Man As Initiator: Why Courtship Roles Shouldn't Change🚶🏽💭❤️ (Page 2)
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Just another instance where women want to be treated equally until the rules displeases them. They want the good and leave the grudge to us. It's true, it's much easier to just stand there and wait for a guy to come pluck you and let him do all the efforts. I get why you would want that. But we're men right? We don't get to have it the easy way...
im not sure why people are interpreting men as initiators to men, men putting all the effort into a relationship. it's really annoying, the way people assume I'm so ignorant so as to completely ignore that men have feelings too, JUST because i chose not to write about them.
to mean*
I am not sure if you are talking about me, but I don't think you are ignorant or that you ignore we have feelings.
To me, it sounds like "I am comfortable with gender roles when I don't have to risk being rejected, when I don't have to jeopardize my self-confidence. I want to be treated equally to men but only when it's better for me."
It actually makes a lot of sense. I sure would love to be treated equally to a woman when it's better for me. I would get my drinks and meals paid for. I wouldn't pay to get into a club. I could get all sorts of advantages. I would love it. But we can't...
If you gals want to be treated equally, you got to take the good and the bad.
That's not what im trying to say. I have the confidence to approach a man. That has nothing to do with it. Im willing to take both good and bad personally.
Im just saying that despite that confidence, i personally find it more attractive when a man can initiate with his own confidence.
exactly, this is about ENTITLEMENT, nothing fancier. you want your cake and eat it too @justbanANNAz
exactly. Feminist bullshit doublestandards, another ME ME ME article... disgusting.
fuck that-these are the LAST TYPE of women that good men approach. We approach sweethearts, not entitled brats. the brats are for fucking and dumping... sorry, that's reality.
@feminismisnarcissism
To be honest, while my opinion stands, I really don't think SHE is like that.
Things will change and i hope at some point both sexes will move away from gender assigned roles. While what you say appeals to feminine nature it should not be employed by everyone. It simply does not take into account male desires, and labels males as doing something as a whole thus it has no place with some people and may perfectly work for others. One day everyone will have the balls to approach and not cling to old-fashioned courtship roles and childish drama surrounding it. I don't really want any response from you asker. Well written as usual.
It looks like I inspired you. All of this is true but getting a man like that to change from sleepy with many women to just takes a lot of time and maturing.
I believe I can find a girl and say she's mine and no one else's for the rest of my life. I just need to change before I commit myself to something so serious.
that you assume that most men have issues with commitment is ridiculous.
lol, ok honey
dont act so familiar, i dont even know you.
i dont expect u to darling.
stop your passive aggressive insults.
😂 yes sir im passive now.
@justbanANNAz statistics say he's right.. WOMEN initiate 70% of divorce. nuff said.
The fact that you're an "editor" for this site proves how idiotic it is.
coming from someone who hasn't been here long, that doesn't mean much to me.
sigh YOU #littlelioness are next to my heart always with our wisdom and wow you write <3
thanks Raj, much appreciated. <3
Thank you too #littllioness and oops it's not 'our' up there it's 'Your' lol
Thank you for liking my opinion as well :D <3
haha no, 'our' is good :P
THAT coming from you #littlelioness is a compliment indeed <3 you have an awesome weekend :)
Thank you!!! I've always been the gentleman and I love to court I'll always be the first one to start it. I'll keep doing this:)
good on u
I remember talking to this girl that was interested in me, she just came out and said she wanted us to sleep together... one day she told me about a gentleman that had been courting her for 2 weeks, pulling out chairs for her, buying her flowers, treating her really well etc...
I turned her offer down in the end but the fact is, she wanted to do everything with me without courting but friend zoned the guy that was courting her. I've seen this many times... I don't think you will accept this though but remember this when you learn the truth one day.
In this hookup culture, courting is foolish. For every guy courting a girl, there is another guy that just sits back, sends her a text message and she comes over to his place..
Example.. I know. One guy was courting a woman, picking up her kids from school, giving her money and helping her but the other guy texts her and she PICKS HIM UP from his house, drives him to her place and they spend all day in bed...
@Truthatanycost. That is true, sadly.
Well, I have nothing to add to what @Mesonfielde said.
that's fine, because it's what i said, but switched into he's instead of she's 😂
And he did that because everything applied the other way around too
Nope, I'm socially awkward. Can't talk to people :p
Besides, why can't a woman be confident? Why can't she choose a man for herself?
I feel like you exclude people different from you too much.
I feel the same, that just fits one type of man that a lot of us are not.
