It is that time of year again, the school year is ending, and high school seniors are preparing to leave home for college... or not. I am happy to say that I am lucky enough to be attending college in the fall! And just like any incoming college freshman, I am looking forward to meeting some interesting people.
After a really tough breakup in high school that I am finally over, I am ready to meet another girl. I'm looking forward to a relationship that really lasts. I'm looking forward to getting to know someone better then I've even known a person before in my life. I want to make a girl happy who really deserves to be happy. You may be thinking "that's what they all say". However I would argue that this is not what they all say by any means. In fact, I would say that many guys in college are looking for sex. Given the downright disturbing statistics regarding sexual assault on college campuses, I would say many guys do not feel the same way as I do about meeting a girl.
I really think that the most important part of a relationship is feeling safe and comfortable around each other. I mean of course in a relationship, you want to laugh, watch movies together, go out to eat, etc. But these all come second to feeling safe around each other. If you don't feel safe, then you can't do any of the other things mentioned. I am looking forward to making a girl feel safe. I want the opportunity to show a girl that I am a good guy, because I feel like I wasn't given that opportunity enough in high school.
Sex is a strange subject. I mean I think almost everyone wants to have sex at some point in their life. Sex should be a sign of love. Don't get me wrong... when I meat this hypothetical girl that I've been talking about, I do want to have sex. But of course I want it to happen later. It should be about love, and it should be something we are both comfortable with. Sex is inherently a good thing because it represents love. When mommy and daddy love each other very much... you know. But the sad thing is that people abuse it, and then it is not so fun... then it is horribly damaging. And I do mean horribly- people don't realize that. Sex is strange because it can either be really good, or really bad. Anyway, the point is that I want to make a girl feel really comfortable with me, and I want to make her feel safe. And if there is any sex, I want her to feel safe with that as well.
I look forward to that first time when we are in bed together- I don't mean sex, I just mean in bed together. Everyone says "sleep together"... is that "sex"... no... it's "sleep together". I look forward to holding her in bed and just falling asleep together. I believe that sleeping together in the ultimate test. If she feels comfortable, then she will want to sleep with me. Looking at someone as they are sleeping must be amazing. I would just put my arm around her and keep her safe.
Is anyone else about to enter college? Do you have similar feelings?