Dating As A Black Man, and Why it Remains Difficult

Honestly, it is hard to be black in America; it truly is. However, we will discuss all the many reasons why it is hard to be black in America in another discussion. In this discussion, I want to talk about black people in the dating world; more specifically, being a black guy in the dating world.

Before I begin this take, you have probably guessed it already. Yes, I am a black man. I am 25 years of age. I am currently working on my Masters. I am a senior project manager for a web development firm. I have my own condo (working on getting a house) I have a car. I am very articulate. I am also a snappy dresser. Why am I telling you all this? I am not trying to brag about my accomplishments; however, a lot of people have it in their heads that black guys are "savages, thugs and aren't very bright". I have seen black men like this, but only in the ghetto. Not all black men are like this, and all of my friends that are black also have advanced degrees and great jobs.

As a black man in the dating world, it's tough. Here's an example of what I experience through online dating when I try to talk to women of different races:


A lot of the time, we are instantly shut down because of the color of our skin. This has happened to me often. I would often see this a girl's profile, in which it would read, "I DO NOT date black guys" or "I am NOT attracted to black guys". If you think that's bad? I tried talking to this woman online before, and she instantly replied to me saying, "I do not date n*ggers". However... that's just the tip of the iceberg.

When I was a kid, I grew up in an affluent white environment. All of my friends were white, all of my classmates were white, all of my teachers were white, and all the women I dated (or tried to date - lol) were also white. In 2009, immediately after high school, my parents told me that they were moving to Dallas, Texas and invited me to come along. I wanted to see what the world had to offer me and I wanted a change of pace. After moving to Texas, I was in awe. There were so many different women of different races; however, I started to really have a thing for black women. While I am attracted to all different races and have dated women of various races, I just started to steadily become attracted to black women. However, I have actually never dated a black woman in my life.

It seems that black women in our society have tastes for 2 types of men:

Thug Black Guys:

I have talked and tried to get to know many black women since moving to Texas. However, it's all the same. They tell me they have dated men who are thugs and are in trouble with the law and that they are looking for a nice, down to Earth, educated man to form a relationship with. I often think to myself, "Hey, I am a nice, down to Earth, educated man" and I give them that, but they start ignoring me and end up dating another thug guy, until he breaks her heart and the cycle continues.

This video speaks volumes of what I am talking about:

http://www.worldstarhiphop.com/videos/video.php?v=wshh61qd6N4iFyWX6uCG

White Guys:

Don't get me wrong at all, interracial dating does not bother me. What does bother me, however, is when people choose to date interracially because they do not like their race or are ashamed of their race and want out.

It seems that more and more black women are choosing to date white men for that very reason. I have talked to black women, only to be told, "I only date white guys". When you go to online dating sites and you see in a black woman's profile, "Swirl life" or "I love white men", they are basically telling you that they only date white guys.

This question speaks volumes of what I have also experienced on my end as a black guy:

http://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/q2018453-how-black-girls-who-only-like-white-guys-feel-about-black-men

And so does this article:

http://www.centrictv.com/news-views/race-culture/articles/2015/04/01/azealia-banks-explains-why-she-doesn-t-date-black-men.html

It seems that the educated black men are losing because black women tend to only want to date thugs or they want white men.


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  • 3mo

    The video reminds me of a white guy message me with "waz up n** lips" by the way I'm half white and half Hispanic its hard for a lot of people because you can't find decent on the internet. This is why I'm isolating myself from dating until I'm ready to date again because I am fed up.

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  • oh :/ don't take online dating seriously..
    i hope you'll find yourself a nice girl soon!

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    • 3mo

      Exactly online dating just show the nutjobs, pervs and assholes of the internet.

  • I haven't seen this at all. All I see when I go out is black guys being with either white or Latina girls. And I see black women with white guys too. No one cares.

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  • Um... black men are losing out because so many of them adhere to the stereotype. I'm a black woman myself and the black guys where I live ARE thugs unfortunately. I won't date any of them up here, but that doesn't mean I'd never date a black guy ever.

    Personally, I think black women have it much harder than black men do when it comes to dating.

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    • If your on about online dating try sending messages to guys and perfecting your photo.
      To be fair I need to work on my profile photo the lightings all wrong and the quality isn't that good but even if I haven't done the best job yet my self I intend to as it's basically the most important thing for online dating.

