10 Ways To Get A Guy To Like You

1. Be Yourself

If you've lied about your interests, your religion, your political views, your love of a sports team you hate, and your regrettable drunken marriage in Vegas...and the guy you're trying to start a relationship falls for "that person," you're screwed because that's not you and you're a liar and you're going to have to do a lot of back pedaling or additional lying. Just be who you are, like what you like, and hopefully the guy will fall for that person who isn't a big fake liar.


2. Stop Obsessing Over Your Body

If any of us has to hear how self conscious you are about your left pinky finger or how you're on a salad cleanse again, we're all going to puke. No one cares! I'll repeat that: no...one...cares. You are hypocritical of yourself because you see you everyday in the mirror and you think everyone else sees the same 'flaws' you see, so you think pointing them out on a loop is going to be helpful, but it just screams to guys that you are an insecure self-loathing basket case. If you must obsess, obsess to your girlfriends...and even then...sheesh.

3. Be Open

If you are totally closed off, respond to every innocent offer to buy you a drink or to dance with attitude and eye rolls, no one is going to want to be with you because you are your own cock block. Just because you hit the dance floor for one dance doesn't mean you have to marry the guy. Just have fun and if it works it works, and if it doesn't, it doesn't, but you'll never know if your first response is to just ignore any and all guys who are trying to get to know you.

4. Have Thoughts In Your Head

I like staring competitions as much as the next person, but not when it comes to going on a date. The same applies for men. If someone is lobbing you a bunch of softball topics and you have nothing to say or one word answers, its hard to get to know you and what you're interests are. Say something...anything...please...it's getting so awkward!

5. Be a 21st Century Woman

Most men no longer barter for a wife, ok. You should be making your own money and doing your own thing, and have a world that exists beyond wanting to date. Being that super clingy obsessive stalker type of a woman is creepy and sad. Having the wedding books displayed on the coffee table on the first date is..a lot. Demanding things of men in order to date you, will drive pretty much all of them away.

6. Relax

Having a sense of humor about things can go along way. Bursting into tears at dinner because your drink got spilled on your dress or he's five minutes late and you have a full on melt down about time management is a bit much. What can I say, shizz happens, and rolling with the punches and just being able to laugh at the fact that you just tripped going up the stairs, really goes a long way in the "she's a cool chick" vibe.

7. Know what you want

You want to see a particular movie, you like a certain food, you don't like going to a certain place. Say so. Stop being the ditz who's always like, I don't know, whatever you want. It's exhausting. It really is. Having to plan every single date and every single thing for someone else who can't seem to figure out what they like is taxing on anybody. That goes for life too. Having dreams and goals of what you want to do in your future is exciting to someone. It makes them want to come along for the ride to see where you're going especially if you are really passionate about it.

8. Care About Yourself

I know this can get a bit touchy for some people, so I'll try and tread lightly. Never mind. F--king take care of yourself. Exercise, eat right, don't smoke, avoid drugs and heavy drinking, ditch the slovenly behaviors, and put some kind of effort into your grooming and beauty routine. You shouldn't even want to do that, "for a guy," you should want to do that for you whether you have a guy or not because generally when one is happy, they take care of themselves.

On the flip side, you can't expect some guy to look good for you, and then have his expectations be less than. Yes, there are guys who like a natural woman with no make-up on, but that doesn't mean they don't care that she hasn't brushed, washed, or shaved, or ever climbed a set of stairs in a while. Not the same thing. Not giving a crap about yourself is completely unattractive. It wreaks of depression, of sadness, of someone who isn't going to do well in a relationship where there is another human being that has to see and smell you.

9. Narrow mindedness need not apply

As per number 4, you've got those good thoughts in your head...fantastic, but so do other people. If you start a conversation and refuse to let any thoughts but your own be heard or be right, it's super unattractive. Even if you seriously disagree with a guy about something that is not rooted in actual fact, but opinion based, then disagree, but don't then turn it into World War III at every turn. That's not fun for anybody, including you.

Be open to discuss and allow other thoughts into your world. If you're too busy being the defender of always being right, you're going to really miss out on how wrong you really are. This also applies to people in general too. Flaunting what your ego feels is your superior intelligence, your huge bank roll, your level 10 attractiveness, or your too good for anybody or anything attitude doesn't really inspire someone to stick around and generally nor does an apparent hatred of a certain or certain groups of people.

10. Be One Confident Mo-Fo

This list isn't some magic recipe that will guarantee you sheer happiness, but it certainly helps to be the person you, yourself, would like to attract. Numbers 1 through 9 lead you to number ten. When you're taking care of yourself, and being open to the world, and having thoughts in your head, and know what you want, and being relaxed, not being closed off, and not obsessing, and being yourself, it should help you to become that confident woman who is attractive to the men you want to attract. We like to claim that we are so different from men when it comes to dating, but at the heart of it, we want mostly the same things from men, that are on this list.


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  • I'd advise playing down the confidence part, since for most, that violates your first principle: be yourself! Fake confidence comes across as power tripping or just as being fake!

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    • There is a vast difference between confidence and arrogance, and as noted, your confidence "should" come from doing the things on the list, and knowing who you are, and being who you are, not just slapping on an air of confidence from seemingly no where.

