke kam padgaye kya india mai. I also agree with u friend. She is fucking asshole

[Chief16]

Geez, more beat up the Indian guy Take, dude just date, marry, fuck whoever you want. You can do this without shaming a culture.

[ManOnFire]

Yeah, true.

[Chief16]

@ManOnFire just read my post in reply to ElissaDidos.

[ManOnFire]

I didn't find it.

[Chief16]

@ManOnFire its by some anons post below as a reply.

[TheBraveLion]

BANG ON!!!

[Chief16]

@TheBraveLion aww, I knew I could on you, boyo.

[Chief16]

@TheBraveLion *count

[Anonymous]

Your post seems to very biased because of your karate class and a couple of dates.

Some people take care of themselves some don't. You can't just say that only Indian men don't take care of themselves that's not true.

You have to stay open to everyone, you might shut the door on a good Indian/person for a bad western/person...

I disagree with your take because I am an Indian male and I find mostly Indian women are attracted to me.

Race should have nothing to do with a person, you have to get to know someone first.

[chintita]

i don't think the ones in india do, maybe indian girls in the west. indian guys can be really hot so...

[singlebee]

Ofcourse this was about Indian girls who kind in Western countries...
I see so many Indian girls here in India who order being with Indian guys only... And also we don't have white people or any other people here in India.

[singlebee]

And don't listen to her... She is a troll + 16 old..

[Anilkumar11]

Hahaha yes sir she is trol

[AJAYDEV4]

You NRIs (Non Returning! Indians) are fucking retarded.
thank GOD i was raised in INDIA and still leaving here, we get our date easily,
because we are not messed up by western media as u guys.
GOD! western media made you guys self-haters.
Its better don't come to India with that attitude.

[Summerjonee]

by western guys i assume you mean white people? and yeah it's no shock that a lot of women from every nationality/race wants to date someone western.. the western ideal look spread to other societies around the world so now they find western men prefered more than the men in their countries, it's sad but true.

[cth96190]

I do not understand the attraction, but as a white man I can say that I have been in the crosshairs of Indian females for most of my adult life.
When I was a teenager and then a 20-something who could almost not get a date with women of my own race, I was being hit on by Indian, Chinese and Middle Eastern (Christian) girls.
My interest level was and remains zero. I do not do inter-racial.

[singlebee]

Hahaha this is so much generalization about Indian guys and also on Indian girls...

You must be living in western country... Where there are more white guys vs Indian... Your can marry who ever your want but generalising is plain stupid...
All those things you said about the conservativeness, hygiene and etc etc are all generalized...
You must have never been with good Indian guys that's why you think ask indian guys are like that.. Which is obviously not true...

[Anilkumar11]

Thats not true as indian guys are care there girlfriend at the end of there life

[singlebee]

@Anilkumar11 your English sucks man! Couldn't understand a think you said... Hindi me bola to bhi chalega...

[Darkone1]

Well, let me tell you some story,
in the time of Prophets and under the direct guideline of GOD, family orientation and keeping sex private with marriage concept was known as the CIVILIZED nations traits. Now you see sex hungry men with whore bitches that can be with thousand before, they will or even "will" marry someone. I am trying to tell you that other part of the world is still civilized so don't abuse a culture at-least your ARYA SAMAj in this context.

[JuicyBrain]

The indians I have met who grew up here are fine. The ones who I've met who still had the indian culture were absolute assholes. Such backward thinking and just generally annoying. So I am biased now. If I have to meet another one, I'll give him a chance but it won't take much before I tag him as yet another annoying indian guy and keep my distance from him. Plus, the accent is so annoying. I know it's not their fault, but that's just what it is.

[lonerider]

You'd be surprised bro. Born and brought up in India.. Still staying in India and planning to stay in India. I'd be opposite of probably everything you assume of me. Try me

[JuicyBrain]

@lonerider That's why I said I would give him a chance. Because I don't want to make the mistake of just assuming they are all like that. You all get the chance of proving me wrong. By that, I don't mean that I am interested in meeting all of you. You are in far too great a number anyway lol

[lonerider]

Lol.. Did you know that the no. of people eligible to vote in the latest elections in India was larger the entire population of Europe?

[JuicyBrain]

@lonerider Damn ! We're gonna have to start neutering you lol

[lonerider]

There's no need man.. We're killing each other off based on cultural differences anyway. Outsiders need not interfere :P

[JuicyBrain]

@lonerider ok Tell us once you are in small numbers so we can swoop in and take your women lol

[lonerider]

Dude... Do you want to eat rice with smelly curries? You dont want Indian women unless you want to eat rice with curries..

[JuicyBrain]

@lonerider Haha I even like it, but I like your women even more :-)

[lonerider]

And we like yours :)

[Mailo]

Just To be honest, this my take is way out of my reasonable thinking!! I feel like, while reading it, there's a self hatred speech about your culture rather than actual reasons for disliking Indian guys 😣 why don't you just say "I'm fed up with the whole Indian thing" and there you go without the need to talk some non-sense crap about indian guys!!

[Anilkumar11]

Well said

[Anonymous]

You have expressed it so well. I am an indian and i know most of them just can't treat us as equals. And the worse is d restriction they put on everything fr girls and nothing on boys. patriarchy sucks.
There r some decent ones out there who make life livable but most of them are nt like dat unfortunately.