      Being a black woman shouldn't stop you dating.
      I've seen some really hot black women and I don't think going cross race is a big deal for most guys it certainly doesn't have anything like the effect of having kids or a second chin or your amount of facial symmetry or even not being the guys preferred height.

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    • Wow, you mean the black men that you are choosing. Even in the Ghetto, there are black men who are not "thugs". Just like in the heart of Dixie there are white men who are not down with the Klan. Get over yourself.

    • @Sigil Well, I can't possibly be choosing any of them if I'm not dating them, now can I? And if you think that, you know nothing of the ghettos.

  • please dont judge black women because in the same way you are generalizing us, women of other races generalize you. you are not a special snowflake. there are other educated black men and women and we tend to date each other. granted, this may depend on location and demographics

    where im from there are a lot of thugs. like true thugs as in certified gang members, drug dealers and murderers but nobody really wants them except for the hoodrats. hopefully you're not goin after those types lol

    then you have the working class/poorer black guys. they are not always thugs but can often be easily classed (stereotyped) as thugs by people who dont really know better. for example a guy from the hood who may have a few misdemeanors from like 10 years ago isn't really a thug to me, but i can see how someone else who is removed from the black community may assume he is at first glance. for example the picture of the black guy with the tattoos smoking a cigar does not look like a thug to me. it could be a regional thing (im from atlanta) but i dont see thug when i look at him. he looks more alternative/rock and roll or possibly tattoo-owner ish to me.

    anyways black women dont require a guy to be a thug or white to date. thats a generalization and honestly just sounds silly. so you really think most black women will not date a black guy unless he is an active gang member with tattoos on his face or a white boy? really? i know you dont believe that lol. if you are getting turned down, dont automatically assume its because you're not a thug

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  • You take online dating too seriously. Its full of riddle talkers and fakes.

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  • 3mo

    Currently dating a Latino boy although my 1st preference is white men & I feel so bad because i can't see my self dating a black guy.
    And i feel like a hypocrite because i tell my friends to date who ever they want although i only date two type of men.
    I just find white & Latinos explosively attractive most of all the time !!
    When i introduced my boyfriend
    (Mexican American) to my dad (white) he seemed happy & just all smiles. Even though he prohibited me before from dating non whites!
    I just dont see the same reaction if my boyfriend was black..
    There are so many bad stereotypes of black men & many i which seem to be true every time i turn on the news :x

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    • 3mo

      I feel the same way.. Everything you said is how i see it..

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    • 3mo

      You're hot and all but I've only dated latinas.. But add me, get to know me & your ex might look like me but i am different : )

    • 2mo

      Because your racist. Simple as that. Your Reported.

  • 3mo

    Im not gunna lie, all ill ever date is white men or Hispanic/Latino is as far as ill go..
    Its just that black men have such a bad
    Reputation that my parents will not accept..
    Another thing is mixed babies, I've heard that white people would rather want a white/latin mix than any other look..
    Its not that people are racist, its more about preferences...
    & The reason black woman are dating outside may be because black men have took it too far

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    • 3mo

      You mentioned:
      "Its not that people are racist, its more about preferences"

      It's all about race. What you said here - "black men have such a bad reputation" and "black men have took it too far", just shows it comes down to race.

      What people fail to realize, is that, not all black people are bad. The media only shows the ugly side of black society. There's also an ugly side of white society and an ugly side of hispanic society, but those are downplayed by the media.

      Based on my personality and credentials I listed above in my take:
      " I am currently working on my Masters. I am a senior project manager for a web development firm. I have my own condo (working on getting a house) I have a car. I am very articulate. I am also a snappy dresser."

      Does the media talk about black men like me?

  • 3mo

    ill rather date a Hispanic or white guy but i dont mind being friends with blacks

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    • 3mo

      Oh... I understand. Everyone likes what they like. Now... I want you to imagine being told that "you are not good enough to date because of your skin color" basically everyday and by black women as well. Everyone prefers the white boy first and then the hispanic guy, because they are similar to white guys, but slightly more tan.

    • 3mo

      I think its more of the soft facial features..
      The cute catty eyes/eyebrows, nose, soft lips and the hair plays a big part..
      I love Latinos <3

  • 3mo

    I just dont find black men attractive although i love black people..
    Its just that black men lack the baby face features of a latino or white boy..
    Like those sorft features.. lips, nose, the hair, soft skin color, the cute catty eyes.. <3

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    • 3mo

      Oh... I understand. Everyone likes what they like. Now... I want you to imagine being told that "you are not good enough to date because of your skin color" basically everyday and by black women as well. Everyone prefers the white boy first and then the hispanic guy, because they are similar to white guys, but slightly more tan.

