"Don’t text or call them back for at least 4 hours after they’ve reached out to you unless you want to come off as desperate."
All of the convoluted texting/calling rules for after a date are ridiculous. If you had a good time, tell that person. If you want to talk to them the next day, talk to them. That
If they are the kind of person that is turned off by that sort of communication, is that someone you would really want to date anyway?
"If they aren't talking to you (every day, 24/7, once a week, etc.) they aren't thinking about you and therefore, are not interested.”
...uhh, maybe they're just busy? This one completely contradicts the previous point, yet is one you’ll hear just as much. Maybe they didn’t get back to you right away because something bad happened in their family. Maybe they have a ton of school work. Maybe they’re nervous.
Maybe they’re busy living their life and not hovering around their phone around the clock.
"Women love a man who's persistent."
Nah. Women love a man who respects their rejection with grace.
A man who's persistent despite phone calls not being returned for months, or shows up to her place uninvited, is a stalker and socially inept, seeing as how many of the 'signals' the girl is supposedly sending him are failing to come through.
"Always be yourself."
*Always be the best version of yourself. A bit like if you're going to a job interview.
"Opposites attract."
...though people often forget the other half of that saying. "... but they don't stick together."
In most of the relationships that I can think of, both individuals are pretty similar in many things. If not similar, then complementary.
Certain aspects of you can be different, but complement each other. For example, if one is more quiet while the other may be more outspoken and risk-taking. One of your strengths can cover the other's weaknesses, and vice versa. BUT. You have to have some priorities in common, like shared goals.
You need to walk in the same direction if you're going to be walking together, metaphorically speaking.
"You'll find him when you stop looking."
Which doesn't mean 'go ahead and never leave your basement.' It means focus on living a full life.
If you aren't in a relationship but want to be, don't put your energy into finding an SO. Put your energy into being somebody worth dating. Pick up some interesting hobbies, get in shape, whatever. Work on yourself first.
If you mope around thinking, "When's it gonna be my turn to fall in love?"
…It's gonna take you a helluva long time to find someone legit. Try to get to know actual people, not just space holders you feign interest in for the sake of companionship.
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