  • Nice Take. I just hope girls won't be too proud to hear it.

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  • I need 10 ways to get a girl to like me, they're nigh impossible to impress.

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  • This is so excellent, but I have to wonder if you couldn't have written it about everyone. Wouldn't these qualities help make men attractive to women also? Not complaining, this is an excellent Take, thanks!! :)

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  • Very good take. There should be a #9 "NEVER say you are feminist". That's a deal breaker for me. I have met naturally confident, ambitious woman who don't act they are "special". You earn a guy's respect by not asking for it.

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  • Yep, this covers most of it

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  • Ways for a girl to get a guy to like them. Talk. Be Friendly. Somewhat Attractive and nothing else. Ways for a guy to get a girl to like them. Be the ultimate catch or pray for a miracle.

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  • Wow guidebook on how to be a cocky bitch

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  • 3. Be Open. Most people , but slightly more women , are constantly plugged into their smartphones. I've noticed a lot of younger women give off a bit of a hostile vibe too , always seem to glare & scowl. It is still very easy for a woman to get a man , the reverse is much harder.

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  • I feel like this shouldn't be 10 things on how to attract a man but 10 things you should do on the regular simply because most these are common sense and help in a sense of mental health

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    • It's that too, but how many ignore most of the list even though it's common sense. I wager a lot of people.

  • I think number 2 is a big one for some ladies. Number 10 can go for both sexes

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  • Absolute rubbish you can't make someone like you all you can do is be honest and let them know you are interested ----- does that mean if guys do those things we can make the lady we like feel the same way?

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    • Are we next going to get magic spells? Either you like someone romantically or not there is no formula we are talking about feelings not a script

    • LOL, I'm glad you agree with me because as I stated in number ten... quoting myself here: "This list isn't some magic recipe that will guarantee you sheer happiness, but it certainly helps to be the person you, yourself, would like to attract." And again, quoting myself here in number 10: "We like to claim that we are so different from men when it comes to dating, but at the heart of it, we want mostly the same things from men, that are on this list." Thanks for reading my take.

  • 1) Be attractive
    2) Don't be unattractive

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    • Attractiveness has different definitions

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    • Well you can be attractive on the inside and not the outside, the opposite, or both.
      What do you mean by "attractive"?

    • @CupcakeQueen2000 attractiveness is typically attributed to physical looks (or anything that can be observed by our senses like smell etc., But obviously I'm talking about looks here.)
      There are people who appear good looking to almost everyone. That's what I'm saying.

  • Sounds like a load of crap to me...

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  • Well done. This hopeless romantic approves!

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    • Thanks!

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    • Granted you are young and perhaps have not been so screwed over by love the way some people older than you have, but even at 33, I still feel that level of optimism about love. I don't think I want to be the type of person to ever give up on trying to find it. I think when you accept that the world is just all full of horrible people who want to destroy your heart, you become so bitter and ugly that you aren't' even open to the possibilities of finding love around you that may be right in your face. I really wish you all the best on your quest! Don't ever give up.

    • Thank you again. Yes I am young and I'm still getting over my first heartbreak. It has been very hard on me, but through it all, I never gave up on my journey, and I don't ever plan to. It makes me very sad to see people say "romantic love is a myth" or "it's just fairy tales". I can't help but wonder what they went through to made them think that way. I too don't want to be the kind of person who gives up on love. We live in a and cynical world, true love is the light that guides us through ❤️

  • I will be brutally honest, if your looks catch his eyes most of the time they rest is easy, just be normal and nice to him and show him you like him nothing more nothing less.

    men unlike women when they see a woman they categorise her " she's for sex", " she's for marriage", "she's just a friend nothing more" ... so its uncommon to start loving a woman that we never had an interest in , most of the time we think she's attractive but dont attempt anything and our love for her grows, i avoid this by being direct about my intentions , if i want her i will let her know if i dont nothing can make me want her.

    now, looking and smelling good and clean is almost always favored by men.

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  • Show some interest, ambition, and go for what you want rather than waiting around for the guy to do everything.

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  • great take... would work on every 9/10 guys... as always there are exceptions!

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  • Beautiful take! I enjoyed it! :)

    Also never be shallow to attempt the first move.
    Good read!

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  • 2, 3, 4 and 9 are spot on, especially 4 and 9 in my personal experience.

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  • Nice take.

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  • It's sex , sex and more sex. Well in my experience anyway. I've found that as I'm more flirty and sexual with guys I get him easily.

