The 7 Types of Boyfriends I've Had, And Why I Stopped Dating Them

[Anonymous]

1. The brainiac

I dated this one guy who was extremely smart. He graduated top of his class and got accepted into Harvard. The problem I had with dating him was that he concentrated too much on his studies and paid no attention to me. He also thought he was intellectually above everybody else.

2. The gym rat

When I was in college I dated a guy who was too much into himself and not into me. He was always constantly flexing and looking at himself in any mirror he walked by. My problem with dating him was that he always was constantly weighing out his food and going to the gym. He was more infatuated with himself then he was with me.

3. The lacrosse player

I dated this club lacrosse player at my college. He wasn't that bad really; he was friends with a lot of frat guys so we got to go to a lot of frat parties. My problem with him was that for some reason he would always need to bring his lacrosse stick with him and constantly stress about games.

4. The bookworm

I found this gem at my local library. He was really cool and laid back, nothing ever bothered him but that bothered me so I ended up breaking up with him.

5. The artist

He came off as brooding and mysterious so I guess that's what pulled me in. He wasn't much of a talker and was constantly sketching. My problem with him was that he gave off a dark and disturbing vibe.

6. The criminal

Yes, I dated a criminal and I guess the reason I did it was because it gave me a thrill and appetite for adventure. Of course my problem with him was that he got arrested and sentenced to a few years in jail.

7. The stoner

I met this guy at a college party he was hot and older. The thing I liked about him was he gave off a bad boy type vibe kinda like the criminal I dated, but less intense because he wasn't a hardened criminal; he just liked to be rebellious and break the rules. Also, I never smoked growing up because it was forbidden in my house so I guess being with a guy who didn't give a fuck and smoked turned me on. My problem with him was that he wasn't going anywhere in life. He lived in his parent's basement and drove around in a shitty car.

Let me know what you think and if you've ever dated any of these types or can relate. I would really appreciate it.

[Kirah]

You really don't seem like the type of person a guy should be dating at all. You literally broke up with someone because nothing ever bothered him? Not enough drama to satisfy you, drama queen?

[FýrdracaDócincel]

This, right here.

[Raymond_Reddington]

You sound like her
www3.pictures.zimbio.com/mp/w2b7eLnEiFxl.jpg

"Ooh if you want to date me, you're gonna have to defeat my 7 evil exes"

[Overthrow]

This needs thumbed up more...

[Chief16]

Lol, so what's next?
https://img.memecdn.com/woman-logic_o_699130.jpg

[Psuedoscape]

hahaha

[skeptic002]

lol lmao hahahahah

[Unit1]

That is so damn accurate!

Some people simply cannot be saved.

[SpinningDude69]

No shit, Miss Princess, haha.

[Anonymous]

I can't say I can relate to many of these, as I've only dated two guys that didn't really fit into these stereotypes. I dated one guy who was literally so obsessed with video games that he never wanted to leave the house and still to this day lives with his family and has no job or car, and another who just wanted everything his way and wouldn't compromise for anything. Both deal breakers. I definitely don't think that I should be the center of attention or that everything should be my way, but I think that when I could never see my first boyfriend outside of school (where he was forced to put the video games away and go) because he literally ate, slept, and breathed video games, or when there was absolutely no compromising with the second one and everything had to be 100% his way, that is ridiculous. I'm more than fair and put up with well more than I had to from both of them.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know why this cut off. I'll just continue it here:

... when the second one had to have everything 100% his way with no compromise at all, that that is just ridiculous and where I draw the line. I was more than fair with both of them and put up with way more than I had to.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Gals that get lured to me find it appealing that I am straightforward with them. I also get right to the point, and look for whatever is out of place in my life and hers and go on a quest to make things right. I give off a crusader vibe, that has an allure because gals seem to like a man who commits to things.

Why doesn't it work out? Because I expect the same dedication from them. And I don't tolerate lies and deceit coming from them. I'm tenacious about investigating problems they tell me they have; but that same tenacity often indicts them in the end!

Rather than admit they got caught, state their reasons, and offer to be better human beings somehow, they instead try to change the subject. To make it all about me.

They go from treating me like their best friend ever, to acting like I'm some kind of cop that shows up at their door with a warrant, and they are guilty as snot.

[Diamonddogz74]

So it looks to me from #1-3 that you have dated people who have no sense of balance and get caught up in their work. #4-6 give me the impression that you are really just looking for drama. Given those, I actually suggest hanging out with #7 and learn to appreciate going nowhere for a short amount of time. Maybe learn to not expect other people to give meaning to your life and find some meaning in your own. Pot can help you do that and help you learn to sort out the bullshit for what it is. Then you'll be able to deal with #4 and #5 and you'll find #1-3 to be too silly to bother with.