    • 3mo

      Typical. White and Latino guys get the lion's share, while black, East Asian, Middle Eastern, and South Asian men get thrown in the dumpster.

  • 3mo

    Hey I feel you bro but don't give up there are still girls, (like me but

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    • 3mo

      I dont know you like that) who are African American who love African American men. I too have nothing against interracial dating, but people like me find that it is much easier to date other African Americans because there is that Empathic Connection that people who are not African American cannot truly grasp. "I know your pain because I feel it everyday and we need someone to say I know and that It will get better" so yeah man don't give up perhaps you should try different types of women or different places because there are many sisters that are still and forever will be down for our black men.

    • 3mo

      Oh and P. S. want to escape the stereotypes and hatred? African Americans are trying a new tactic which is COME OVER TO THE WEST INDIES! WE LOVE YA AND HEY GUESS WHAT, WE'RE BLACK TOO! I myself am half west indian (St. Kitts and Nevis) It is literally an island in a chain of 20 islands that are filled with educated, kind black women and our population on the islands are dwindling. Please come here, you get more for your money, you can escape this society of ridicule and hatred and its a place that loves people like yourself come home!

  • Well, I am mixed with white and black. My mom is white, and my dad is black. So I get the best of both worlds. I don't really have a specific race that I would want to date. I just want someone who will treat me like I should be treated. I don't care if you are white, black, mixed, Asian, Latino, Middle Eastern. I just want someone who loves me for me

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    • 3mo

      Im the same way, but i tend to lean more towards white or Hispanic men..

    • 3mo

      @MeganKiLLs Of course. Most women do.

  • well I'm Middle eastern girl who is white (white skinned) and I think Black guys and girls are really beautiful <3 <3 I'm sorry about the bad experiences you went through.

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  • I like guys all races I just like guys that are gonna treat me right

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  • Just wanted to say I'm sorry about the bad experiences you went through. I'm sure there's someone out there for you. I can relate to you because I'm a Latina and I'm at a disadvantage when it comes to dating white men.

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    • Really? I'm pretty sure white guys like Latinas

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    • I guess my family is different

    • 3mo

      Not really. Most white men will date anyone, as long as she's not black.

  • I will 100% agree that black guys have a disadvantage with the numbers game. Let's be real, all my senior year white friends were told by their parents to not date black people or were told their parents preferred if they didn't. So, a lot of women grow up having this feeling that black men are 'less than'... say a white man... or Asian... etc. Ok, so, that's a lot of people gone.

    On to black women-That being said, I dunno where you live but all over my facebook are educated black women craving and praising black men. I mean posts like this are everywhere.

    pics.onsizzle.com/...s-girls-would-want-4d4fa2.png

    Ok, and as a woman who is half black-I don't date 'thugs' because that's not how I grew up, that's not my culture. Some black women date 'thugs' because they might have things in common. Yea, I'm dating a white guy now, but the last one was a black guy who wasn't a thug, went to college, and fucked up cause he lost me (lol, I had too XD)

    That being said, I'm not going to say you aren't experiencing difficulties within the black community in finding a partner-why not go on Black people meet. com or something? Lots of black people with similar education, place in life, etc.

    And lastly, that guy in picture one isn't a 'thug', he's a hipster dammit! Glasses, check. Cigar, check. Tattoos, check. Freakin suspenders, check. Hipster.

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    • 3mo

      Well, I'm educated, tall (6'2"), funny (awkward humor), family oriented and look good (166 lbs). But not white or Latino, I'm Asian.

  • My family is horrifically racist, white, wealthy, high social status etc. When I was young the first person I had feelings for was a black man. I asked permission from my dad to date him, he said no you don't mix races. I invited him over to my house to hang out, my family HUMILIATED him. I made the choice then and there not to date anyone until I was older, and they couldn't tell me what to do I never wanted anyone to be subjected to that kind of cruelty again.

    My next boyfriend (now my ex ) was malteese but he looked white ish, he flew under the radar they had no idea. I have a boyfriend now, but if in the future I were to date anyone of a different race I'd be terrified to bring them near my family. I'd feel like I'd have to protect them constantly. I don't know if it's morally right to date someone knowing your family will try to hurt them.