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  • I agree with a lot of things. Except for how #5 is being used. When I hear '21st Century', that translates as = do what everybody else is doing. When I speak about things that I don't agree with in society or the norms its = This isn't the 50's / This is the 21st Century. Quite the contrary what people believe, this all wouldn't apply if your trying to attract ONE kind of guy. Successful relationships starts when somebody is only pursuing ONE person, and ONE person only. I would never pursue a guy who doesn't look like he would be interested in me, especially when he's haggling tons of girls. Another thing is that my goal if I ever make a decision to date, is to find a marriage partner. A suitable one. Not somebody you just pick up off the streets or a bar! This is how I see it for people to ask an concern about:

    1. Don't waste time on fantasy of what could be or could have been. Not even cover up things you see as a turn off for you.
    2. Be VERY clear about what makes you uncomfortable! If you don't like to be touched, address that. Do not be afraid to open your mouth, especially if they cross the line. Overall just have fun and enjoy yourselves. Don't be nasty towards them. Be civil and calm in a respectful manner.
    3. Always set BOUNDARIES! Again, that includes kisses, touching, etc. If somebody does something that you do not want them to do with you, speak up. If you allow it, your responsible for it. It's harassment if's unwanted! And therefore you can't get upset if you didn't like it later. Just because s. o likes you, doesn't give them a right to touch you. It's harassment if it's unwanted! Say something. Because the moment you fake that around them, they'll sense that, or get the wrong impression, and then its over.
    4. When you plan to become official. Be clear about your sexual belief's! This is extremely important!!! I can't say how many times I've come across girls or guys having issues on this topic @ Yahoo Answers! Make up your minds right now what you expect from this relationship or end it. If you don't want any form of sexual activity, speak now. If he/she is into porn, speak now. What you would/wouldn't feel comfortable about sex, speak now! Do NOT wait weeks, months into an OFFICIAL relationship after a person has said no the first time, refuse to do something, but you went along with it anyway because your figure you could : Change their mind about it. Forget it. You ask me after I said no the very first time. It's over that same day.

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    • And people, once again. Please don't take offense to this. We need to accept the reality that we can never force a person to change, or force them to do whatever you want them to. They have to be willing and accepting of their own accord. Or bend the rules just a little if they really like you, not so much of love. If you have morals and values you belief in, stick to them. Nobody should ever have to compromise what another person believes. I can not force a dating partner to go by my terms if he doesn't want to. This is why I would make it clear then, not now. But I will not tolerate the fact that I lay it all out for him to decide either to be official or find someone else if he doesn't like my standards. But sticks with me regardless because he THINKS his going to change my mind into sex, or get me into other things. Or cheat sexually because he doesn't like it. He attempts even ONCE thinking this, he's done that very minute. Don't like it? Take it down the block.

    • I'm happy and can survive being by myself. Done it for almost 25 years of my whole life. If I date you, It's because I want to share my happiness and life with you. Not play games. I gave you plenty of options the very first time I've spoke it. You said yes. If you didn't like it, why waste my time for days, weeks, months? I have to be really stupid to actually let you play me out for MONTHS. Therefore people again. Set the rules and what you want BEFORE becoming official. You are not doing yourself a favor by trying to keep a person interested if they never were. Your just asking for heartbreak and disappointment. Overall. Love this MyTake, agree with majority of it. And hopefully people can be more honest and fight for what they want and need in a relationship. Best Regards and take it easy. And most importantly, if it doesn't feel right, you don't have to rush into something you don't know about. Always use wisdom. :)

  • I totally agree with numbers 2 and 10. Why, I agree with #2 is because I've always had problems with my weight and body size so I sometimes think that guys dont like me or wouldn't approach me because of my weight or size. And I agree with #10 most importantly because I get tons of advice stating that guys think that its cool, sexy, brave for a woman who has confidence to approach them. So thata why I agree with those two numbers the most but this doesn't mean that I dont think the others are true cause they are.

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    • There is this idea that there is only 'the one' body type and if you aren't that, oh you can't possibly find love or happiness or someone who likes you for you, and not your specific body type, but if we actually look around at the reality of our world and not just a tv show or what someone tries to convince you is true, you see people all the time who look totally different, who are totally different from one another in other ways, that fall in love. You don't need 100 guys to love you, just the one that actually will matter because they like you, the real you. Speech over!

    • Soooo true the way you put it!!! thanks a lot that really helped!

  • 11. Have big titties or look like this:
    i60.photobucket.com/.../bblatex_zpsb65ee2ac.jpg

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  • Acting myself has certainly caused more guys to run from me than attract any. 😂😢 But this was great, I loved it.

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    • Well, thank you. I know it sounds corny telling everyone to keep being yourself, but it's so true because if you find the one, it's going to be the one who likes all of your crazy, and all of your weird, and doesn't mind your habits, or your laugh or whatever. Most people don't believe it until it happens.

  • I love the list. I do literally all of this naturally except #3. I have to really work on that. I wouldn't refuse to dance with a guy (because I'm there to dance & have fun anyways) but other nice things guys have offered to do for me in exchange for a date, my number, or a chance to get to know me better, usually ends in a "I'm sorry but I can't." I mean, part of my reason for being so closed off is because of being badly hurt in the past but shutting every guy out is not the way to heal & move forward. I'll get there (sigh). Thanks for this list. I so needed to see this. :)

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  • Be yourself?
    But what if guys don't like myself?

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  • instructions unclear, am all of those things and don't have a line of guys wanting me...

    ... is it because I look like I'm 13

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    • Re-read number 10, and I don't really mention looks because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You don't need a line of guys, you just need the one who really sees you for all of this and for you being who you are whether you look 13 or 30.

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    • Same to you. Hope you get a good guy :)

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