@Keepcalm89 I blame the patriarchy settings impossibly high standards on men's psychological stamina.
I don't know about all that.. but there's high standards that a lot of us guys will have a hard time to reach
I think you'll like my myTake more :p (link in my answer)
@Mesonfielde I like it a little better... the chase should be mutual instead of just the guy pursuing something that may be a dead end.
Once you've met a Frenchwman al these silly English-aristocracy ''''rules' look childish and neurotic.
So you say this thing at the end about "Never said you shouldn't, keep doing you boo boo" but earlier on you said "I don't believe the roles in courtship should change at all" which implies everyone should do it that way...
Also, saying "I choose you!" makes it sound like you're summoning her from a Poké Ball. -_-
It's called mytake, meaning that when i say 'i believe', i am providing my opinion, which also means i dont disrespect other opinions.
Yeah, I get that! I'm just pointing out it kinda seemed like you were contradicting yourself is all.
I hope i clarified that i wasn't.^^
Yeah, you did. It's allll clear.
Interesting take. Seems like I got to make a move here.
you're one of the guys who isn't afraid to though, which is good =]
... I still owe you a PM
I reject women all the time... who behave like this lol
I absolutely loved this mytake and agree with you 100%. This is the way it should always be.
Didn't you call yourself a "feminist"?
@Peskyn3gr0 LOL
@Peskyn3gr0 I guess she's only a "feminist" if it suits her.
Aren't you being a little bit hypocritical? You can't be a feminist and "old-fashioned" at the same time. You can't pick and choose which parts of equality you want. I've seen women approaching men all the time, there's absolutely nothing preventing them from doing so.
If you argue from "biology", then you're also arguing that women should never work in a management or leadership field. After all, men are naturally predisposed to being leaders. Just the way "it should always be". Do you agree with that as well? Because feminism has worked really hard to abolish that idea.
You are not a feminist, you're an opportunist. Equality, but only when convenient.
@Maverickj didn't read a single word. Bye loser.
"Now, a man pursuing a woman is simple biology;"
Lol no it's not
@LadyTerror yea it is.
Equality and traditionalism when it suits women preferably you mean. You women make me us laugh sometimes, when we can actually see through your deviant sexual strategy so you can control the dating structure for your own benefit, never mind laws about equal pay. These white knights and mangina's might be fooled but there's a lot of guys that aren't.
@Mrwoo99 sorry what was that?
For women will just choose the most handsome and confident guy, easy for them. Tsk guys have to be rejected multiple times and can't get the women they want.
No offense, but doesn't it seem pretty easy for you to say this? Since you can take the passive role, and all. Would you say the same thing if you were a man?
I'm willing to bet you also expect the guy to always pay for the first date. "Traditional" is just code for "sexism".
We're not passive when we have shown interest. If you do not respond, we've done our part.
Lovely take, pretty much summed up my thoughts on it all <3
To those who disagree, I tried being the initiator, and let me tell you, it failed miserably. Maybe that's just stupid high school boys, but after that, I vowed never again.
The hypocrisy of modern feminism - everyone else has to change, but nothing is expected of women.
for someone with a username of 'brain', that is such an uneducated conclusion.
I encourage you to enlighten me.
id rather not and have you assume I'm incapable of it, than to actually waste my time justifying anything I've said.
An "uneducated conclusion" suggests there is information missing, it's an uninformed opinion?
uneducated as in, you equating my take with feminism doesn't make u very bright, but u can call it whatever u like if that's what's disturbing u lol.
Your first four paragraphs suggest "thanks, feminism, for all of the opportunities you've given me and for making the world a better place." Then, in paragraph five "however, I'm not a feminist." #hypocrisy
exactly. and note the ad hominem she responded with proving the point lol
the take is COMPLETELY a feminist take, it's all about YOU, how THEY should do the work AND give you 1/2 of what they have... that's not how it works... and things are changing, men are waking up to this bullshit and tossing the entitled feminist thinking women where they belong-at the back of the line.
I'm sorry, i'm a shy guy, i can't be the initiator however some guys can and so can some girls too so it just depends on the individual, we are all different.
*Always make girls pay on the first date crew*
*Girls never call me back crew*
*Get my dick sucked but don't eat pussy crew*
*Always get cucked my Tyrone and Jamal crew*
*Wish I had a huge dick crew*
*Shoot poop chunks off the side of the toilet with my pee crew*
*Kick a girl out if she farts in my presence crew*
You gotta a strong point !
I like it
Good Take 👍