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  • They want big big sugar mama

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  • I knew the second you started writing this that you would probably start to "explain" that you are a decent person, you have the degree, the job, and are not a thug. How sad really that in order to even be heard, a black person, man or woman, feels they have to say all those things. I don't think a lot of white people understand what its like to have everyone label you to the point where no one even believes you can actually exist.

    Second, I grew up similarily to you. I was an only for most of my life at whatever school except for high school where I had the distinct pleasure of attending an incredibly diverse school which was an absolute dream because everyone there was so loving and accepting of everyone, including in the dating world.

    Because of my "white sounding" voice (not my words) I have had a lot of unfortunate dating issues. I've had black men literally tell me I wanted to date you because I thought you were white. How exactly does one follow up that gem because it now seems to imply that I can't be good enough because I'm actually black. Or guys giving me the whole, I'm giving the "black thing" a try, or you're pretty... for a black girl. It's painful. It really is.

    The thing is, the minute you start roping every black, white, hispanic, Asian, and on down the line, person into one group, you become just like the people you dislike who are doing it to you. I don't care if you've met and dated 30 black girls in your lifetime or 30 white girls in your lifetime, or 30 Asian girls in your lifetime, you have NOT dated them all, so to start believing all people act a certain way makes you part of the problem, not the solution.

    You, nor I, need approval from anyone to be who we are, we don't need to justify ourselves as human beings, we don't need to hate ourselves or others like us or different from us, we just need to love and be loved, and I think the only way that can be done is to dismiss as much as we can the idiots of the world who say crap or do crap like they've done and continue to search for the one. I'm not going to waste a minute of my life chasing after someone who thinks treating a person like crap, being racist, being cluelessly racist, and the like, are normal.

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  • What about the growing percentage of black men who don't date black women, because of colorism in America where black men are indirectly taught to hate the color of their own skin? Most black women I know would never date a thug. You probably need to meet more women in real life and in respectable places in real life. I understand what you're saying but you're judging based off a very small percentage of online daters. I'm sure you can find someone who you're looking for, just change where you look.

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  • nah... white girls love black guys, maybe more so than they do white guys. and it is just a preference.

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    • I would never write "no blacks" on my online dating profile though. that's just a crude and insensitive way of putting it.

    • That;s a major crock of shit. You either know a bunch of nasty ass whiteys or you're projecting your own love of the crusty purple dong.

    • @Supersonic_Sex_Ninja

      I don't know what you're talking about. For one thing I'm straight, for another thing I prefer white girls. I just happen to see a lot of white girls that are totally infatuated with black guys... and more power to them.

  • The problems black guys face in dating... are problems made by the black community. And I note that your first problem you list is that women of other races don't want to date black men.

    Women being loyal to men of their own race... is not a bad thing. Loyalty is a virtue. If a woman feels such loyalty towards her people and towards her culture that she only wants to date in her own race, that's a good thing for her.

    And yes, it is a damn good thing when white women only want to date white men. That's a strong majority in real life and it's great.

    Second, if black women don't want to date black men... that's not us white guy's fault. Don't you go blaming media or some crap. If black women don't want to date black men, that's the result of the collective reputation of black men and/or her experience with black men. The fact that about 3/4 black births are out of wedlock doesn't help you if a black woman wants commitment.

    I assure you, we white guys are not going out to find black women. Only a small amount of white men want to date black women. The vast majority want white women, some want Asians, and a few want hispanic women.

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    • I'm a white guy myself. However I've met other educated black guys who have this problem. It's sad because they are trying to do the right thing and get ahead. However they face issues on two fronts: other blacks degrade them for "acting white" and not "keeping it real" and us whites have that initial negative image of them.

      I say this as a conservative white guy by the way. I think silly movements such as BLM are making this WORSE than better. However I've met enough good black men/women in my life that I want to treat them as brothers/sisters (all blood is red). However at the same time I'll never respect the "thug lifestyle". Our stupid ass entertainment industry/hollywood has glorified the black "thug" for the last 25 years. Stupid uneducated white kids (another other races) "look up" to the gangsta black man as well. We got to move on from this crap and glorify the educated black man as the real bad ass.

    • loyalty to a 'race' .. there's no such thing.

    • you can't tell a persons race from looking at them.

  • Mmmmm, some of this is true, and I'm black myself. But you still have a LOT of white girls who love dating us. In fact black guy-white girl relationships are the most common interracial relationships in America, probably next to black guy-Latina ones. I've gotten some bad reception from some white girls, but most of it has been good.