[JohnDoe3000]

So you date multiple guys of each of these 7 types and still nothing worked out (so at least 14 guys), maybe you have some issues of your own, just saying...

[Bandit74]

This ^^^

[Nuala]

I think she's just dated 7 guys and these are the reasons they didn't work out.

[JohnDoe3000]

@Nuala

N-of-1 trials, great... ;-)

[Djaaaaaay]

@Nuala Or she's the reason none of these 7 never worked... depends on trueth of it all.

[Djaaaaaay]

Out *

[Nuala]

@Djaaaaaay
Maybe, who knows.

[Nice_Guy_Last]

"Nothing ever bothered him and that bothered me."

How to identify a drama queen.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I was confused about this too. I understand that some people don't realize the importance of certain things and will think that even something big such as losing their home is "no big deal", and I wouldn't want to be with someone who simply didn't care at all, but if it's someone who is simply a laid back person, I would actually prefer that.

[cavmanier]

"My problem with him was that for some reason he would always need to bring his lacrosse stick with him"

lol

[Unit1]

"He was really cool and laid back, nothing ever bothered him but that bothered me so I ended up breaking up with him."

Sound's like me.

You're very picky in my opinion but OK.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Glad I'm not the only one that caught this. I was going DAFAQ?

[SpinningDude69]

Hmm, interesting take on your dating experiences. If you don't mind me asking as it's kind of personal question, for what The criminal went to jail?

Also, If I were you I would become more artistic with naming the types of people you have dated, that would make it even more fun to read. For example here are the few I would probably use:

1. The brainiac - works hard plays hard player
2. The gym rat - Narcissist
4. The bookworm - Ignorantit Person/Ignorant or Ignorant Shiner.
5. The artist - Mr. Mysterious or Bad Viber
6. The criminal - Bad Boy
7. The stoner - Drug Consumer

[G-Daz]

So you dated every type and it's always the guys fault? some women don't understand that logically thinking, we can't always prioritise you in life. It's life, you'll fall in the gutter if you don't get the most important things out the way or you won't go anywhere. They'll be like the last 2 guys you dated that you equally didn't like. They lacked the ambition and drive of the other guys yet you also didn't like the last guys.

Women do not know what they want... at all

[BubbleBoy69]

They do know. They want a tall, hot rich guy who has a business that he goes to sometime to work but doesn't need to because ti runs mostly on its own. He also has strong social connection and know many wealthy people. In addition, he has a big dick, and has lots of money to spend on them.

Women always want the well establish doctor, lawyer and high status male but never want to be around them when their busting their butt to achieve their goal.

[Kraftmuppen]

@BubbleBoy69 Please enlighten me how a 24 year old man who is this bitter when it comes to girls gets an Editor status on here?

[BubbleBoy69]

@Kraftmuppen The same way a mangina who defends women and shame men for speaking out on observe behavior is on here. The register and create an account.

[G-Daz]

@BubbleBoy69 to be honest... some people criticise Trump for not respecting women. I'm not saying he does or doesn't respect women but no offense intended to him but most people wouldn't consider him the most attractive guy. But he is really rich, guys don't have respect for girls that are only interested in them for their money. I'm sure trump doesn't mind fucking them but doesn't have respect for them likewise.

The rest , i don't agree with.

[BubbleBoy69]

We've had discussion about this before in past from an African American gager who spoke about women and ambitious men and how they can't handle them and we see evidence of this in the take above.

She liked the ambitious smart guy and how he excelled in his field but didn't like that him doing it took away time from her. She doesn't seem to realize that things don't come easy and many men work to get to their level of success which many women don't seem to understand. I was addressing your confusion as how women want ambitious men but also want said man to have time for them and make them top priority.

The reality is they want the ambitious men after he's boar fruit of his ambition, meaning after he's become success and well status not before when he's still working to achieve his goals and they aren't top priority.

Hence, as i said women always want the rich doctor, lawyer, engineer but never the students.

[Kraftmuppen]

@BubbleBoy69 Well by that logic I should've also gotten that status shouldn't I? I just think it's interesting that you seem so mad at women for wanting the full package. I think the initial comment from G-Daz was a valid one. Yours, not so much. Also, There's a difference in being a mangina/white knight and someone who loves women in general. I am not partial at all nor am I frustrated with women. I was calling your negativity out, just like you're calling out the women. I am not however, shaming people.

[BubbleBoy69]

@Kraftmuppen If you had any clue about dating/women then you probably would but you don't so point is mute.

