1. GET OUT!
If you're spending half your time complaining about how no one ever loves, likes you, thinks you're attractive, and on and on, and yet you haven't left the house on a Saturday night in three months, how the hell are people supposed to find you? You have to go out on the scene...to actually...be seen!
2. Know Your Worth
I don't care what anybody says, or what anyone tries to tell you that you are or aren't, the person who knows you best, is you. If someone wants to say you're not this or that, or you're too much or too little of this or that for them, f--k em', or rather don't f--k em' because it's so much better to use your time and energy on guys or girls who get it, and get you, not people who want to change you or want to deny your sheer awesomeness.
3. Say Something
Ever stood there thinking...well, the book says, I should wait 3 days to text her if I like her, or maybe he'll think I'm too needy if I call him. What are you five? If you like someone and it seemed like you both had a good time on a date, then call or text or email them. Why do you need to wait? Are you a ghost? Why are you trying to act all mysterious!?! If someone is offended or turned off by you letting them know you had a good time with them and subsequently want to have more good times with them in a timely fashion, maybe they're an idiot, and you should move on.
4. Time Waits For No One
So let's say, you did call/text after the date and it's a week later, no response, and you call again, and get one line of text about how he or she is soooo busy. Then they reschedule, and reschedule, and...okay, yup, now is the time to say, nope.com. This is especially true if it's now 6 weeks later and you get a text asking if you're available. Um, you were....six weeks ago...but you know, now you're soooo busy with trying to meet new people who actually value your time.
5. Don't Take Advice From People Who Have Terrible Relationships (or none at all)
It's so weird how some of your friends who have the worst relationships have something to say about yours or how you should date. It's cool if someone wants to tell you to learn from their mistakes, but not cool if that person continuously ends up in the same bad patterns, but then wants to sit you down and tell it like it is. How can they tell it like it is if they can't even tell what their own it, is?!?
6. Keep An Open Mind
We all have the list of one through twenty things we must have in someone we want to date long term, and heaven forbid, if that other person does not check off all those boxes, oh boy! Yes, there are going to be non-negotiables for you...she hates dogs and you have four of them...he's a smoker, and you're sooo not...but you know you're not perfect, you can't expect others to be. Have that list in mind, but relax it up a little otherwise you may be missing out on some really good people.
7. Don't Lie About Yourself
If you go into a relationship lying about yourself, making up stuff, and denying certain truths about who you are, what happens when the person you're dating falls in love or like..with the lie? You can't then be mad down the road when they don't like "the real you," because they never knew who that person was to begin with.
8. Don't Spend All Your Money
If you're serial dating, it can be exhausting, and expensive. Really think about why you think it's important to continuously blow all your cash on people, many of whom, you never see again. If a person seems to be after your cash, avoid, avoid, avoid. Do some free stuff. Cook a meal. Take a walk on a beach.
9. If you're not having fun, take a break
So many dates, so much of your time, no keepers...take a break. Sometimes you do need to be able to say, I need some me time, and then take it. Dating can be really fun. It can be fun to meet up with new people, with new interests, that seem interested in you, but it can be a lot too, especially if you're dating a lot. Just remember, not to stay in this place for too long.
10. Do Something Different
Dating can get a little formulaic and routine, but if you've fallen into a dating slump, do something different. Try something out of the box, and out of your comport zone, even if that something is upgrading yourself. You'd be surprised what a new hair color, and different type of dress, or going to a different type of concert can do to shake things up.