Girls Don't Want Successful Men
Everybody wants an ambitious man. Until they see the hours that he works, that makes him successful.
Shocking right? Hear me out. Most girls don't really want to date ambitious guys. Every girl says she does but it's not what they really mean.
Women want to believe they like successful guys. It's not that they really choose not to, but they just can't handle the lifestyle of men that are working on big goals.
Girls like the fantasy of successful men, but not the real thing.
Think of 50 shades of grey. Girls love this book. It has sold over 150 million copies and has it's own movie.
Anastasia falls into love with Christian, a billionaire. Christian stops doing everything he's done to get where he was financially and lets his love for Anastasia consume him.
This very rarely happens, if ever in real life. Successful men and women don't stop working on their goals for a new relationship. We're too consumed with our success.
As much as I would personally want to have a girlfriend that I can share my success with, it's just not viable right now. I'm spending 12-16 hours a day building a business. I'm about to leave to Asia where I'll be gone for months. Very few women can handle this lifestyle, it's not what they really want.
The same goes for people who train at the top level of sports, are in the military, have very well paying jobs, millionaires, billionaires, and important politicians.
The men that are successful and have wives or girlfriends usually get in relationships before they became successful.
It takes a very rare and special girl to stick with a man before he becomes successful. Most women don't believe in their man enough and can't handle the sacrifices that the man has to make to get where he knows he's going.
It all comes down to time. We all have 24 hours in a day. When a female is in a relationship, she wants to spend a lot of time with her man. And that's completely fine.
But for men that are building their future, our time, focus, and concentration has to be on that.
We don't have time to watch TV marathons all day. Or to text about stupid things. Or spend hours on the phone whispering sweet nothings. At the very most we can spend a few hours with our girls at the end of the day after work is finished.
Unfortunately so many men and women have such low expectations when it comes to success and goal setting that they'll settle for a mediocre partner. Girls either consider or convince themselves that "successful" guys are ones who try to get jobs or have a mediocre job that will go nowhere.
I hate to be the one to break the news, but that's not what a successful man is. That isn't financial freedom. That's a loser.
This is one of the reasons 50% of marriages in the Western world fail. The man has a mediocre job that doesn't pay the bills and he doesn't' have the determination, vision, or plan to support himself and his family. So the women gets a job too to make ends meet. Now the two of them are working constantly, never see each other, never bond, or work on their relationship. Neither of them are happy because there's no pride in working a mediocre job.
My personal opinion is that a man and woman is happiest when one of them works towards their goals and the other partner is supporting them fully. This can go both ways and is gender neutral. Which is why you see many happy, long lasting couples in the Olympics where the husband is the coach and supports his wife, the Olympic athlete.
It really just comes down to where ambitious men choose to spend their time. Only mediocre men can afford to spend hours with their girlfriend or wife. They have no goals to work.
If you want a successful man, he won't be able to spend days and nights with you. If you want that you're going to date a loser or a mediocre guy who can't take care of you in the long term.
Everybody wants an ambitious man. Until they see the hours that he works, that makes him successful.
What do you think? Let me know in the comments below.
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