I recently wrote a myTake which went into great detail about the personality attributes I find appealing in older men. The article can be seen here: Older Men, Your Wallet Isn't What Got Me.
If you are familiar with the writing then you will know that it is no secret that I love a man with confidence.
I went into great depths on what I meant by the word confidence.
It is such a powerful tool to have because it is what gives me great interest in these types of men that happen to be older than myself.
I never thought of myself as a cougar or one in training, that would consider dating a man several years younger than herself, but ever since nearing my late twenties, and now age 30 I can't help but notice that I have a string of younger guys wanting to involve themselves with me.
I know there are a good amount of men who find women older than themselves appealing, but what I have come to learn is that I don't exactly have the older woman look.
Many of these men mistake me for a woman who is their age.
When they learn I am a little older they seem shocked but continue trying to pursue me.
I find the willingness to not doubt themselves or be intimidated by a older woman,
a very appealing trait.
It reminds me of why I am usually drawn to older men.
It's great to see some younger men possess this quality too.
All I wish is that more younger men were this self assured and trusting in themselves.
Again, confidence along with other personality attributes is such a powerful tool.
I love younger men that are mature and act more like my age group.
I never thought in a million years, I would even consider dating someone several years younger than myself but seeing how they don't even seem the slightest bothered by a birth year, makes me think why should I allow myself to be bothered?
If we have everything in common why let a birth year which is beyond our control stop our love from developing?
If the shoe was on the other foot, and this man was dating a younger woman, no one would even blink an eye. A five to eight year age difference never really is spoken about unless one of the people is a minor involved.
Now, I want to make clear there's a limit to how young I would consider dating.
I like the age difference to be subtle or barely noticeable.
It doesn't interest me to parade around looking like someone's Mother
(No offense to those women who are 15+ years older than their significant other).
It just is not my cup of tea. I think at a certain point especially for me, an age difference can become awkward if you don't share enough in common with the individual.
The bigger an age gap the more likely that becomes a possibility between the two people.
The only thing that would excite you is your interest in the persons looks.
If you recall, I am big on personality that is the key factor that draws me to an individual no matter their age.
Now, I don't have much experience dating younger men but it definitely is an eye opener seeing that plenty of them take interest in me along with those my age and much older.
If a relationship has a solid foundation to blossom into something beyond great, what's a few years in age?
It's great to say I keep an open mind when it comes to love.
Although being with a younger guy isn't my norm, I wouldn't shut my eye on it if I see potential.