*this myTake is heavily based on this myTake by justbanANNAz, just so you know the initial context.
No, I'm not a traditional guy. No, I'm not stuck in the 50's.
I don't believe in gender roles and their benefits, and that one should confine themselves to the way society expects an individual to perform.
Society has progressed. Society has opened THEIR mind to include the possibility of THEIR story too, and I as a male am thankful to now have the opportunities I do, as opposed to the past.
Changing obligations, expectations, accepted behavior - seeing that males can have emotions too rather than being a stoic and unemotional. It's all changing, and will continue to. Changes like these needed to be made to produce a society that recognizes everyone.
But what about love? ... Well, I don't believe in roles in courtship [as in, a serious relationship], and I don't think they shouldn't change at all. (sorry about the double negative there)
I believe in women as the initiators -
Now if you are a human who is not tired of tradition
then these coming thoughts may disturb you,
but otherwise I'll save you some time and bid you adieu.
Let us start with the question
of `why must I, as a woman, make the first move?
Why is this not the role of the man...
and what exactly does this prove?`
The answer appears when he hears these 3 words:
"I. Choose. YOU."
Interpret this 'I' as confidence. Yup, y'all know how sexy it is! You... as a woman who is sure of herself, and sure of the decision that she is making. This is the decision that comes from YOUR heart, after all your years of experience, or even lack thereof. Can you see how different it is to "he chose me?"
Think to yourself... "Who is 'he'? He realistically, could choose me, yet what foundation lies behind his choice that differentiates me from somebody else? Does he only want me for my body, or does he truly love me as a person, for me, for who I am?"
This is important. It's the central argument of the myTake. Most [not all] women have a huge issue with commitment, or envisioning a LONG future with one man anyway. A lot of men [again, not all] on the other hand, envision that bond quite easily (if she's likeable, compatible, and attractive as well - but these standards applies for pretty much anyone). Therefore, it holds, in my eyes, more value for a woman to essentially abandon her instincts and CHOOSE a man to call her partner. Linking back to the biological perspective, very few species of animals and birds mate with one partner for life.
Humans however choose to commit to one partner. But why is it that the human mind has to complicate 'mating' so much that it's now become a battle of 'who should be doing what'? Shouldn't we just do what benefits both of us, and what makes us both happy?
You decided that it was no one else but Him.
Not that other guy whom you once had a crush on,
not the hottest guy on campus,
not the popular one that every girl was trying to get with,
not the one you only wanted to fuck for a night or two,
not the 'getting-laid-with-a-different-guy- every- night' life,
not the 'i'm- too-shy- to-even- go-near-him' life,
not the 'i'm-scared-he'll-reject-me' life,
not the 'i'll-be-popular-if-i-get-him' life,
... but the 'I Just Want To Be With Him' life.
I can tell you girls now, that in the mind of a man, for you to choose us amid everything else- to be chosen.. singled out as 'the one' or even 'potentially the one', is one of the most amazing feelings in the world. I hate that I can't adequately type it out in description to make you understand, so here's a relevant picture instead.
It takes a strong woman to make an effort for a man - to kiss him and say 'I choose you'... because that's not all that's happening.
You're saying so much more.
(I can barely wait to see the storm that's on the horizon... ain't that right, banANNAz?)