As to your other question. I'm not mad and know you can't have the full package in anything in life and women need to realize that. Hence, many older women from failed attempts at this are coming out to tell young women the dreadfulness of trying to have it all.

www.washingtonpost.com/.../...4760ca856_story.html

In any relationship you aren't going to get the perfect spouse and more often than not women don't like this and dump men to look for another who has the quality that was missing when there was zero need to do this. G-Daz was not an argument more like a run down summary of the article with the conclusion women do not know what they want.

[BubbleBoy69]

A mangina is a male who displays female qualities. Your biggest one was your emotional outburst and lack of argument. In addition to resorting to "you must be bitter" which women typically do when a male speaks about them in a negative light.

[Kraftmuppen]

@BubbleBoy69 The first comment you made I agree with for the most part. Women do not know what they want. Because they're emotional people. Your point was that women needlessly dump guys in search of the perfect one or some guy with different good traits while there really is no such thing as the perfect one? Correct? But the way you said listed all those things earlier made you sound very butthurt, maybe you're not but that's how you came across. Also, being understanding and accepting is not a female trait, it's a trait of higher consciousness. I don't know about you but I've read books like "The power of Now" by Eckart Tolle and "The way of the superior man" by David Deida. Key books to developing an understanding for yourself and relationships with other people. I've also seen hours of footage of people who've coached 1000's of guys about success with women. You've read a washingtonpost article.

[Djaaaaaay]

@BubbleBoy69 I don't find that to be true exactly !!

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I am a woman and I have to agree with you. Many of my female friends expect it to be all about them 24/7, but that isn't realistic, nor is it healthy.

[redeyemindtricks]

@BubbleBoy69 "The reality is they want the ambitious men after he's boar fruit of his ambition, meaning after he's become success and well status not before when he's still working to achieve his goals and they aren't top priority."

^^ Lol you're so bitter...

I like how you lay all the blame at the feet of the women -- when you SHOULD fault these newly "successful" men every bit as much, for being fool enough to GO for the kinds of women who DID ignore them before... and are now only giving them the time of day because they're nouveaux riches.

I mean... there are plenty of women who ARE willing to get into a stable, committed relationship with these men while they're still low on the totem pole, and to *help* these men work toward their goals. Sure there are.
If that kind of woman is what these men WANTED... well... that kind of woman is what they absolutely could have had.

... But then, there are also women who are basically gold diggers, and who will ignore these men until they

[redeyemindtricks]

..."make it".
Thing is... THESE women are usually flashier, more overtly seductive, better at attracting male attention, and -- in most cases -- "hotter" (in the typical male view) than those other women who would have been stable partners from the beginning.

If these newly rich guys FALL for the allure of the gold diggers... Dude! Whose fucking fault is that?
Are you SERIOUSLY trying to tell me that you're blaming that all on the women... as though these guys are just hapless victims who can't catch a break?

Puh-LEEEEEEZ

I mean... Gold-digging -- and material avarice in general -- is basically THE WORLD'S EASIEST TRAIT TO DETECT in a person.
NO ONE hides this trait well, EVER. If someone is chasing a partner for "financial security", it will show in absolutely ALL of that person's attitudes and actions that involve money or material goods in ANY way AT ALL.
If some newly rich guy gets stuck with a gold-digger, then, HE ABSOLUTELY KNOWS that he's getting a gold-digger. It's

[redeyemindtricks]

impossible for the guy NOT to know that, unless he is *literally* autistic (or on that spectrum to a sufficient degree that he doesn't have even the slightest ability to read people OR the slightest bit of common sense to infer character traits from people's actions).

I mean... Lol smh.
I'm not personally a gold digger. In fact, I'm as much the opposite as you'll ever find -- I've always had trouble even accepting $5 gifts from someone, and I was super fucking awkward about having even *business* dinners paid for me until my best friend (figuratively) beat some sense into me.
BUT... I can still absolutely see where the gold diggers are coming from, with all this -- and it's honestyl hard to blame them, when you think about it. If you have stupid guys willing to throw a shit-ton of money and security at you, just for basically showing up, looking good, and not being a total social failure... you can understand why a lot of women would choose that route, right?

Smh.

[G-Daz]

i wasn't saying they aren't aware that they are gold diggers. i said they were but that's the reason they lack respect for them. they know they want them for their money so they'll fuck them but don't really place much value in them

[Dargil]

Soo, who's on the to-do list?
The common thread of these stereotypes is that they have something else on his mind rather than being exclusively dependent on you for their self worth. What attracted you to each one? Especially the risky and useless 6 and 7?
My guess is rhere will be many more and nobody will measure up.