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    • It's actually white-hispanic pairings followed by white-asian then it's black-white

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    • 3mo

      Like i said.. Look it up on google.
      You said that its probably the most common 2nd in black men dating? Yes maybe BUT IN BLACK INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS ONLY & NOT RELATIONSHIPS IN GENERAL.. I just looked it up again on google, it said that Latinas go for white men as their 2nd choice... Give it up already! !..
      and for the record, Latinos & white girls are 2nd to Asian and black guy white girl is 3rd!
      Just because you see a lot black guy white girl couple dont mean its the most common among all minorities.. C'mon dude dont be an idiot

    • 3mo

      @LadyBug69 I Googled it, even though I've already read a lot about these relationships, but I Googled it again for your sake. Still I've found quite a lot of stuff talking about relationships between Latinas and black men and even how Latinas prefer them. Also this video from a Latina herself might interest you: https://youtu.be/-S8CuOkOohk

      I'm not denying that there are Latinas who only like white men, but you can't make me your fool about this. As I said I have known several Latinas, one who is married to a black man, and most of them say they either love black men or don't mind them. I don't know what your area or your circles are like.

  • Ok. This is a mental barrier. The biggest issue you'll have to deal with in dating as a black guy is girls having a "usual" preference of white guys. The majority of girls I've dated said they never pictured themselves dating a black guy, before they met me. Most girls are pretty flexible when it comes to looks.

    As far as dealing with people in general as a black guy, then yea that's a little different. There's certain issues that people of other ethnicities will probably never have to deal with because of the stereotypes revolving around our ethnicity as well as racism. But I know most problems stem from shooting yourself in the foot. Get out of your own way and life gets easier.

    Plus, some stereotypes are fun to embrace if you know what I mean.

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  • White man here, not into black women. Tell them to leave me alone, please and thank you. No over-entitled ratchet is ever worthy of my brash vanilla exterior or my sweet nurturing interior.

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  • Yes I agree when women date other races to try to stick it to their own race.

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  • i don't "hate" my own kind, i just don't fit in with them and get easily annoyed of them lol

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  • As long as you date fellow blacks and other races you'll be OK, but only the dumbest, shallowest , and vile looking scumbag white women tend to date black guys, so don't waste your time with them. Sad, but that's just the way it is.

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  • here's a thought; don't chase dumbasses that chase the 'thug stereotype' :v
    I'm doing more than fine in the dating department and I mean that for all races not just black women by the way. Also, it's more of the attitude that makes dating and attracting women for me very easy.

    Ok... that's it... I'm writing a book.

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  • You throw a few things together, but I don't think your conclusions are quite right to make.

    1. Online dating is suicide for men. You simply do not have good chances there, if you aren't on Brad Pitt level of looks. You have to understand that online many more guys find the guts to approach a girl than they actually do in actual life. This means that the girls around online are getting leverage in their social status and dating hierachy. Not to mention that most guys doing online dating are already low on the ranking in the dating world and thus girls already think less of you for online dating to begin with (yes, dont need to talk about the hypocrisy of it.. Means you will always fight uphill.

    And that is without taking into consideration all the limitations that online dating involves. So go out and speak to girls in the actual world. You see a cute girl grocery shopping? Find your balls and go over to her.

    2. Girls who look for serious, comitted relationships avoid ghetto and thugs. @ElliLexis513 said something like this already. And lets face it - the most ghettos and most thugs are black. Thus it is naturally an uphill battle for any decent black person to show that they aren't part of that stereotype. And lets face it - a lot of modern black communities are freaking toxic and self-destructive. If I was a girl I would be careful around potential black partners as well in america. Things would look different in other countries though.

    In addition to this there comes also a few other issues. Black girls who want non-thug boyfriends will start looking to date non-blacks based on that since their chance of finding a decent guy simply increases by that. And girls who are specifically into black guys should be a red flag for you, because they are into black guys for certain stereotypes. You want to avoid that.

    Another issue occurs with the girl you mentioned saying she doesn't want to date thugs anymore, but someone decent. Frankly - those girls are full of shit. Dont even listen to them. As you figured, they will keep on dating those. Why? Either because they have self-identity issues, a certain level of self-masochism ("I deserve to be treated badly") or only think with their pussy, but nothing else. Possibly a combination of those.

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    • With stay away from girls who only want black guys I mean non-black girls. Generally most people prefer to date among their own ethnicity so if those specifically state they are into black guys its likely they look for something very different than you are and look for.

