Yes, I'm a traditional girl. No, I'm not stuck in the 50's.
I believe in gender roles and their benefits, but not necessarily that one must confine themselves to the way society expects an individual to perform.
Society has progressed. Society has opened HIS mind to include the possibility of HERstory too, and I as a woman am thankful to now have the opportunities I do, as opposed to the past.
Education, voting, household duties, rights, the workplace, status... it's all changing, and will continue to. Changes like these needed to be made to produce a society that recognises everyone.
But what about love? ... Well, I don't believe the roles in courtship [as in, a serious relationship] should change at all.
I believe in man as the initiator-
Now if you are a human who is tired of tradition
then these coming thoughts may disturb you,
so I'll save you some time and bid you adieu.
Let us start with the question
of 'why must I, as man, make the first move?
Why is this not the role of a woman...
and what exactly does this prove?'
The answer appears when she hears these 3 words:
Interpret this 'I' as confidence. Yup, y'all know how sexy it is! You... as a man who is sure of himself, and sure of the decision that he is making. This is the decision that comes from YOUR heart, after all your years of experience, or even lack thereof. Can you see how different it is to "she chose me?"
Think to yourself... "Who is 'she'? 'She' is more prone to emotion than I am anyway, and this is not a gender construction. This is biology, it is proven psychology. So 'she', realistically, could choose me, yet what foundation lies behind her choice that differentiates me from somebody else?"
This is important. It's the central argument of mytake. Most [not all] men have a huge issue with commitment, or envisioning a LONG future with one woman anyway. A lot of women [again, not all] on the other hand, envision that emotional bond quite easily. Therefore, it holds, in my eyes, more value for a man to essentially abandon his instincts and CHOOSE a woman to call his. Linking back to the biological perspective, very few species of animals and birds mate with one partner for life. Across ALL species however, the males ALWAYS begin the courtship ritual AND they instinctively aim to seduce the female they are interested in through various performances or indicators. So, forgive me for this next inquiry... but why is it that the human mind has to complicate 'mating' so much that it's now become a battle of 'who should be doing what'?... Could it be that these animals are in fact, more intelligent than us, in simply not overthinking?
You decided that it was no one else but Her.
Not that other girl whom you once had a crush on,
not the hottest chick on campus,
not the popular one that every guy was trying to get with,
not the one you only wanted to fuck for a night or two,
not the 'going- out-every-night-with-my-boys' life,
not the 'getting-laid-with-a-different-girl- every- night' life,
not the 'i'm- too-shy- to-even- go-near-her' life,
not the 'i'm-scared-she'll-reject-me' life,
not the 'i'll-be-popular-if-i-get-her' life,
... but the 'I Just Want To Be With Her' life. <3
I can tell you boys now, that in the mind of a woman, for you to choose us amid everything else- to be chosen.. singled out as 'the one' or even 'potentially the one', is one of the most amazing feelings in the world. I hate that I can't adequately type it out in description to make you understand.
It takes a strong man to make an effort for a woman- to hold her and say 'I choose you'... because that's not all that's happening.
You're saying so much more.
... God I love controversy. Ready for the shitstorm. ✌🏽
PS: I wanna add a note for any women who will take offence to this or begin talking about how they like approaching men. Never said you shouldn't, keep doing you boo boo, even I've done it a number of times. I have nothing against that. That's not the point of this mytake.