[Fathoms77]

As for the last one, stoners never go anywhere in life. It's a standard rule of thumb.

[AhGojira]

I know so many stoners that are software developers/architect, scientists, and engineers...

[AhGojira]

One of them was a valedictorian...

[Raymond_Reddington]

@AhGojira i know one who became a broker. He sells cardboard boxes to homeless people.

[AhGojira]

@Raymond_Reddington Kary Mullis is a pretty famous pothead...

[AhGojira]

But yeah the noble prize is really in the gutter...

[SpinningDude69]

Basically I was going to say something between what @AhGojira have said. I know that if you are good with computer and employed by government for whatever reason, many of such people smokes drugs because it relaxes them and they can focus more on the work. I don't mean all the people who works for government smokes drugs but it tends to happen more to people who have a specific skill-sets with computers and are employed by governments or special agencies like NSA, CIA etc. And yes, some of such agencies even allow such behaviour. Just Sayin'.

[Nice_Guy_Last]

Let's make a clear distinction here: stoners are people obsessed with weed (replace that with alcohol, you would call them an alcoholic).

Sure, you can achieve academic and industrial success as an every day weed user, but when your life revolves around it, you aren't going to contribute very much to society.

[AhGojira]

@Nice_Guy_Last Kary Mullis was on vacation in the appliation mountains relaxing (likely smoking weed or on LSD) when he got the idea for going up and down like the mountains (but in temperature) to get PCR to work. There is biology before Kary Mullis and biology after Kary Mullis... It was that big of a revolution and that's why he won the noble prize in chemistry...

[Nice_Guy_Last]

@AhGojira That's all well and good, but he is not what I would call a stoner. User? Absolutely. But that doesn't inherently make him a stoner, just like drinking a beer every now and then doesn't make me an alcoholic.

[Gommers]

Willing to bet that any artist that you've ever heard of is willing to argue otherwise.

[echoaj]

say that to the president of the united states.

[Izzex3]

Nah. Disagree.

[Donanski]

My boyfriend is a chemist for the UK army, and also a stoner. So I disagree.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

"He was really cool and laid back, nothing ever bothered him but that bothered me so I ended up breaking up with him."

I thought those were positive traits. Unless you were talking about issues in the relationship that he didn't care enough about in which case I understand.

[Alan180188]

the problem is you wanted all of them to change for you, you didn't like the way they are cause you always thought you deserve better than them...
women are lazy they would search for a new man rather than giving him a reason to change, you must know that a man won't change him self unless the girl is really special or he thinks she is the one ! so your reaction was the best cause apparently they were not that much interested or moved by you :)

[frozenhorizon]

I don't think anyone should expect anyone to change themselves, no matter how you are.

[frozenhorizon]

Better idea is get to know the person better before agreeing to be in a relationship with them

[Alan180188]

@frozenhorizon good luck finding mr. perfect ! :D

[frozenhorizon]

?
The idea is to realize that there's going to be some issues with anyone and you want to make sure the things you like about them outweigh the negative before starting a relationship

[Lightspeed-Lemon]

Some of those are really shallow, silly reasons to break up. Like, you broke up with one guy cause nothing bothered him, and another cause he carried his lacrosse stick around? O_______O

[frozenhorizon]

I think it's a bs post haha.

[Saoirse_Nua]

Good take - I try not to put people in types and just date the person - As you say these issues may develop as relationship deepens but I wouldn't discount a type, you may meet one that might change - Anyway you might have a subconscious red flag watch going on so you probably wouldn't initially date a person that displays the qualities of that type - I have never sworn off a type but I probably have a latent bias.

[gmanhotman]

I had a similar thing with a girl. She was kinda a stoner in highschool and her friends were to and one friend had a baby in highschool. But come the end of highschool she ended up going to college for a great program. A program very similar to my personal one. So seeing that wild side but the ability and smarts to go to college and not screw around was crazy attractive!!!

[Gommers]

Op is the kind of girl that will always be used for sex and dumped when she gets pregnant. Shit human

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Sadly, this is true in most cases. I have a friend like this who is a lot like this, and she is always being used by guys for sex.

[JSmuve]

LOL! So what you're saying is that the reason you broke up with them is largely the reason that drew you to them in the first place. That's hilarious.

[bloodmountain1990]

I smoke weed, not as much as I used to, and I live on my own and have a good job. I can give it up when necessary like when I'm looking for a new job. I don't need it to be happy or function by any means.

I've dated girls who smoked weed too. It's not. Requirement for them to but as long as they don't mind that I do it here and there. Only time it's a turn off is if weed or getting fucked up is their priority and they don't have their shit together.