      3. Accept that you stand out. As a black in a majorily white country you will stand out. Nothing you can do about it. So accept it and stand up to it. Also you will stand out among certain black communities, because you aren't like them either.

      Anecdote time: A good friend of mine who is into lots of metal-music often has people look weird at him because when we go into scene-clubs he sticks out by being the complete opposite in appearance of what is the general scene dress-code. He looks more like someone who is about to sell you insurances. But you know what? He just aces it. He packs his balls on the table and sticks to it and after first irritations it was never a problem with girls.

    • And last but not least - take every advice that girls tell you about dating with a grain of salt. Most girls have no clue what they actually want. You just go out and learn by doing. Approach girls, have confidence. I also wrote a take about it here: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a24617-what-do-women-want

  • Why do black men always have watery eyes after sex?

    Mace.

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  • yeah lmao its pretty dumb. I had to get super jacked and really improve my looks to get any attention. At least they want a black guys whos like half white and I've heard dumb stuff like "im not racist i just specifically dont like black guys"
    and im just here like "uhh ok".

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    • I have to do the same thing. I cannot be a regular looking black guy to get attention. For example... I cannot just wear a t-shirt, pants, shoes.

      I have to wear blazers, fitted jeans, boots... just to get some attention from the ladies.

      Also... the women that I do meet that like black guys... they prefer the light skinned black guys. Lol. So, if you are a light skinned guy, you will do better with women.

    • YOOOOOOOOOOOO YOU CAN RELATE LMAOOOOOOO

  • Pfft you act like its us vs them. Grow up, some girls aren't attracted and others are. Seriously people are getting tired of others making race the central issue, its not like we have not heard it a 1000 times but when a culture doesn't do anything but cause more hate rather than fix itself, it makes you wonder as to who is really progressive and who is not. I hate race debates and i hate racism with a passion, but i won't stand by while people just wine and act like they don't realize a verrrry relevant problem.

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  • An interesting coincidence as this post is akin to a BBC feature article published yesterday. See "What it's like for ethnic minorities dating online": www.BBC.co.uk/.../83fb8f3e-f1f6-4df9-ab5c-14e856ce486b

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    • Very interesting find. I like that. As a black woman, she has noticed that her white girlfriends got more attention than her. I feel that same way... HOWEVER.. it seems that a lot of women these days fetishsize white men, especially black women.

    • I relate with your experiences 100% given that I have had my own share of racial prejudice and discrimination in online and offline dating as a black guy. I'm highly educated, very fit, and earn a decent salary in a prestigious job.

  • Im a Dark Skinned black guy in NY. and dating is funny as hell. i get rejected by some black girls cause im "too dark" or they assume im the Thug going " GANG GANG GANG BLAT BLAT BLAT " due to guys they had in the past.

    then when i start dating a white girl who for whatever reason is into me (Ranges from actual Attraction to a Dick fetish) all the sudden im the guy who hate my race and what not. LOL EXCUSE ME?

    Then the funny thing about that is, In my experince, the girls who try to pull that BS later on admit they dont even date black guys to begin with. So tell me. if you aren't going to date me , And im not allowed to date the white girl other wise im a traitor, then who am i suppose to Date, lol.

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  • Keep at it, you'll get the woman you want.
    Also, F dating sites.
    They suck.

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  • I hear what you are saying but remember, environment encourages your choices in mates.
    For example, if a black kid grew up in Korea, he'd be into, yup, you guessed it, Korean/Asian girls.
    You said you grew up in a white neighborhood, so naturally that's the case.
    However, they are not into black guys because of the same reason.

    You could go to a city, where people are more diverse and open to you, like NYC.

    "I have seen black men like this, but only in the ghetto."
    Careful, I grew up in the ghetto.
    Remember, there are black people and n*ggas
    Chris Rock said it.

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  • This is so bogus.. I will just puth this here.
    www.pewresearch.org/.../

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  • Am a black young man i come from a poor family but my family background is rich its just everyome takes advantage of each other. Anyway i was offfed a job with fed ex but turned it down becuase i was be a nurse and they only have morning hours. But this is not about that every girl i have every date so far 4 girls parents have had a problem with me becuase of my skin color. My new girlfriend of 1 weeks mom loves me as a persom but pretty much told my girlfriend she does not want her dating me just becauae am black.

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  • I know exactly what you are talking about and I try to ride the fine line between the two stereotypes but ultimately, i tend not to let it get to me.
    If I lock on to a target, all her stereotypes can kiss my ass...

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